Online Dating: The way to go or just plain desperate?

six1908

Hi. I figured MFP was the place to bring up such a silly subject, because to be honest, I've met cooler girls on here than I ever have on online dating... go figure. Anyways... have any of you went the online dating route and what was it like for you? Is it the way to go or just a cry of the desperate? I've went on a few dates and it's taken me forever to meet anyone that I was remotely interested in... so it seems to not be working for me. Oh well... just curious how everyone else's experience has been. OH... and just so ya know I've tried... POF, Eharmony, and Match.

Bigbill810

I see a good tool in online dating, but it has it's drawbacks.

You will only get a certain dose of someone. Look at all the pics on our site here. We only pick the ones that we like. In person, you get the whole story, good side, bad side, embarrassment, confidence, etc.

cherylatkwechanged

Nothing wrong with online dating as long as you take precautions. It's just a tool to be used by people who don't have the time to get out there

fishsticks913

I "did" the online dating thing and met the most amazing man. I wont lie and say that I didn't have to go on dates with some of the weirdest people and have to deal with some real losers.... BUT.... I did finally meet a prince and things are going well.
I say, just go with your gut feelings on things.
And I would choose POF over match any day. The whole paying for it didn't chance the people on there.... in my opinion.
Good luck!

Frozen300

No more desperate than trying to find love anywhere else. I'm currently been with my missus for 8 yrs and we discovered each other on Lavalife. Woo, we knocked our first date out of the park, we gotta lie to our friends about it to keep it respectable :bigsmile:

never124get

My boyfriend and I met online. We discovered we had mutual friends and eventually all went out together and we had a connection. We've been together for a little over a year now You can find love anywhere, but for me the internet is easier to actually communicate with people in general since I have really high social anxiety. I'm slowly getting over it but it's work in progress.

sPaRkLiNgLYFE

i think if you're looking to meet someone a social network like this or facebook would probably be better than an actual dating site because people tend to be a little more true to who they are. on a dating website people are trying to hard to be perfect.

glovepuppet

i've met some good guys on dating sites but i've met more guys i like on a porn site.
there's an art to seeing through bs and spotting genuine people, anywhere.

jsimler1

Met my fiancé on plenty of fish and my dad met his new wife on there. It can work, just have to weed few a lot of weirdos!

gerard54

Catfish...

pa_jorg

Hi. I figured MFP was the place to bring up such a silly subject, because to be honest, I've met cooler girls on here than I ever have on online dating... go figure.

That's because you have something (fitness and health lifestyle) in common when you meet here on MFP! When you meet on a dating site, the only thing you know you have in common is that you are both single. With that said, all avenues are just tools for finding someone, so why not use them all simultaneously and see what happens?

Good luck :flowerforyou:

michellelemorgan

I met my husband on OKcupid. It's free and like facebook for single people. It didn't feel desperate at all to me at the time. I think online dating is becoming more and more popular. I did have to meet a lot of people before I met my husband... but I gotta tell you... he's amazing and I'm really happy with him... so in short... no. Online dating doesn't seem desperate to me and I feel it's a very effective way to meet a life partner or even to just meet people to date.

Cr01502

It's fine.

Just make sure you click the box that says:

Looking for casual sex

newtench

Met my wife of 4 plus years now on POF. For me it was not a way to communicate but instead to just get pst that initial "hi." We saw each other, one or two quick message and a call to set the date, never used the site after that but am very thankful.

Chrissysftns

I Met my Fiance On eHarmony

chellebublz

I met my fiance online but not on purpose, no cheesy dating sites and wasn't looking for anything. It just happened and over the process of a year turned into something.

Ribba

I Met my Fiance On eHarmony

There's your answer

Congratulations x

laserturkey

I tried most of those things, but finally met my husband when I decided I was happy to be single and enjoy my life with more autonomy. I wasn't looking for a relationship at all when we met on MySpace through a mutual acquaintance.

allie7383

It didn't work for me after being on and off several (paid) sites. I went on some dates, but nothing panned out. On the flip side, one of my friends met someone on Match and they were married last June. As someone who works night shift and who has to work every other weekend, I don't have many opportunities to get out there so this is one way for someone like myself to get to know someone.

Ge0rgiana

I really don't think it has quite the "looser" stigma it used to back in the day. I forget the statistic, but a large fraction of new relationships begin online these days.

My own personal experience was a mixed bag. Yes, I did meet several major *kitten*, but in the end I found my mate. There's probably no way I would have found him otherwise. Worth it? Totally.

RunningOnPurple

I met my late boyfriend online. Best decision I ever made. We were very happy together. Without having met him, I wouldn't be here right now.