In love with relative of Deceased spouse.

n2thenight24

Scenario. Man dies, the two closest people to him wife and cousin (of the husband, not the wife you sickos), who is also his best friend; and resembles him very much, remain close. Bonded over this tragic loss. Wife and Husband have one child in common. Fast forward 6 or 7 years, wife and cousin realize that they have fallen in love with each other. Do they act on these feelings? Ignore them? For the wife, is this man just a pseudo replacement for the husband she so suddenly lost and so completely misses? Also, I wish I could say this is a hypothetical situation, but it is not, and I will pick and choose the advice that I relay.

Go....

mlclarke22

To say that it is 6 or 7 years later and they are now in love its not a bad thing. Time has passed..they were there for eachother through the tragedy and reamined close. I would say that it is ok...he isn't trying to replace her husband..and he certainly isnt a rebound if it has been this length of time. Hope it works out for them.

sixout

I thought you meant like, falling in love with a deceased relative of a spouse. Misread the title. That would be far more interesting.

Lisa1971

To say that it is 6 or 7 years later and they are now in love its not a bad thing. Time has passed..they were there for eachother through the tragedy and reamined close. I would say that it is ok...he isn't trying to replace her husband..and he certainly isnt a rebound if it has been this length of time. Hope it works out for them.

THIS!

n2thenight24

I thought you meant like, falling in love with a deceased relative of a spouse. Misread the title. That would be far more interesting.

Hmmmm, feeling a little necrophilia-ish today Six?

catrinaHwechanged

Life is too short to give a crap what others think. If it makes you both happy then go for it!!

cmriverside

Why not? I'm surprised they waited 6-7 years.

n2thenight24

Why not? I'm surprised they waited 6-7 years.

My sentiments exactly.

Scott2ndGradeTeacher

Is this the pilot for ABC's "Deceased Housewives"?

sixout

I thought you meant like, falling in love with a deceased relative of a spouse. Misread the title. That would be far more interesting.

Hmmmm, feeling a little necrophilia-ish today Six?

Today?

moustache_flavored_lube

devilwhiterose

Go for it.

n2thenight24

I thought you meant like, falling in love with a deceased relative of a spouse. Misread the title. That would be far more interesting.

Hmmmm, feeling a little necrophilia-ish today Six?

Today?

Ohhhh, that explains the whole "will you lay in the big tub of ice for me baby?" thing.

sixout

Don't forget to wrap yourself in rotting meat first. It really adds to the appeal.

n2thenight24

Btw, you lose the dance off.

sixout

It's not noon yet.

n2thenight24

You're cutting it pretty darn close.

sixout

I'm just going to blame it on the weather.

KANGOOJUMPS

steamy.

MyChocolateDiet

Yes. Go for it. They've already wasted 5-6 years. It's time to get on with the show. There may be some people who talk, but talk is cheap. Rent isn't. And love is not around every corner. If the attraction and feelings are there why go looking for a needle in a haystack. Nobody is a blood relation it's fine.

ItsCasey

I think it might be prudent to solicit the opinion of the child. It's one thing to re-marry after your spouse's death. It's entirely another to marry your spouse's cousin and best friend who has, presumably, been in the child's life forever as a relative and not as a father figure.

beach_please

Wow. That's definitely a weird situation but I think they should give it a try. Since you said the cousin was also the best friend of the husband, he probably already loves the child like his own. And bringing a brand new person in to step into the role of stepparent could be tumultuous. One of my worst fears is that, if something were to happen to me and my husband remarried, that his new wife would be a bad stepmother to my boys. And then I'd have to her.

runs4zen

Why is this even a concern? Spouse died many many years ago; it's not incest in any way; the kid will grow up and move away and then what? They should be alone because the kid may not want them together?

Look, you love each other? It's a freak show out there dating wise. If you find a great mate, go for it.

Guns_N_Buns

Only if the spouse REALLY IS DEAD. You don't want a Pearl Harbor situation on your hands...

RainHoward

life is short and love is too hard to find. go for it.

1ConcreteGirl

I saw this movie.

I forget the end, but I think it worked out.

Alex_is_Hawks

6-7 years and the feelings still there?

yeah...time has passed, they are ok....just do it.

plynn54

I have a cousin whos wife was sick and dying with cancer, her sister moved in, the wife dies...sister never moved out and is now married to my cousin. They are in their late 60's, why not

melsmith612

Please watch the show Rescue Me and then do exactly the opposite of whatever they did in this EXACT same situation.... that's my advice.

HealthWoke0ish

No right or wrong answer. But if I was in this position, I'd think if this much time had passed and feelings had grown stronger instead of dissipated, I would go for it.

ktrn0312

Life goes on. Nothing wrong with finding a little happiness the 2nd time around.