How do you feel about your S/O watching porn?

oudixon

I have no problem with the other person watching porn.... As long as it doesn't hinder the relationship.

I also don't mind watching it with them or anyone at all. It can be fun and entertaining as well as funny.

98by2014

I watch it for the stories. It's really upsetting how Jorge's not admired for his hard work and intellect by his mean boss lady.

And Johnny never seems to get an actual cash tip, even tho he always gets the pizza there on time! I only watch because I am waiting for Johnny to get his first tip.

And OMG! How does she stay so skinny? That's a lot of damn pizza.

It is a lot of pizza, but she works out a lot because I saw the episode where she was at the gym. Although I'm not sure what certification her personal trainer has because those were certainly some unorthodox workouts. I've heard of NSM, ACE and NASM for personal training, but apparently there's an ATM certification too?

I also find it odd how often that girls cable goes out..... I think they need to look into a new cable company.

You know what I don't understand? why her pool get's so freaking dirty so quickly!

littlebre33

My boyfriend watches it every so often, and I don't mind at all. I think it's funny because he deltes the history on the computer when he does. But I think it's normal for anyone to watch porn. Myself, not interested.

TigressPat

My husband an I do not allow porn into our marriage. We look as marriage and sex as a Holy thing God has set apart between husband and wife and its to create oneness and intimacy between each other. We believe when Jesus said "if a man looks at a woman and even lusts after her in her heart he commits adultery.." (Obviously is works the other way around for women) it lets in sin or gives satan a foothold in our marriage that drives us apart instead of bringing us together like God intends. I knoe this will not be te popular answer but I wanted to add my 2 cents we are born again christians so I guess you could say its for moral reasons yea. I've seen porn and addiction to porn cause to many destroyed relationships...

:laugh:

Was there a point to your laughing at this? Did anyone else presenting their serious answer get laughed at?

Imagine what your sex life would be like if every time you wanted to see someone naked, wanted to get off, wanted to try something new... you did it with your spouse? Yeah, you'd have a lot more sex. That's kinda the idea here.

it's funny.

jbutterflye

I have no issue with porn unless it involves minors or unwilling participants. I don't mind him watching it. Sometimes I like to watch it. Sometimes I like to watch it together. I also don't care if he goes to a strip club. He's not into that so it's a moot point, but in the past he's gone a couple of times with friends and I didn't care at all. I'm pretty tolerant and easy going though. I don't sweat the small stuff and I think most things are small stuff.

Edited to add: I also have no problem with lust, desire or attraction. I think it's natural to be attracted to many different people. Heard a quote in a movie recently: "we're just a bunch of fancy animals doing what animals do". I like that quote.

HerBravado

I watch it on my own, he watches it on his own, we watch it together and also make our own.

^

Ascolti_la_musica

My husband an I do not allow porn into our marriage. We look as marriage and sex as a Holy thing God has set apart between husband and wife and its to create oneness and intimacy between each other. We believe when Jesus said "if a man looks at a woman and even lusts after her in her heart he commits adultery.." (Obviously is works the other way around for women) it lets in sin or gives satan a foothold in our marriage that drives us apart instead of bringing us together like God intends. I knoe this will not be te popular answer but I wanted to add my 2 cents we are born again christians so I guess you could say its for moral reasons yea. I've seen porn and addiction to porn cause to many destroyed relationships...

Here's another woman who has obviously not read her "holy" book.
Genesis 4:19
12:13-19
16:2-4
19:30-38
20:2-12
25:1-6

I could go on, but perhaps you will argue that all that filthy pornography is just in the "old testament" and not what "jesus" taught.

You're right. "Jesus" taught that "If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple." Luke 14:26.

I'm so sorry that you hate your life and everyone in it so much that you want to follow this literary figure who stands for slavery, violence, etc. If your husband is also christian, I'm sorry he hates you so much.

"Holy" books are some of the most pornographic material ever written!

veggiehottie

I watch it on my own, he watches it on his own, we watch it together and also make our own.

^

Couldn't have said it better.

SheriBethB

As long as it isn't interfering with our sex life, I dont care. I had a bigger issue with it when I was heavier.

366to266

90% of online porn (I haven't never seen any other type for 2-+ years) is very woman-hating.

What it presents as "sex" isn't actually mutually satisfying sex between two people - it's the abuse of women by men for men's viewing pleasure. It scares me that this is what men want to see. What does it tell us about their true inner selves?

It teaches men to hate women and to put their health and safety in danger. Women are just toys and things, objects to be spat on, slapped, gagged, used and abused.

And if women don't want to join in watching it then acting out what they have seen, they are uptight and uncool.

My objection to porn isn't that it's about sex, it's that it's about violence to women.

The most worrying thing is that the next generation of boys AND girls are learning from porn that the violent abuse of girls by men is what sex is all about.

RandiLandCHANGED

We both watch it.

rockerbabyy

I have no problem with porn...in fact, i probably watch more than my husband does, at times. I think anyone that feels the need to constantly spyon their s/o needs to re-evaluate their relationship.
There was a point in my relationship, early on, when i was heavier and more insecure...hubby wathing porn really bothered me. I felt he was replacing me and i didnt like it. We talked it out. Sometimes he just wanted to *kitten*. Nothing against me, just something different. Part of that is that hes simply male..part of it stems from other relationships he'd been in. Now sometimes we watch it together, sometjmes apart. Sometimes we make our own. Its all good ;D
I think porn can be healthy as long as everyones on the same page. If its causing problems, the issue usually isnt porn itself - but it should be figured out.

Mustang_Susie

90% of online porn (I haven't never seen any other type for 2-+ years) is very woman-hating.

What it presents as "sex" isn't actually mutually satisfying sex between two people - it's the abuse of women by men for men's viewing pleasure. It scares me that this is what men want to see. What does it tell us about their true inner selves?

It teaches men to hate women and to put their health and safety in danger. Women are just toys and things, objects to be spat on, slapped, gagged, used and abused.

And if women don't want to join in watching it then acting out what they have seen, they are uptight and uncool.

My objection to porn isn't that it's about sex, it's that it's about violence to women.

The most worrying thing is that the next generation of boys AND girls are learning from porn that the violent abuse of girls by men is what sex is all about.

Agree. With the widespread use of the Internet by younger and younger children, porn will have a devastating impact on their lives.
It's sickening.

glovepuppet

Women are just toys and things, objects to be spat on, slapped, gagged, used and abused.

i've never watched porn. it's dull as! i still prefer my bedroom life to be nice & violent & degrading.

skinnyinnotime

It has nothing to do with what your age is!

What's the big deal, he watches it, I watch it.

There's more important stuff to get worked up about.

jbutterflye

It has nothing to do with what your age is!

What's the big deal, he watches it, I watch it.

There's more important stuff to get worked up about.

Haha, you said the same thing I did but with fewer words. :drinker:

skinnyinnotime

It has nothing to do with what your age is!

What's the big deal, he watches it, I watch it.

There's more important stuff to get worked up about.

Haha, you said the same thing I did but with fewer words. :drinker:

Ahh so much in common...that's why we're friends :flowerforyou:

dezcast

90% of online porn (I haven't never seen any other type for 2-+ years) is very woman-hating.

What it presents as "sex" isn't actually mutually satisfying sex between two people - it's the abuse of women by men for men's viewing pleasure. It scares me that this is what men want to see. What does it tell us about their true inner selves?

It teaches men to hate women and to put their health and safety in danger. Women are just toys and things, objects to be spat on, slapped, gagged, used and abused.

And if women don't want to join in watching it then acting out what they have seen, they are uptight and uncool.

My objection to porn isn't that it's about sex, it's that it's about violence to women.

The most worrying thing is that the next generation of boys AND girls are learning from porn that the violent abuse of girls by men is what sex is all about.

So are you saying that lets say I enjoy being gagged, slapped and abused that it's wrong? Its my personal sexual preference. Just because SOME porn shows that doesnt mean anything. Ive seen porn with people both enjoying themselves. And what about porn when there is only a girl by herself involved? there's nothing wrong with that. Please don't judge people who's sexual experiences include getting that dirty. Im one of those people

AliciaStinger

Love this topic...I actually checked it out because I thought it would be more controversial, but it looks like most posters so far are okay with it. I also don't think it's a generational thing, exactly; I think that most people are who they are (in interests and most major values/beliefs) from teen years until death. I agree from my experiences that more young people are okay with porn/S.O.'s watching porn, but maybe it's because they haven't had as many real-life experiences, and haven't developed hang-ups and jealousy issues. On the other hand, I have quite a few friends in their 50's through 70's who don't seem the least bit opposed to checking out what other people are ...up... to. I think the bottom line is that it has to do with how a person was raised, and how comfortable that person is with his/her relationship and sexuality.

I watch porn. If I had an S.O. who wanted to watch porn, why would I try to stop him? He'd probably do it anyway, and worse, he'd be doing it behind my back. I like honest relationships; I wouldn't want to make him feel like he couldn't be honest with me. Maybe it's something that interests him that he wouldn't actually be comfortable doing in real life. Maybe he's just watching for kicks and giggles. Maybe he just wants to get it done. Whatever the case, I see it as completely harmless. Sometimes people just like some "alone time"...I know I do. :blushing:

The only objection I would have is if it got more time and attention than I did. If I start getting "I already took care of it" regularly (and "regularly" is to be defined and possibly redefined at my discretion, if necessary...) THEN it may become an issue. Otherwise, enjoy!

Edit - when I started writing this, there wasn't even one full page of replies.

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