husband won't eat healthy

alexapatel
alexapatel Posts: 87 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
My husband and I both vowed at the beginning of the year to be more healthy. I took it a lot more serious than him. He will go to the gym with my every once in a while, but that's about the extent of it. I am not only trying to be more active but also be a lot more healthy in the kitchen.

I am alright with having steamed broccoli instead of fries, but him on the other hand wants nothing to do with it. So whenever I make a veggie for myself, I have to make him something for dinner also to make him happy usually fries or something equally as tempting for me to snag some off of his plate. I obviously could work on the will-power, but any other advice?
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  • Tanja_CHH
    Tanja_CHH Posts: 216 Member
    If he doesnt want vegetables, get him to make his own fries. Atleast then its not extra work for you
  • sweetzoejane
    sweetzoejane Posts: 153 Member
    I think he should either eat what you cook for him or make his own food.
  • WannaBeFitJean
    WannaBeFitJean Posts: 52 Member
    I have the same problem! so ^ Bump
  • alexapatel
    alexapatel Posts: 87 Member
    Such a simple solution! I've never even thought of that. I'm sure he will be thrilled haha.
  • sgv0918
    sgv0918 Posts: 851 Member
    If he doesnt want vegetables, get him to make his own fries. Atleast then its not extra work for you

    this...If i make a meal and he doesn't like it he can make his own...same goes for me when he is cooking
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    You said yourself that you are more committed than he is.

    I think that's your answer. He's a grown up and you're a grown up. Make your choices.

    It's not that hard.
  • WannaBeFitJean
    WannaBeFitJean Posts: 52 Member
    My husband would be like what???
    Considering he works 3 jobs and makes the $$$ I always make sure his dinner is hot and ready... Maybe explain to him how important this is to you... and to please give it a try .... IF not .. Stay strong... I have done ok so far...
  • OMG_Twinkies
    OMG_Twinkies Posts: 215 Member
    I assume you're dating a 12 year-old boy, and that's why you're cooking his dinner. In which case, fries are microwaveable, and even an adolescent can push a power button.
  • Woomytron
    Woomytron Posts: 253 Member
    Tell him to eat what you cook or make his own food. That is what I do.

    Maybe try and turn some of his favorites into something healthier. Like instead of fries make sweet potato fries/wedges.


    You can't change his mind, he has to do that on his own.
  • doc800
    doc800 Posts: 148
    The ex and I had an agreement, to cook and eat healthy. What ever was made by which one of us was dinner. If ya didn't want it then PB and J's are made over there, lol.
  • Blown_Away1
    Blown_Away1 Posts: 123 Member
    Mine's coming around because I don't say anything anymore...i just serve it. He did mention the other day "I'm noticing I have more energy" Lol

    He still gets to keep his pringles though...I have no interest those
  • gabegrammy
    gabegrammy Posts: 147 Member
    I'm cooking and eating healthier, husband isn't on bored. He buys and prepares his own food, or he does take out. We both work 45 hours a week, so I'm not cooking 2 meals every day. I prepare most my meals in crockpot over night, and take to work for 2 -3 days. When I have to I always have healthier frozen meals to fall back on, abou 2 nights a week, but mostly I eat my left overs till gone.
  • psych0kitty
    psych0kitty Posts: 313
    You're the boss in the kitchen, so he eats what you cook or he cooks his own crap food. Marriage, yay!
  • HollyTsab
    HollyTsab Posts: 120 Member
    Mine took awhile too. He had no problem supporting me and helping me out but when it came to his choices he was hard to win over. Now he is a bit better about it. For some reason the guy who never ate sweets was all of a sudden buying the candy by the registers. I mean, really dude? He finally realized that he wasn't eating enough during the day and he'd binge at night. He was in a 30 day nutrition challenge group that opened his eyes. He's even been asking me to join another one.
  • thisisme13
    thisisme13 Posts: 150
    If you are the one who cooks and he doesn't want to eat what you cook than he can go make his own food.

    I only make my husband something different if I am making me something I know he hates.... like a few days ago, I had sushi, he hates sushi so I made him a pizza.

    Your husband clearly doesn't want to eat healthy or change his habits right now.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Just because I make a decision to eat differently doesn't mean everyone else who eats my cooking has to as well. I tend to make meals that I know everyone will like. If I want a side that someone doesn't like, I'll make another side in addition that I know they like.

    Also, there are ways to make low-cal/healthy dinner options yummy and appealing to everyone. You just have to find them. Talk about what you both like and use ingredients that will make the dinner fit better into your day.
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    If he doesnt want vegetables, get him to make his own fries. Atleast then its not extra work for you

    this...If i make a meal and he doesn't like it he can make his own...same goes for me when he is cooking

    This. If I were willing to eat spinach, eggs and morning star sausage every morning, he would make breakfast for me. Since I prefer my eggs scrambled with different veggies, and even then won't eat them every morning, I make my own breakfast. He gets to make suggestions for dinner only in so far as he requests a certain dish or prefers different veggies. And he knows darn well that if he were to hate everything, he would be getting his own dinners.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    You should sleep around.

    That'll teach him not to eat the broccoli.
  • dorothytd
    dorothytd Posts: 1,138 Member
    Agree - whomever is cooking is king. If you don't like it, cook! But really, we've come up with lots of tasty, healthy meals the whole family loves.
  • SpecialSundae
    SpecialSundae Posts: 795 Member
    My husband and I both vowed at the beginning of the year to be more healthy. I took it a lot more serious than him. He will go to the gym with my every once in a while, but that's about the extent of it. I am not only trying to be more active but also be a lot more healthy in the kitchen.

    I am alright with having steamed broccoli instead of fries, but him on the other hand wants nothing to do with it. So whenever I make a veggie for myself, I have to make him something for dinner also to make him happy usually fries or something equally as tempting for me to snag some off of his plate. I obviously could work on the will-power, but any other advice?

    There's a lot of middle ground between steamed broccoli and fries! My husband started at the "fries, fries and only fries" point and now will happily eat whole plates of vegetables.

    How did I get from one extreme to the other?

    I started small. First white potatoes with oil spray and spices roasted in the oven instead of fries, then sweet potatoes instead of white potatoes, then sweet potatoes and butternut squash, then adding peppers, carrots, courgettes and onions.

    I added plenty of flavourful spices and went easy on the salt.

    I got him hooked on chilli. Seriously, he'll now eat ANYTHING if there's chilli on it.
  • dsjohndrow
    dsjohndrow Posts: 1,820 Member
    Communication works. I told my wife I wasn't going to eat certain things. Maybe he can get his fill of junk at lunch and eat what you cook. Maybe some recipes he'd like. I wouldn't be cooking two meals.

    For me, I had a heart attack, so I get to use that as an excuse.
  • farway
    farway Posts: 1,253 Member
    As suggested, if he does not want what you provide, then cook his own

    I am bloke BTW and TBH would be utterly p1ssed off if my spouse did this, just saying, nothing personal, but do not expect or anticipate compliance, or in longer term feeling, by him, of being nagged, again
  • Pimpmonkey
    Pimpmonkey Posts: 566
    My old man knows, if he don't want to cook, he can eat whatever the H*** I cook. If he still don't want it, there's PB&J in the cabinet.
  • GiddyNZ
    GiddyNZ Posts: 136 Member
    Same goes in my house, it you don't like what I have cooked then tough - cook your own..

    Fortunately my partner isn't stupid enough to say anythting if he isn't 100% loving what I made, and for the most part he does like the healthy food I make.. pity he is losing weight much faster than me without even trying though... oh well
  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
    Ya'll obviously aren't Southern. Neither am I for that matter. But, if you feel like it's your role to cook, allot yourself the calories to have a few french fries and make healthy choices for the rest of your meal.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Talk to him and find an acceptable compromise.
  • KenosFeoh
    KenosFeoh Posts: 1,837 Member
    When my husband cooks, he makes what he wants to eat, not what I want to eat. That's o.k., my diet is my business, not his. And vice versa. We're all adults here.
  • alexapatel
    alexapatel Posts: 87 Member
    Interesting responses... thanks guys!
  • bgelliott
    bgelliott Posts: 610 Member
    If he said he would do it with you and now is not, then he should make his own meals!

    When I started my weight loss journey I did not expect anyone else to conform to my needs. Although my husband and kids for the most part are more than happy to eat what I make, I always made two dinners each night. One for me and one for my family. (an no I am not a stay at home mom) Slowly but surly everyone started to conform to my new way of cooking without a battle...I have to admitt though, we never ate all that bad to begin with. The only time we have things like french fries (fast food) is if we are traveling and even then we eat things like Subway more than burgers and fries.

    Good luck my friend, it's not always an easy undertaking to get the other half to participate!
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
    "You get what you get and you don't throw a fit"

    he can make something else if he doesn't like what you make...

    but I would make one a meal a week for my husband that I know he likes. (which I do, because it's the same here. I eat 'heathy' h prefers 5 servings of cheesy mashed potatoes and a box of cheap mac and cheese for dinner.

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