Is it jealousy? Or should I stop losing?

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  • Erikalynne18
    Erikalynne18 Posts: 558 Member
    thanks for all the supportive comments everyone :) Really means alot! And it feels good to have reassurance that I am not doing something wrong/unhealthy. I'm sure these negatives comments will (hopefully) go away once people realize I AM trying to reshape my body in a healthy way :)
  • tommygirl15
    tommygirl15 Posts: 1,012 Member
    Yes, this absolutely happens to me too, and you're not alone. It's not very encouraging, but if you know you are doing what's right for your body then you have to develop a bit of a thick skin to these comments. Keep doing what you're doing :)
  • Sunny_fit4life
    Sunny_fit4life Posts: 157 Member
    Your goals and stats seem reasonable and healthy... possibly on the thinner side of healthy, but not underweight. It's probably a mixture of concern & jealousy.

    I will tell you I got similar comments after losing 20 lbs. I weighed 190 lbs and am 5'5"! A friend commented that I was fine the way I was and should stop dieting. I'm like seriously? I'm obviously at an unhealthy weight.

    My point is that women are weird.
  • susanswan
    susanswan Posts: 1,194 Member
    I will list some stats in case anyone is wondering.
    SW- 165
    CW- 137
    GW- 130
    Height- 5'6
    Current measurements:
    Bust- 39
    Waist- 28.5
    Hips- 36

    I don't believe these are "too low".
    Forgot to add my reply! I am 5' 5 1/2" tall. I went from 205 to 132.6 before (ahem) the holidays. I was told I'm tiny..... I do wear a size 4. I think I am just "normal" now, but have heard similar comments, from husband, friends, & acquaintances. I think my husband is concerned, some of the women may have a tinge of jealousy, and some probably think that anything below a size 12 is too small.

    Personally, I never even in my wildest dreams thought I'd be a size 4! My measurements are very similar to yours (trading boobs for hips). You may be too young to remember but on the Miss America and Miss World pageants they always stated their measurements: 36-24-36. Wouldn't you just kill for those? = D I'd need boob implants and a Scarlett O'Hara corset to achieve those measurements! You are fine! I can tell by your picture. You look great. Not anorexic! I need more muscles and time to make them. I am skinny fat now.
  • Cindyinpg
    Cindyinpg Posts: 3,902 Member
    It may be envy. When I am heavy, people don't say a word with their mouths, but I see the look on their faces (friends) when they look me up and down.

    However, when I am losing weight the women will say, "you're getting too thin" - even when my BMI still says I'm overweight, etc. I don't know what the deal is, but you're not alone.

    Maybe they just aren't used to seeing you look like that and it is a shock to them. Or what I bet it is. . .MISERY LOVES COMPANY. Is it usually the overweight ones which tell you that you're overweight? That was the case in my situation.
    ^^^^
    This has been my experience as well. Healthy people are quite supportive, but overweight friends and acquaintances are beginning to make ridiculous comments like, "You should go see a doctor and make sure you're not sick, becasue you are losing weight too fast"... or "you're getting too thin". When, in reality, I rarely lose more than 2lbs a week and have just lately gotten to an overweight BMI, from an obese one. Nor do they like hearing that I am losing weight through healthy eating and exercise: they want me to start talking about miracle diets and magic pills. :noway:
  • bumblebums
    bumblebums Posts: 2,181 Member
    I would suggest looking for some more like-minded friends.

    http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0167629608000362
    http://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/nejmsa066082
    http://circ.ahajournals.org/content/118/4/428.short
  • Lunira
    Lunira Posts: 33
    Sounds like jealousy to me, of the "You're hotter than me, whaa!" type. Lol.

    Edit: And as an adult, you don't have to explain, excuse, or justify your eating habits to anyone. I hate to say this, but there's a lot of people out there who simply don't understand the concept of personal boundaries... they act as if they have the God-given right to critique and criticize literally any and every choice you make, as if you are a small child and they are your mother. Then when you call them on this unbelievably presumptuous, controlling behavior, they try to pass it off as "caring" or being "concerned" about you. In my experience though, the only real "concerns" driving their behavior are the facts that...

    1) You have a mind of your own, and
    2) You're doing better than they are

    ...and they find both these truths to be absolutely intolerable.

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