He called off the wedding....

cakemewithyou
cakemewithyou Posts: 132 Member
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So what I'm about to tell you, is going to seem kind of crazy.
I'm not trolling, this is seriously happening in my life right now!

My sister, 18 young, beautiful, and full of lots of life...has been for the last several months, engaged.
This guy she has been engaged to left for military camp last August, although he got sent home due to an injury.
During his stay at this military camp, he asked my sister to marry him.
When he came home in December, he gave her the ring.

"AWWWWWWWW, HOW SWEET!"
I think not.

I'm thinking to myself, why in the world is MY mother, of all people, APPLAUDING THIS?!
Yes, some of us (very few) fall in love with our high school sweet hearts, and ride off together in the sunset...
However, their relationship has NEVER been good.
They fight constantly, neither of them had jobs until a week ago, and they both are in a selfish stage of life.

After my parents bought my sisters wedding (they just paid the last half of the venue off 3 weeks ago)
this guy starts being super sketchy...to the point that he tells my sister that he doesn't want to live anymore (like suicide, people)...
Long story short, he ends up in a psyche ward all so the specialist could laugh in his face and say, "There is nothing wrong with you. You're in an unhealthy relationship. If you need the law to help you get your stuff out of their house, it can be arranged."
TOTALLY LIVID.

This fool called off the wedding, broke my sisters heart, wasted A FREAKIN BUTT TON of my parents money...

and guess what?

THEY ARE TALKING AGAIN.

LIKE NOTHING EVER HAPPENED.

LIKE ALL IS RIGHT IN THE WORLD.

Am I the only one who thinks this is insane?!!?!
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  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
    Mind ya bidness.


    (seriously though)
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    Morrissey says it best: "It's my life to ruin my own way"
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    Long story short, he ends up in a psyche ward all so the specialist could laugh in his face and say, "There is nothing wrong with you. You're in an unhealthy relationship. If you need the law to help you get your stuff out of their house, it can be arranged."
    TOTALLY LIVID.

    What.
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    What Dani said...nothing good will come of this...

    just mind ya bidness....
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    Mind ya bidness.


    (seriously though)

    For real stay out of grown psychos bidness leave it alone and be happy to know you are now the favorite sister.
  • cakemewithyou
    cakemewithyou Posts: 132 Member
    Mind ya bidness.


    (seriously though)

    Might I mention, I have not said a single word to them about what I think about the situation.
    Business has been minded.
  • anneerick
    anneerick Posts: 147 Member
    It's your sister so I see how you feel the need to help or get involved. But you may end of hurting the relationship you have with her.... let her figure this one out on her own.
  • cakemewithyou
    cakemewithyou Posts: 132 Member
    It's your sister so I see how you feel the need to help or get involved. But you may end of hurting the relationship you have with her.... let her figure this one out on her own.

    I guess I should have stated that in my original post, but I have no intentions of getting involved...

    I'm a wallflower.

    :flowerforyou:
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    Mind ya bidness.


    (seriously though)

    Might I mention, I have not said a single word to them about what I think about the situation.
    Business has been minded.

    ok ...so then by virtue of your question ...are you the only one that thinks this is insane?

    no...probably not....lots of people may find it insane....most days I find the idea of even getting married in the first place insane...

    but yeah...let em do what they will do...
  • Bakkasan
    Bakkasan Posts: 1,027 Member
    You aren't crazy, and super kudos for keeping out of it. That's the hard part, but she's gotta make her own mistakes as long as her life isn't in danger.

    Of course, parents shouldn't spend a dime this time around.
  • mefit87
    mefit87 Posts: 57 Member
    I know it's hard to see a loved one be involved in a toxic relationship, but at the end of the day there is nothing you can say or do that will change your sister's feelings for someone. Sometimes the best thing to do is to tell her how you feel once, and then let it go. We all have to make our own mistakes and learn from them... and some of us have to make the same mistake a few times to get it. Trust me... I've been one of those people in the past ....
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    All I have to say is good job staying out of it. Seriously. I bet that's rough, but nothing good can come of getting involved where crazies don't want you. :/
  • cakemewithyou
    cakemewithyou Posts: 132 Member
    This is my first time saying anything to anyone, besides driving my boyfriend crazy about it, but seriously I HAD to get it out! Ask the internet (God forbid) if I'm losing my mind, or am I seeing this straight.
    I was trying to find a way to make the situation sound better in my mind, but really...there is no way!
    I've never liked him, but now even mentioning his name makes me sick! EWWWWWWWWWW!
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    They're young. Young people are kind of dumb. Loads of us make really dumb choices that temporarily ruin our lives when we're young and dumb. If your sister has a reasonable amount of common sense and her family doesn't shun her for making a dumb teenager mistake, she'll be just fine in a few years.
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
    Meh, they're 18 and in puppy love.


    Of course she's acting crazy and he's certifiable . . .
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Mind ya bidness.


    (seriously though)

    This.

    Plus it is your parents money, not yours. And your sisters relationship. Dont be upset over someone elses problem.
  • fara180
    fara180 Posts: 1,260 Member
    as i sister, i can see where you are coming from. it is really hard to stand by and watch someone you love do something that you are uncomfortable with/and or/think is a mistake. it sucks even worse to have to stand by and watch a loved one get hurt over and over again... i get it. i see my sister do stupid *kitten* everyday and vice versa. we used to butt into each others business and it would always end in a fight with both of us being pissed off and with no problems resolved.

    i know it's hard...but try to stay out of it. if she asks for your advice and/or opinion, give it but if not, keep your comments to yourself. just remember that she is responsible for her own life now and is perfectly capable of making the right decisions for herself..and if not, she'll learn. we all do.

    #beentheredonethat
  • cakemewithyou
    cakemewithyou Posts: 132 Member
    Mind ya bidness.


    (seriously though)

    This.

    Plus it is your parents money, not yours. And your sisters relationship. Dont be upset over someone elses problem.

    I do what I want!
  • Cadori
    Cadori Posts: 4,810 Member
    Mind ya bidness.


    (seriously though)

    Might I mention, I have not said a single word to them about what I think about the situation.
    Business has been minded.

    Pretty sure the past tense of mind is mound. YWVM.
  • stephendamour
    stephendamour Posts: 161
    If this is the worst of your worries consider yourself lucky.

    First world problems for sure.
  • ShreddedTweet
    ShreddedTweet Posts: 1,326 Member
    I have three sisters, I wasn't over the moon with some of their choices some of the time.

    Your sister is only 18, there's no sane reason for getting married so young.

    She'll learn that lesson the easy way or the hard way but it's her lesson to learn.
  • sliferghost
    sliferghost Posts: 10
    Morrissey says it best: "It's my life to ruin my own way"

    In this case she ruined somewhat of her parents life to, since they paid for the wedding.
  • cakemewithyou
    cakemewithyou Posts: 132 Member
    ...I don't know why some of these comments are so brash. Just because it's not my life, does NOT mean I shouldn't care or be concerned. What kind of sister would I be if I didn't care?
    Obviously some of you aren't very family oriented.
    As I've said in like 3 other responses, I do not plan on getting involved.
  • Cadori
    Cadori Posts: 4,810 Member
    I will say if my little sister was getting engaged at 18, especially in a relationship like you described, I'd contemplate keeping her locked up for a few years.
  • cakemewithyou
    cakemewithyou Posts: 132 Member
    If this is the worst of your worries consider yourself lucky.

    First world problems for sure.

    LOL I would hate to see what your life is like then.
  • reasnableblonde
    reasnableblonde Posts: 212 Member
    My youngest brother ruined his life with the completely insane girl he's chosen to be with. I wasn't supportive, and now I'm completely out of his life... not that it would be peaches and sunshine having him only call to demand money and help. Seriously, his life is a Jerry Springer episode if I ever saw one. Getting remotely involved can lead to damage.

    Sit back, keep your mouth closed, and be glad it's not your life. You're able to see how insane it is and walk away from it. Imagine what it's like to be in the middle of it and think it's just fine. /shudder
  • cakemewithyou
    cakemewithyou Posts: 132 Member
    I will say if my little sister was getting engaged at 18, especially in a relationship like you described, I'd contemplate keeping her locked up for a few years.

    It works for some people...just not for this "couple".
    lol

    Also...
    mound isn't grammatically correct either.

    but if you insist...

    I am minding my own business.*
  • Jewles1285
    Jewles1285 Posts: 119
    ...I don't know why some of these comments are so brash. Just because it's not my life, does NOT mean I shouldn't care or be concerned. What kind of sister would I be if I didn't care?
    Obviously some of you aren't very family oriented.
    As I've said in like 3 other responses, I do not plan on getting involved.

    Listen, i can totally feel where you are coming from, as a younger sister who has made some not so great choices at a young age of 18-21, who has an older sister with the SAME concerns and family moral as you, I GET IT!!!! Dont bother with these people telling you to mind your "bidness". Its healthy to a point for you to be concerned for the well being of your beloved sister!!! Thats what families are for!!!! As for my older sister, she stayed out of it until it concerned my long term well being such as marriage to a psycho and then she stepped in and let me hear her full blown opinion and then let me lead my own life! But thats the kind of relationship she and i have! I wish the best of luck to you and your family!
  • servilia
    servilia Posts: 3,452 Member
    Sorry you have to deal with that. Honestly I wouldn't blame you for getting involved and having a talk with your sister. IMO one of the things wrong with this society is this idea that even family members should keep their nose out of their family members' business. That's BS. Isn't family about looking out for each other? Sure if it was some acquaintance I might sit back and watch but when you see a sister/brother etc make decisions that could have long term bad effects then you're right to butt in. It may not make you popular for a while but so what? At least you did something to possibly help her and talk some sense into her.
  • Cadori
    Cadori Posts: 4,810 Member
    I will say if my little sister was getting engaged at 18, especially in a relationship like you described, I'd contemplate keeping her locked up for a few years.

    It works for some people...just not for this "couple".
    lol

    That young works for very few and virtually none in that volatile a relationship. Hence why I said "especially in a relationship like you described".

    Also...
    mound isn't grammatically correct either.

    facepalm. THAT was a joke.

    If you're going to take issue with the people who are supporting your distaste of the situation you're going to find yourself very lonely indeed.

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