do I have the right to be irritated?

Tysonlovesweights
Tysonlovesweights Posts: 139 Member
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okay, so basically it's like this. I am at the gym this morning doing my workout, at one point I am doing some step ups onto a bench that is about 30 inches high, with 3 lengths of chain across my shoulders for weight. there is a guy at one of the power racks beside me doing DL's at 225, which I can do no problem. I have head phones in but nevertheless, this guy starts talkking to me. the first thing he says is " that looks like a good exercise for my wife to do......she sits a a desk all day" WTF!!! I am in the gym sweating myself into a puddle trying to do a hard workout, and at the end of a set of 25 per side weighted step ups, this dude basically says hey that looks so easy my completely unfit wife could do it (paraphrasing obviously, but that is the gist the way i heard it) I am doing the step ups as part of a pretty intense routine, and the chains weigh nearly 50 lbs. I go hard enough that i get a stitch in my side while doing the exercise, so my question is this: do you think the guy meant it the way i perceived it? and would something like that irritate you, or am I just an insecure %$#@% with a tendency to over react. Remember, I was wearing headphones when he came over, so he should know already that I am not up for chit chat......thats just standard gym etiquette.
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  • XtyAnn17
    XtyAnn17 Posts: 632 Member
    If you were wearing headphone how did you hear him?
  • Tysonlovesweights
    Tysonlovesweights Posts: 139 Member
    he was standing right in front of me with his mouth opening and closing so i took one side off to hear if maybe he was telling me the building was on fire or something else important!
  • ericmessier
    ericmessier Posts: 235 Member
    Who cares? Move on.
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    Could it be possible that he saw that was, in fact, only part of your routine and was specifically talking about just the step-ups for his wife? I think you're over-reacting, personally.
  • coliema
    coliema Posts: 7,646 Member
    You should have asked him what he meant by that.
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,486 Member
    Who cares? You don't know him. Brush it off and just put the annoyance and anger into your workout. Sometimes there are huge jerks in the gym. Not everyone knows how to make friends and are just as##oles. :)
  • doc800
    doc800 Posts: 148
    I agree with you but I give every one the benefit of the doubt the first time. My guess is he wanted to say something nice but the guy gene screwed it all up. Being a male I can say that lol. Thus my rule don't speak unless spoken too.
  • TheSwoleMinister_deleted
    TheSwoleMinister_deleted Posts: 540 Member
    Well I think you have the right to be irritated, pissed off, happy, sad, whatever. But I agree with Eric. Move on like it never happened. By holding onto it you just give the guy power over you.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    No, you don't.


    Let it go...
  • laughingdani
    laughingdani Posts: 2,275 Member
    You should have offered to give his wife personal training. *wink wink*
  • shells1234
    shells1234 Posts: 64 Member
    Was he trying to be funny? Some people have a weird since of humor!! I would be irritated, but then I would let it go life's to short!!
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    I think he spent the better part of a day quietly plotting the perfect comment that would derail all your efforts and send you into a shame spiral.

    OR he just thought that was a cool exercise you were doing, like he said.
  • sbbhbm
    sbbhbm Posts: 1,312 Member
    " that looks like a good exercise for my wife to do......she sits a a desk all day"

    I am taking it to mean he thinks it would be a good exercise for his wife to do because she sits all day, and he thinks it would help her to not look like she sits at a desk all day.
  • NancyStree
    NancyStree Posts: 89 Member
    maybe you should of said hey why don't you try this and really see if your wife can do it!!!
  • jesindc
    jesindc Posts: 724 Member
    Some people are socially awkward and things come out in a way they did not necessarily mean them to come out.

    But to answer your question, if someone said that to me, yes, it would irritate me so I'd ask for clarification (um... your wife must be one heck of a body-builder!)
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    Are you guys competing for something? Who cares who lifts more.
    Maybe the guy was an *kitten*, maybe it just came out wrong. Laugh it off.
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    I think he spent the better part of a day quietly plotting the perfect comment that would derail all your efforts and send you into a shame spiral.

    OR he just thought that was a cool exercise you were doing, like he said.

    or maybe his wife doesn't like working the weights and he thought that this may look like a cool enough alternative that she would be down for it, not realising she's working as hard...

    who knows.......I wouldn't overreact, that's a reaction strangers aren't entitled to from me.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    Feel whatever you want to feel.

    But don't tell me about it.
  • Tysonlovesweights
    Tysonlovesweights Posts: 139 Member
    Well I think you have the right to be irritated, pissed off, happy, sad, whatever. But I agree with Eric. Move on like it never happened. By holding onto it you just give the guy power over you.

    I am done with it now, but it bugged me for quite a few minutes afterwards, I did put that negative energy back into my workout, and am hella sore now. just wondered what my fellow MFP'ers thought about it. I am just a little over conscious of other people at the gym right now, because I just started working out again recently after a long time off
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    okay, so basically it's like this. I am at the gym this morning doing my workout, at one point I am doing some step ups onto a bench that is about 30 inches high, with 3 lengths of chain across my shoulders for weight. there is a guy at one of the power racks beside me doing DL's at 225, which I can do no problem. I have head phones in but nevertheless, this guy starts talkking to me. the first thing he says is " that looks like a good exercise for my wife to do......she sits a a desk all day" WTF!!! I am in the gym sweating myself into a puddle trying to do a hard workout, and at the end of a set of 25 per side weighted step ups, this dude basically says hey that looks so easy my completely unfit wife could do it (paraphrasing obviously, but that is the gist the way i heard it) I am doing the step ups as part of a pretty intense routine, and the chains weigh nearly 50 lbs. I go hard enough that i get a stitch in my side while doing the exercise, so my question is this: do you think the guy meant it the way i perceived it? and would something like that irritate you, or am I just an insecure %$#@% with a tendency to over react. Remember, I was wearing headphones when he came over, so he should know already that I am not up for chit chat......thats just standard gym etiquette.


    I just want to summarize and make sure that I understand.....

    You were doing step-ups with < 100 lbs and want us to feel bad for you because someone else questioned how hard it was?







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  • TLCorsini
    TLCorsini Posts: 78
    Yeah I would be irritated too. Not to defend him, but alot of times people (men) say things, and the way they think it sounds is totally opposite! I'm sure he was trying to say that his wife is a beginner into fitness and that looks like a good workout for her, without knowing that what he said can be interpreted in a rude way. I personally don't like going to the gym (its always filled with model looking people) and especially HATE when people try and talk to me. I'm on THESE types of websites to find motivation and friends, NOT the gym.
  • wareagle8706
    wareagle8706 Posts: 1,090 Member
    If you're getting a stitch in your side you aren't breathing right.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,421 Member
    I don't know, but there is entirely too much talking in general in gyms.
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    I don't know why her having a desk job means she must be unfit? It wouldn't have bothered me, I don't work out so that others can watch in awe at how hard my moves are.
  • Tysonlovesweights
    Tysonlovesweights Posts: 139 Member
    I think he spent the better part of a day quietly plotting the perfect comment that would derail all your efforts and send you into a shame spiral.

    OR he just thought that was a cool exercise you were doing, like he said.

    haha, it didn't derail me, i just pushed that much harder, but yeah, i don't hink he meant it in a negative way, i just took it that way:
    moving on........
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I'm thinking more that it was something he'd like to see his wife doing. In other words, it was admiration. If you take it as anything other than that, then you may want to grab some Midol.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    LOL I took it as he was checking you out feeling guilty about it cuz he's not attracted to his desk job wifey.
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    Stupid is as stupid does
  • theCarlton
    theCarlton Posts: 1,344 Member
    Right to be irritated denied.

    Just kidding. Seriously? Why would you care what some stranger from the gym thinks? If it was meant to be insulting, it says a lot more about him than it does about you.
  • babydiego87
    babydiego87 Posts: 905 Member
    " that looks like a good exercise for my wife to do......she sits a a desk all day"

    I am taking it to mean he thinks it would be a good exercise for his wife to do because she sits all day, and he thinks it would help her to not look like she sits at a desk all day.
    this. wtf OP, i think he was just being conversational... :huh:

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