Suffer in Silence? When Do You Talk About Your Diet???

mermaidme23

I have been doing this dieting thing for a while. Up and down, up and down….I can’t eat this….I can eat that….wait, I can’t eat this again.

My husband, who is supportive and wonderful, tries to listen and help me cook healthy food. He’s a chef and is European, so he is a totally “foodie.” I am not a foodie, I just like to eat food ) He never complains, but I feel like I should keep my thoughts about my diet to myself. BECAUSE, sometimes I’ll fall off the wagon and I eat things that I say I won’t and that sends mixed signals.

ALSO, I’ve got a few girlfriends who swear they know my body better than I do, and want to tell me what weight I would look good at. And, if I actually meet my target weight, than I will be too skinny.

So, I ask you all….do you talk about your diet? Or just keep it to yourself?
Thoughts?

chooselove

I don't talk about my diet, I try not to make it a "thing". I don't think it's anyone's business what I'm eating.
You're not suffering...you are nurturing yourself in this personal aspect of your life
However, I think it's good if you feel compelled to share your journey and successes with your friends and husband..
There is no "can't eat this, or that" in my book. I will taste things, just to pacify myself without depriving of something I love. You mention you fall off the wagon, and I personally attribute that to your implied self-deprivation of certain foods. Focus on incorporating wholesome home cooking, fruits, and vegetables into your daily life. You might find you are more satisfied and too full to go after a "can't" food full-force. Just my opinion.
Also, people will always have something to say about your weight. Sometimes it's jealousy. You just have to let it roll off your back. Don't involve those people in this aspect of your life if they aren't going to support you.

mgalsf12

Diet is a four letter word. I do not consider myself to be on a diet, it is a way of life.

psych0kitty

I'm not on a diet, so I don't talk about it.

I've told people that my husband and I are getting our *kitten* together and working on getting healthy. It never hurts to have more support. It also helps that my husband and I are in it together. We eat what we want and don't judge each other, but encourage each other to make healthier choices.

Trechechus

Don't view it as a diet. Make a lifestyle change.

I like to be fit, and I like to eat healthy so that's what I do. My friends know I'm a crazy endorphin junkie. Though two of my aunts have decided that I need to "stop losing weight" (though I did that ages ago.) I just smile and ignore them. I want to be healthy for me, and though they still like to remember the fat version of myself and somehow think there is something wrong with me every time I see them, I know that my body is happier than it has been since I was a kid playing in the dirt and climbng trees.

7opoundsin16weeks

I used to talk about my fitness progress a lot until i realized i was starting to bother the people around me

paperpudding

I dont avoid talking about it if topic comes up - but zealots who talk healthy eating in every sentence do tend to get a bit boring, so I try not to over do it.

spennato

I used to talk about my fitness progress a lot until i realized i was starting to bother the people around me

Same here......I think that is what motivated me the first time around, people eventually don't want to hear your progress anymore.....but rest assured when I put weight back on they were the first to say Geez....you look like you are putting weight back on!! I say tell as many people as you want, you may just fin that you are an inspiration to many of your friends and than you will have followers asking you to listen to there weight loss story.

SpecialSundae

I talk about it a bit too much, to be honest. I'm also not "suffering". I eat three good meals a day, 1-2 snacks and something sweet most nights, but then I also exercise for at least an hour most days including fairly serious weights three times a week.

lacroyx

I only talk about it when people find out about how much I've lost. 9 out of 10 times they are disappointed when I tell them about MFP, tracking what I eat pizza, cheeseburgers, etc etc in moderation. It's like they are expecting some sorta magical food, eat only veggies, or I am avoiding certain foods. There is one thing I don't drink anymore and that's soda pop. I don't bring it up or brag in anyway unless they do first.

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babydiego87

I tend not to mention unless I hit a mile stone, like I hit 10lbs weight loss a few weeks ago and I told a few people as I was pretty proud and felt that warranted a humble brag

I'll be telling everyone when I lose a stone :laugh:

BerryH

Keep eating yummy meals, especially with a chef in the house, and just rein in portion sizes and cut back on rubbishy snacks. "I can't eat that" is diet thinking not healthy lifestyle thinking! :flowerforyou:

marykpfist

I do talk about it with my husband, I try not to overtake a out it, but he knows I log and eat differently. I shop differently, too.
I don't talk a out it at work, but I do talk about it with one friend who I know is dieting too.

fattyfoodie

I think a lot of what was said above was really great advice.

I'm not on a diet, I have made a lifestyle change and am getting healthy.

Also, there are absolutely no foods that I can't have. That's not sustainable in the long run. I eat whatever I want and I track it, knowing that sometimes I am going to go over on my calories and that is OK. I will just go to an extra yoga class or accept that this week I may not see a big change in the scale. You still have to live your life!

To answer your question, only those closest to me know that I have joined Weight Watchers to try and get the pounds off once and for all. I am a pretty private person in my real life and not prone to share things like that with others. But I don't let it affect me- I still go out for lunch, and I still eat junk food. Now I just eat a lot less of it and write it all down so on Monday when I weigh in I already know what the scale is going to tell me!

LittleMissDover

I don't really talk about it, I don't want insincere comments about my loss, I'd rather not say I'm losing weight as then when someone mentions it I know it's because it's noticeable, not because they feel they should.

stephcollins91

I used to talk about the diets I was on all the time to friends and family, but at a size 10/12 and 5 foot 9 I used to get 'oh but you don't need to loose weight, don't be silly' I tend to not mention my diet very much at all now because of that.

I do think it is important to keep your other half in the loop though. If I didn't tell my bf what I was doing with my eating he would bring back all kinds of naughty sugary treats, and that would just make me feel like a failure because I would HAVE to eat what's there haha.

daphne_m

I just don't think other people are that interested in hearing about what I eat and those who talk about food irritate me. Grass fed this and organic that and some random spice imported from a country whose population recently half starved to death. Oooh, exciting! If someone asks me why I'm not drinking or why I'm not eyeing off the last rosti I'll answer "I'm trying to cut down my calories" and answer any questions they might want answered, within reason. I'm polite like that. I do have a few people who share my weight struggles and we compare recipes and text each other at 6am with "off to the gym, tubby" but it's more of a shared interest than a topic of conversation.

danibu98

I've only talked about it with a few people. I mainly come here when I need to talk about it, or I talk to my husband or a girlfriend.

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

I don't talk about calorie counting except to my husband, who also counts calories.

But I also don't feel like I'm suffering. I eat foods that I love and stay within my calorie goal (and I try to hit my macros). Maybe you should try a more moderate approach, where you don't label foods as "good" and "bad." The plan that will work is the one you can stick to. If you're having trouble sticking to your plan maybe it's time to consider tweaking it.

dsjohndrow

No one cares what I eat. I am fortunate that my wife is pretty much on board with what I do. When I need to, I shop for things. She's sees how I order when we go out, and for the most part that is what she cooks.

Occasionally people say "wow, you have lost weight." but that's last about 5 minutes.

After 2 years I am not allowed to say calorie or exercise in the house. hey are kind enough to ask how i did at a race, or wish me good luck when I head out the door.

mogletdeluxe

If people ask, I'll tell. But as far as I'm concerned, it's my gob and my body that'll deal with the consequences, good or bad, of what goes into it - so peeps can go smell themselves if they're putting in unsolicited advice and/or comments.

Put it this way - in my experience, I kept my head down and just got on with it. Didn't leave me open for criticism, and if I had a bad week or whatnot I was not being judged or tutted at in any way. I work in an office with a lot of serial dieters, and it's hard to take someone seriously when one day they're photocoping their endless diet plans, and the next bringing back a fat munch to their desk and wondering why they haven't lost weight and it MUST be to do with their thyroid/genes/cat.

I think that, the more open you are, the more open you are to criticism or scrunity. Which is fine - haters gonna hate - but something to be aware of.

TavistockToad

I have been doing this dieting thing for a while. Up and down, up and down….I can’t eat this….I can eat that….wait, I can’t eat this again.

My husband, who is supportive and wonderful, tries to listen and help me cook healthy food. He’s a chef and is European, so he is a totally “foodie.” I am not a foodie, I just like to eat food ) He never complains, but I feel like I should keep my thoughts about my diet to myself. BECAUSE, sometimes I’ll fall off the wagon and I eat things that I say I won’t and that sends mixed signals.

ALSO, I’ve got a few girlfriends who swear they know my body better than I do, and want to tell me what weight I would look good at. And, if I actually meet my target weight, than I will be too skinny.

So, I ask you all….do you talk about your diet? Or just keep it to yourself?
Thoughts?

i think the issue you have is that you are on a diet in the first place! a healthy lifestyle doesnt exclude ANY food - you just have to use moderation with less healthy things!

i never had a lot to lose, so poeple just think i am 'naturally skinny' not that i watch my cals/macros and workout 5x a week! so noone ever asks me anything!

WendyTerry420

I talk to just about everyone about it. They are amazed at my results and surprised when they see me eating high-fat or sugary foods. I get to tell them that we can eat what we like and still be a healthy weight!

WendyTerry420

I only talk about it when people find out about how much I've lost. 9 out of 10 times they are disappointed when I tell them about MFP, tracking what I eat pizza, cheeseburgers, etc etc in moderation. It's like they are expecting some sorta magical food, eat only veggies, or I am avoiding certain foods. There is one thing I don't drink anymore and that's soda pop. I don't bring it up or brag in anyway unless they do first.

This too! All my friends and most of my co-workers know by now that there are *NO* unhealthy foods, just unhealthy diets!

Ayirela

I'm easily excitable....so I share changes I make with people. Plus if I voice that I'm doing something different I'm more likely to stick to it

Tatiyanya

I dont talk about diet, i do talk a lot about the lifestyle change and my current eating habbits because I am rather passionate about nutrition and excercises now.
So if they want to listen I DO talk a lot about all that stuff. Managed to get most of my friend to eat healthier and move more , so i like to think I do a lil good for the world like that and this: plus , you know, my body itself, seem to be isort of inspiration for people.
So siting in silence when you can do GOOOOOOD for people you care about ...dats hella crazy talk!.

Don't treat the change as something terrible and strainfull and torture like. Its joyous adventure and i never knew as much about human body as i do now. Learned hella lot last year

EmmaKarney

I try not to talk about it because all I would get is people saying "oh my god you soooo don't need to lose weight blah blah blah...'

The only times I say I "cannot" eat something is not to do with losing weight but to do with the IBS specific diet that i am following on the advice of a nutritionist.

momof4greatkids1

I will talk about my diet if someone asks, or with other fitness friends, otherwise I don't cuz I don't want to bore people.

funhouse77

It's not a diet, it's a lifestyle choice. I choose to eat healthily, exercise, and ultimately this will make me lose weight, get fit, and stay that way. So I don't really feel I need to talk about it to anyone, my boyfriend is very supportive and obviously we talk about food, exercise and progress. Remember, you don't have to explain your eating habits to anyone. And I find people can be negative, jealous, judgemental etc so it's best to keep it to myself and enjoy the compliments as they come

When people ask me how I do it I reply: 'Hard work & Healthy food'.


Oh, and also, please don't see this as suffering. I don't. I see this as the first step to a long, healthy, happy life. This is a POSITIVE step you're taking.

Suffering, for me, was Obese at 213lbs, Depressed, pre-diabetic, painful joints, bad skin, IBS, unable to walk more than a mile before getting out of breath. That's suffering. This isn't suffering, This is living.

cinrn68

I don't talk about it either, since I don't consider that I'm on a "diet". I've made a healthy lifestyle change -- forever!! Diets imply that it's something short term, which most "diets" are. And then people say diets fail -- they don't. But when we go back to eating the way we did prior to the diet and gain back all the weight, WE are the ones that fail, not the diet! So this time, I'm not dieting. This is the way I will eat for the rest of my life. I don't believe in cutting out foods completely either. I've cut out some things for now, but only because alcohol and junk food are not daily "requirements" in sustaining health in my opinion.

As for what you weigh or will weigh, that's nobody's business but your own! I don't get on the scale in front of other people, and I don't watch others get on the scale, so no one needs to know the number! It's my business only. When I'm happy with the number and how I look, I will stop losing weight and maintain that weight. If someone asks how much I've lost, I will share, but otherwise, they don't need to know the number!