Online Dating: The way to go or just plain desperate?

six1908
six1908 Posts: 99 Member
in Chit-Chat
Hi. I figured MFP was the place to bring up such a silly subject, because to be honest, I've met cooler girls on here than I ever have on online dating... go figure. Anyways... have any of you went the online dating route and what was it like for you? Is it the way to go or just a cry of the desperate? I've went on a few dates and it's taken me forever to meet anyone that I was remotely interested in... so it seems to not be working for me. Oh well... just curious how everyone else's experience has been. OH... and just so ya know I've tried... POF, Eharmony, and Match.
«134

Replies

  • Bigbill810
    Bigbill810 Posts: 117
    I see a good tool in online dating, but it has it's drawbacks.

    You will only get a certain dose of someone. Look at all the pics on our site here. We only pick the ones that we like. In person, you get the whole story, good side, bad side, embarrassment, confidence, etc.
  • cherylatkwechanged
    cherylatkwechanged Posts: 479 Member
    Nothing wrong with online dating as long as you take precautions. It's just a tool to be used by people who don't have the time to get out there
  • fishsticks913
    fishsticks913 Posts: 123 Member
    I "did" the online dating thing and met the most amazing man. I wont lie and say that I didn't have to go on dates with some of the weirdest people and have to deal with some real losers.... BUT.... I did finally meet a prince and things are going well.
    I say, just go with your gut feelings on things.
    And I would choose POF over match any day. The whole paying for it didn't chance the people on there.... in my opinion.
    Good luck!
  • Frozen300
    Frozen300 Posts: 223 Member
    No more desperate than trying to find love anywhere else. I'm currently been with my missus for 8 yrs and we discovered each other on Lavalife. Woo, we knocked our first date out of the park, we gotta lie to our friends about it to keep it respectable :bigsmile:
  • never124get
    never124get Posts: 163
    My boyfriend and I met online. We discovered we had mutual friends and eventually all went out together and we had a connection. We've been together for a little over a year now :smile: You can find love anywhere, but for me the internet is easier to actually communicate with people in general since I have really high social anxiety. I'm slowly getting over it but it's work in progress.
  • sPaRkLiNgLYFE
    sPaRkLiNgLYFE Posts: 609
    i think if you're looking to meet someone a social network like this or facebook would probably be better than an actual dating site because people tend to be a little more true to who they are. on a dating website people are trying to hard to be perfect.
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    i've met some good guys on dating sites but i've met more guys i like on a porn site.
    there's an art to seeing through bs and spotting genuine people, anywhere.
  • jsimler1
    jsimler1 Posts: 168 Member
    Met my fiancé on plenty of fish and my dad met his new wife on there. It can work, just have to weed few a lot of weirdos!
  • gerard54
    gerard54 Posts: 1,107 Member
    Catfish...
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    Hi. I figured MFP was the place to bring up such a silly subject, because to be honest, I've met cooler girls on here than I ever have on online dating... go figure.

    That's because you have something (fitness and health lifestyle) in common when you meet here on MFP! When you meet on a dating site, the only thing you know you have in common is that you are both single. With that said, all avenues are just tools for finding someone, so why not use them all simultaneously and see what happens?

    Good luck :flowerforyou:
  • michellelemorgan
    michellelemorgan Posts: 184 Member
    I met my husband on OKcupid. It's free and like facebook for single people. It didn't feel desperate at all to me at the time. I think online dating is becoming more and more popular. I did have to meet a lot of people before I met my husband... but I gotta tell you... he's amazing and I'm really happy with him... so in short... no. Online dating doesn't seem desperate to me and I feel it's a very effective way to meet a life partner or even to just meet people to date.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    It's fine.

    Just make sure you click the box that says:

    Looking for casual sex
  • newtench
    newtench Posts: 3
    Met my wife of 4 plus years now on POF. For me it was not a way to communicate but instead to just get pst that initial "hi." We saw each other, one or two quick message and a call to set the date, never used the site after that but am very thankful.
  • Chrissysftns
    Chrissysftns Posts: 113 Member
    I Met my Fiance On eHarmony :)
  • chellebublz
    chellebublz Posts: 568 Member
    I met my fiance online but not on purpose, no cheesy dating sites and wasn't looking for anything. It just happened and over the process of a year turned into something.
  • Ribba
    Ribba Posts: 31
    I Met my Fiance On eHarmony :)

    There's your answer

    Congratulations x
  • laserturkey
    laserturkey Posts: 1,680 Member
    I tried most of those things, but finally met my husband when I decided I was happy to be single and enjoy my life with more autonomy. I wasn't looking for a relationship at all when we met on MySpace through a mutual acquaintance.
  • allie7383
    allie7383 Posts: 865 Member
    It didn't work for me after being on and off several (paid) sites. I went on some dates, but nothing panned out. On the flip side, one of my friends met someone on Match and they were married last June. As someone who works night shift and who has to work every other weekend, I don't have many opportunities to get out there so this is one way for someone like myself to get to know someone.
  • Ge0rgiana
    Ge0rgiana Posts: 1,649 Member
    I really don't think it has quite the "looser" stigma it used to back in the day. I forget the statistic, but a large fraction of new relationships begin online these days.

    My own personal experience was a mixed bag. Yes, I did meet several major *kitten*, but in the end I found my mate. There's probably no way I would have found him otherwise. Worth it? Totally.
  • RunningOnPurple
    RunningOnPurple Posts: 119 Member
    I met my late boyfriend online. Best decision I ever made. We were very happy together. Without having met him, I wouldn't be here right now.
  • prettyclara
    prettyclara Posts: 1
    I met my current boyfriend online; but only thing he is still on some of those sites..... :(
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,328 Member
    I did pretty well with online dating....I met my late fiancee and my current b/f that way. Sure, I met some losers and guys only looking for sex. But I also met a lot of interesting people even if they weren't the right person for me. Having said that, it IS easier for women than men on such sites since its usually the guy that has to make the first move. But it also takes time. It took me a year before I found my b/f.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    If you're chatting up and possibly meeting girls from MFP, then you are already online dating. You're welcome.

    How do you like it so far?
  • Spartan_Maker
    Spartan_Maker Posts: 683 Member
    I've never done it, but I'm pretty sure that access to the entire world through the internet will give you more choices than going to your local library or corner bar.

    Rather than rely on a service, find places online where people have similar interests to you.
  • xxnellie146xx
    xxnellie146xx Posts: 996 Member
    I have never done the online dating thing. I have friends who have met people through various sites. From what they have said, people tend to lie, use old pics....basically just be deceitful.

    Just like anything else, it probably takes patience. You aren't going to find the right person in a week. They are crazy people in person and online :laugh:
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    It's fine.

    Just make sure you click the box that says:

    Looking for casual sex

    I prefer the box that says "Stalk me hard"
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I met my husband online 13 years ago. We lived in different states and never would have met each other otherwise. Even way back then, I didn't think of it as a sign of desperation. I just wasn't satisfied with the guys I was meeting in "real life" situations, where it was only about initial physical attraction and sometimes beer goggles. :laugh:

    It's just another option... another way of meeting people. And it's becoming as commonplace as meeting at a bar or club. I remember watching old episodes of the Mary Tyler Moore show from the early 70s on TVLand, when meeting someone at a bar was considered scandalous and reeking of desperation. Times change.
  • taryn_09
    taryn_09 Posts: 196 Member
    ive tried it before, met someone really awesome off POF just didnt workout though. i dont think its a bad idea though, to me its just another way for someone to meet another person. i find its hard now and days to just bump into someone you could potentially date that isnt within your group of friends.
  • taliar93
    taliar93 Posts: 111 Member
    Hubby and I met online, we didn't meet on a dating website, we met on world of warcraft, so I don't know if that counts? but two years and still going strong. As for actual dating websites I know a few men that have tried it and they've met a lot of REALLY crazy chicks.
  • AmazonRDH
    AmazonRDH Posts: 203 Member
    <~~~ Met hubby on Match. yesterday was our 5 year anniversary. :bigsmile: ---I did have some dates with some WTF guys
    , had many many who only wanted to try and get at my goodies, one even picked me up and tried to put me in his car (serial rapist style??? good thing I know how to kick hard in the jewels....) BUT then you find "the one." Not much different than meeting someone in a bar, you never know how they're going to be. Except you've already seen them, a lot of people don't look much like the pics they post on Match or other sites........................ :grumble:

Categories