Not diet related...

k_wills

Kick him to touch!

sonjavon

There's a great line in the movie "Some Kind of Wonderful" that says, "I'd rather be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong reasons".

Far better that you be alone and happy than with someone and miserable. Furthermore - you'll never be able to have successful relationship until you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you can be happy alone. Your girls need to know that mama is strong, self-sufficient and emotionally stable on her own... they'll learn to be strong as well. I spent 5 years single with my son... then I met Prince Charming online and it's been the most amazing relationship ever. We've been married almost 5 years now and the man still knocks my socks off everytime I see him. He's my best friend. You deserve to be as happy as I am... don't settle for less.

♥Faerie♥

Being in a relationship means being equal to each other, being there for each other, supporting one another. It seems that your situation is one sided, only at HIS convenience.... this is not a way to live, I know being alone is scary, but do you really want to waste all your years WAITING for him to find time for you? All us girls need to get it in our head that we are equal to men, and we should never wait, we should never cower, we should never be second in any relationship. Try to be the strong woman that I know is inside you, she's inside all of us, and listen to what she has to say, what her needs are, not his.
If I am not mistaken, aren't you the one that had a post on here about finding porn and talking to some of them that lived locally on your boyfriends computer? Is this the same boyfriend? If so, this guy is not worthy of your time, and you have given to much of your time already. What exactly does this guy contribute in this that makes YOU happy?

delilahthegoddess

IDK.....this is why I'm asking for advice. I know he loves me, but not that way I need to be loved. :sad:

I understand this statement to the core.

acakeforawife

Oh, I just want to give you a big old internet hug. All I can say is ... what if one of your girls was grown up and was in this position? What if you saw this beautiful girl with a huge heart, who was smart and strong and talented, who was with a guy who didn't deserve her, kicker her out of his house, and would never even bother to call her? What would you want your girl to do?

Whatever you want for your girls -- don't accept anything less for yourself. Because they are watching and absorbing, always. Best of luck with whatever you decide.

Elokyn

Oh, I just want to give you a big old internet hug. All I can say is ... what if one of your girls was grown up and was in this position? What if you saw this beautiful girl with a huge heart, who was smart and strong and talented, who was with a guy who didn't deserve her, kicker her out of his house, and would never even bother to call her? What would you want your girl to do?

Whatever you want for your girls -- don't accept anything less for yourself. Because they are watching and absorbing, always. Best of luck with whatever you decide.

Well said!

suziblues2000

Be strong! Be a good example for your daughters!

You deserve to be treated like a queen. You are really pretty!

Dump this guy, he is not giving you what you need.

Good luck to you. :flowerforyou:

tdh302

"So, I have a bf and I'm not getting what I need out of the relationship. Half the time he acts like I don't exist. He barely calls/texts; I'm always the one reaching out to him. I lived with him for one year and then he kicked me and my three girls out. We are now (my girls and I) renting a house. He wants to date for a year and see where things go. He has never mentioned marriage or committment. I'm scared I am wasting my time with this guy."


This is not a loving , mutual relationship by most standards. Don't let your fear of being alone cause you to make maladaptive decision to stay. This relationship is most likely never going to meet your needs. Decide that you are worth more than what you are receiving, develop the courage to do something good for yourself and your children, and move forward. Think of this in terms of food...how many posts have you read about people "knowing what to do and what to eat", but they continue to struggle for fear of "what ifs" and not knowing how things will turn out. With this relationship....you know exactly how it will turn out. It's right there in the quote above my reply.

aippolito1

Don't waste your time!!! I wasted soooo much time on 2 particular guys who weren't into me as much as I was into them and it hindered a beautiful relationship I could have had with someone else!!! It ruined 2 relationships I had with bfs because I was still hung up on them. Don't go through this, girl. It's not worth it. He'll only end up making you cry.

Elokyn

As for my two cents, I'd say he's a jerk but he's not stupid. He's not mature enough for the relationship but he knows what an amazing wonderful woman you are, so he's trying to keep you waiting for him so noone else sweeps you off your feet (which they will when the time is right )

In my opinion you need to drop him.,..he's not going to be anything but a bad example to your girls and a horrible pang in your heart. It will be easier to do now than it will be to do in a year. ~hugz~

byHISstrength

I used to be one of those girls who was looking for love in all the wrong places. I finally came to a point in my life where Jesus WAS enough for me. At that point, I was finally happy with not having a boyfriend and trying to feel like I was worth something based on if I had some guy say he loved me.

About 6 months later I met the man who would become my husband. I did not chose him...he certainly was not my type, but the bottom line is that God, my heavenly Father chose a husband for me...(who knows better than God my needs and wants). Dave, my husband, has been above and beyond what I ever hoped for in a husband. Don't get me wrong, we have our problems just like every other marriage out there, but I KNOW that he was God's PERFECT choice for ME.

My suggestion is to let go of the guy who you are not happy with and focus on becoming a whole person through a personal relationship with Jesus. NO ONE will ever meet all your needs...the man in your life, your husband, your children...NO ONE. Only Jesus can meet all your needs. Trust Him to do that. I know it is hard, but it is sooooo worth it. God is so good! I am overwhelmed just thinking about how good and gracious He is.

I will be praying for you.

FabiolaEnvy♥

this book he's just not that into will change in prospective of men in general
its a great book also its funny in some phrases you might also find it funny


i learned a lot about myself and men in general

DUMP HIM!!!! he isnt worth your time.
im sorry you had to go through that though.

i love you chica. keep strong you will find that man that will love you for entirety

♥seoid♥

thank you all.....i cry daily over this and i'm sick of crying and trying to make this work. i'm about ready to make my decision.

Lisa1971

He sounds like a real tool! Dump him! Don't call, email, or text him again. He'll get the hint. You and your girls deserve better! :flowerforyou:

lina1131

People will treat you how you allow them to treat you.

Kick this *kitten* far away, and go after what you deserve. Being happy alone is the first step...

lcouterm

I've read a lot of people who are putting in "HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU" Reference the simple fact is "HE IS JUST NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU!!" and about him saying "see where it is going BLAH BLAH BLAH", you what they say about " #@*& or get off the pot. Moving on is hard but the rewards can be great.

ron2282

I dated a guy once who told me I was on the "5 year plan", we broke up shortly after. 9 month into dating my husband and I had an engagement ring on my finger. What I'm saying, is that if he really loves you and wants to be with you he wouldn't be playing around with your heart like this.

electricgypsy

you deserve to be happy, its your right and not only do you owe to yourself but your children too. :flowerforyou: no-one who truly cares for you would make you unhappy. there's no shame in being alone for awhile, be brave. :happy:

leavinglasvegas

I'm almost 40 and afraid to start the dating scene again, I'm also afraid to be alone.

This statement right here says to me, "Its time to be alone."

I've been single for about 5-6 years now. I get lots of remarks, offers to "hook" me up, and even asked if I'm a lesbian. This used to really hurt me, I felt like a freak of nature for being alone. But I noticed something. All those people who think I'm wrong for CHOOSING to be single and focus on myself, they are all in and out of one miserable relationship after another. I'm not settling, I know what I want and I can have it because I'm not tied down. When Mr. Right comes along, I'll be mentally, physically, financially, and emotionally ready to jump right in with no reservations. And if it doesn't work, I'll know myself enough to recognize what my needs are and strong enough to walk away if neccessary.

Whats my point? This is your world, your life, and your decision. Women CAN stand alone. We don't need a man on our arm to complete us. When you have mastered being alone.... entertaining yourself, depending on yourself mentally, physically, financially, etc.... only then will you really appreciate being together (with anyone). Because by then, you will want a partner in life, a companion. Right now, you're just looking for a boyfriend because thats what women are supposed to do. Break out of the cycle. Its OK to be alone! Show your kids that women of today are strong and independent and do NOT need to settle for anyone or anything!

Good luck to you! You are so strong and amazing. You can do anything you want to do!

mworld

I'm really sorry to hear about this

I hope you end it swiftly...all the time you waste on the wrong person can cost you a chance encounter with the right person - some things just don't need compromising.