Should you tell someone you like them?

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  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
    Sometimes I think this site is overrun with 13 year olds. Not that there's anything wrong with 13 year olds. Just sayin'.
    I'm actually 21...

    Time to start acting like it, then. :D

    Get over it and do it. It's not that hard, like everyone here has said. :)
    I do act like it. You don't know the first thing about my life so don't pretend like you do.

    Correct, I only know what you're saying in this thread. That's the only thing I was referring to, not the REST of your life, which I never mentioned. You're not acting 21 in regards to this situation that you posted about. So, follow the advice you're being given. It'll work out just fine, I've done it many times and I also have an anxiety disorder. At some point though, you have to put on your grownup pants and do something if it's important to you. :)
  • amy32lynn
    amy32lynn Posts: 157 Member
    :drinker: :drinker:
    " ERRR'BODYY LETS TAKEE SHOTS! SHOTS! SHOTS!" :drinker: :drinker: :drinker: :laugh:

    I bet alcohol will get him a talkin'! lmao
    im 33 and shes right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member

    That brings back memories! I burned that song to a CD and gave it to a guy when I was 15. We started dating a week later. I guess he checked "Yes" :blushing:

    It was cute then, still a cute idea now. :D
  • Louisianababy93
    Louisianababy93 Posts: 1,709 Member
    :drinker: :drinker:
    " ERRR'BODYY LETS TAKEE SHOTS! SHOTS! SHOTS!" :drinker: :drinker: :drinker: :laugh:

    I bet alcohol will get him a talkin'! lmao
    yup im 33 and shes right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Lol, Alcohol ALWAYS brings out the truth!
  • tricelive
    tricelive Posts: 93 Member
    No; a lady should never make the first move. Always let a man pursue you. Be anxious for nothing. Also when a man really wants something they will do anything to get it. Being coy still works...but most women are to desperate to wait. Things I tell my daughter always let a guy know that u have other interest besides him. Never chase boys, never make someone your priority when you're just an option. Nuggets... if he likes u he will let u know when he's ready.
  • Hexahedra
    Hexahedra Posts: 894 Member
    No; a lady should never make the first move. Always let a man pursue you. Be anxious for nothing. Also when a man really wants something they will do anything to get it. Being coy still works...but most women are to desperate to wait. Things I tell my daughter always let a guy know that u have other interest besides him. Never chase boys, never make someone your priority when you're just an option. Nuggets... if he likes u he will let u know when he's ready.

    ...or if he's really good looking, another lady could have gotten him first by being straightforward ;-)
  • RainHoward
    RainHoward Posts: 1,599 Member
    no, never. it's a horrible idea. just admire from afar and spend the rest of your days on earth wondering if he was the one.
  • Tell him.

    I know its hard. I have bad social anxiety so i know how you feel. I even have the added bonus of being the type of girl a guy would "take for the team". (Thankfully my boyfriend is half blind so doesn't see it that way.)

    To most people here it sounds pathetic and immature, and i get that, Most of them don't over-analyze things as simple asaying hi to someone in the street. Don't be offended.

    But i'd get in there before someone else does! He could be equally as nervous. Even just show a bit of interest without being outright. I wouldn't recommend it over telling him straight though. Nothing beats that. He'll respect you more if you communicate with him. If you keep him guessing its likely he'll keep you guessing!
  • Drunk text him. Gives you a good cover story if he doesn't like you back.
    I think i did this once. But don't remember if i actually sent it 'cause i was too drunk! :P
  • triciab79
    triciab79 Posts: 1,713 Member
    Just do it! Life is too short to not go for what you want.
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    Just do it! Life is too short to not go for what you want.

    ^ truer words were never spoken.
  • theCarlton
    theCarlton Posts: 1,344 Member
    Don't tell him...inform him via smoke signals.
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  • __stacyb
    __stacyb Posts: 306
    Just do it! Life is too short to not go for what you want.
    agreed
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
    Slip him this?

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    ^^ Go with this, but if he's already pulled your pig tails a few times, he likes you.
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    Next time the guy says something flirty, just respond "and that is exactly why I like you." Big smile.

    This has worked for me with every single person I have dated or married since elementary school. It has also not worked with every single person that I never dated or married, but statistically speaking, it's worked about 72% of the time.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    Just tell him you want to climb him like a tree.

    Worked for me.

    Yea it did!

    :wink: :wink:
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    I prefer to just follow them around and sniff their underwear.
  • Sweet_Gurl_Next_Door
    Sweet_Gurl_Next_Door Posts: 735 Member
    this!
    No; a lady should never make the first move. Always let a man pursue you. Be anxious for nothing. Also when a man really wants something they will do anything to get it. Being coy still works...but most women are to desperate to wait. Things I tell my daughter always let a guy know that u have other interest besides him. Never chase boys, never make someone your priority when you're just an option. Nuggets... if he likes u he will let u know when he's ready.

    finially someone who thinks like I do.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    No; a lady should never make the first move. Always let a man pursue you. Be anxious for nothing. Also when a man really wants something they will do anything to get it. Being coy still works...but most women are to desperate to wait. Things I tell my daughter always let a guy know that u have other interest besides him. Never chase boys, never make someone your priority when you're just an option. Nuggets... if he likes u he will let u know when he's ready.


    You sound like a lot of fun...
  • yesss! Why shouldn't a confident woman go after what she wants? Oh don't be a stalker or weird but go for it. Be fun, sparkly drama free but go for it!
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    I prefer to just follow them around and sniff their underwear.

    He does that to me too ladies, so don't get too worked up.
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    I prefer to just follow them around and sniff their underwear.

    And that is exactly why I like you. :flowerforyou:
  • grrrlface
    grrrlface Posts: 1,204 Member
    Go for it.

    Sometimes guys miss out big hints, even if they're right under their nose!
  • MellowGa
    MellowGa Posts: 1,258 Member
    go ahead and tell them, sometimes you just have to take the plunge
  • liesevanlingen
    liesevanlingen Posts: 508 Member
    I had a friend who went through this same "should I/shouldn't I tell him" anxiety. I suggested she tell him. She dithered about it for a long time. Eventually he started going out with somebody else.

    I'd let him know, but be casual about it. I like the idea of just saying "that is exactly why I like you" and smiling.
  • Better to live 1 minute like a lion than a life time like a worm, worst that will happen is you get shot down. Believe me, that happens to hundreds of people in hundreds of bars every weekend!
  • Not 100% on how he feels about me but he seems to flirt with me a lot...
    It's better to find out than wait and have them mess up your emotions.
    And if he says yes you can be happy which is the aim :D
  • mrphil86
    mrphil86 Posts: 2,382 Member
    No; a lady should never make the first move. Always let a man pursue you. Be anxious for nothing. Also when a man really wants something they will do anything to get it. Being coy still works...but most women are to desperate to wait. Things I tell my daughter always let a guy know that u have other interest besides him. Never chase boys, never make someone your priority when you're just an option. Nuggets... if he likes u he will let u know when he's ready.

    There is nothing that annoys me more about a woman when she expects the guy to do everything. I understand the tradition of it all but I've seen this crap ruin good relationships that could have been.

    We are all equal right? We should act like it then.

    If you like someone, tell him/her. Don't wait for an invitation on a silver platter.

    Because guess what, in today's society, you snooze you loose and you kick yourself for not even trying.