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kkgriggs

HI. Kim.
.I have felt like you before several times. I have "wanted" to lose wieght for years. What I lacked was the desire to do so. I truly believe attitude/mindset/willpower is the key to losing it. So once again I have started my weight lose journey. The difference this time ...besides the physical need and the wanting to... is the mindset I can do it. The big picture I need to lose 100 lbs. The mindset...I am not going to do it by the end of the month...it took years to get this way and will take (almost hate to say it) years to lose it in a healthy way. It is a lifestyle change and I admit I am pretty stuck in my ways. I am breaking them down one by one. If I don't lose a pound but started eating healtier...yeah for me... the weight will come. I think this is how you need to look at your journey. Good luck.
Kim (my name too)

wankesuz

Pray for strength to not give in to temptations everyday. If the temptation is to eat junk food, make a plan when you will have a treat, and sit down and enjoy it with friends. Once a week. Chips, icecream, cookies -- these are NOT things that slim people eat everyday at all.

If your temptation is to not exercise, you must find a time of day that is good, and commit every day to "meet" your exercise buddy. This buddy is you, your tv video, your slimmer self, or God. Commit to this person, even if it is only 10 minutes. Do it.

Love yourself. Easy to say, hard to do. You are a child of God. He has a plan for you. You are important in his eyes.

keeponkickin

YOU have to want to change. Nobody can do this for you. Your body will follow where your mind goes. You have to want to succeed. Quit beating yourself up and do something to change your life. I knew if I didn't change I was going ot die prematurely. Sadly, look around at the senior population. You don't see many obese senior citizens. You don't have to starve yourself. Follow the IPORM program. Eat above BMR and below TDEE and move more.

WBB55

Hi Kim,

The best thing about starting where you're at is that nearly every positive choice you make will have a direct effect on how you feel and the number on the scale. I lost 95 pounds (and gained a smidge bit back when I got some injuries) and it's overwhelming to think of it as a whole. Think of little choices you can make, and just start doing them one at a time. Little things like parking further from your destination (so you have to walk further) or getting off the bus one stop before yours (so you have to walk further) all that kind of thing ads up.

Also think of this: A year from now you could keep doing what you've been doing, and stay the same or gain weight and be less healthy. OR you could start logging your food, moving around a little more, and then a year from now you'll be 50 pounds lighter (or more!). Time is gonna pass either way. Would you rather be healthier a year from now? or stuck where you're at now feeling depressed and hating yourself even more?

There's a lot of great info on this site, and lots of supportive people. Ask questions. Get ideas. Learn new recipes. Learn new tips and habits. Forget the fads, focus on healthy, sustainable choices. Good luck!

keeponkickin

Well when you die from something surely obesity related you won't have to worry about it.

Wow. Stunned at just how real you are.

fixed

Actually, I fixed it myself if you take a look. I realized you weren't trying to be rude, you were trying to smack her with reality. Sorry about that...as you see from my corrected post.

fabulara

I say, change one thing at a time! Write down the steps, and do one a month.

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Recognize it will take a long time--and losing slowly and making lifestyle changes will last longer and be healthier than a crash diet and starving yourself.

There is a saying in Spanish, which I don't really speak, but here goes: "Poco a poco, paso a paso." Little by little, step by step. One small change at a time. It works!

Bethnevergivesup

I dont know if you are reading all the comments but I just want you to know that you are not alone! I finally decided on January 26th this year after I saw a picture of myself at Christmas, that I needed to change my life, and that's what I did. I weighed 290 lbs when I decided enough was enough and I have lost 31 lbs since then. Don't ever give up on yourself it will not be easy in the beginning but it will get better as time goes on, I promise! I thought I could never give up all my favorites and the truth is you dont really have to, you just have to make changes to them! Feel free to add me as a friend and maybe we can help each other! Stay strong because you are worth the fight!

ma2tay2003

i know all about being over weight and feeling down. You just have to find a motivator like mine is I want to be able to run and play sports with my 9 year old daughter.

Yellerie

I started very small this yr instead of a new years resolution I aimed for a new yrs fresh start & I set simple goals I wanted to obtain. Like layoff the soda, minimize the coffee & cut the sugar from it, Eat more fruits & veggies, increase lean protien, be better about taking my meds including vitamins, Walk more & finally the hardest one for me don't weigh in too often. I am happy to say I have done a pretty good job & have lost 25 lbs since the beginning of the yr with this except for the weighing in I still find myself doing this several times a wk which is a really bad habit. Just start small & good luck to you

Cyclingbonnie

I'm far from finished, however I consider myself on my way. There are a lot of people who will say things in a hurtful way, but what they are really saying is wake up and smell the roses. Let's live a better life.

There is no magic here other than support. Make better choices and move. That is the secret. Accept that there will be good and bad days, accept that you are not perfect. It isn't all or nothing, just move through each day. I'm celebrating today because I just hit the 20 pound loss. I still have 80 to go, and I'm going to get there. I don't know how long it is going to take, and frankly I'm not going to worry about that. My goal is to loose a pound a week. Some weeks I loose more and some I loose less. One week I even gained. So what, I'm going in the right direction and I'm happy again. You can be too.

cuterbee

Sometimes you just have to do what you know needs doing, even if it's a big slog to start out with.

It took you a while to get to this point, and it's not going to go away overnight. But it will never go away at all if you don't take steps to change. Time is going to go by whether you change or not, and you can't change the past...but in THIS moment, right now, you have a choice. Take the choice that's going to make you happier as time goes by.

You CAN do this, and there are lots of people here to help support you.

thecakelocker

Be patient, don't starve yourself, and look at the small numbers. You might not think you can lose 100lbs, but you can lose 10lbs. And then you can lose another 10, and before you know it you'll be there.

Above all -- BE PATIENT. I started at 274. I have been there. It sucks. But starving yourself, obsessing over a single day of overeating, torturing yourself over having a dessert -- THIS WILL GET YOU NOWHERE. Just be patient, stick to your goals more often than not, and don't beat yourself up over mistakes.