Total Humiliation :(

louismetal

I'm Maid of Honor at my best friends wedding in May. She's super organised and has had everything booked and paid for over a year in advance. This includes bridesmaids dresses. I had tried on a (UK) size 14 in the spring last year and it fitted perfectly. Now a year on we did the fittngs and I've put on so much weight, when I tried to squeeze it on, I burst all the seams and had to be helped out of it by the bride . I couldn't get on the next size up and have had to buy a replacement two sizes bigger and even thats tight. Urgh, I was so humiliated, I could have, and almost did, cry. Its given me a well needed wake-up call, I just feel so ashamed.

DaisyBee8805

I'm sorry, that must have really sucked. Let it motivate you by all means but don't be ashamed. Nobody is perfect, things like this are crap but **** happens and you can move past this and let it inspire you towards NEVER having to feel that way ever again. You can do it.

obwize

I'm so sorry this happened. But one thing I do know is that feeling bad about our bodies doesn't help. It happened, now it is over. I'm sure you will look fabulous in the dress this May. Enjoy your friends wedding and get into a dress smaller than the one that burst in a year.

samanthalynn11

I think we've all had moments like that, and they suck! You're definitely not alone. I remember multiple humiliating incidences regarding my weight. However, I try to think about them positively and use them as motivation to improve my health and my life in general.

taunto

I am very sorry this happened. This is hard stuff. I hope you use this as a motivation to kickass and get fit

mkeller234

Not exactly the same, but I started my weight loss when my Boss gave me a suit and I couldn't button the pants. I was really embarrassed to write him an email letting him know that. I mentioned needing to loose some weight and he was very enthusiastic. It turned out to be the spark that I needed.

linsey0689

Nake that be your moment of change. I feel for you girl, you can't change the pass but you surely can change the future

Fozzi43

I sorry sweetie..let this be the kick you need..you'll look stunning in it!

LaurenLouG

I definitely now how this feels. I wear a uniform to work which is tailored to my body, it had been steadily getting tighter and tighter and when I came back from a holiday is Paris I couldn't do it up anymore.

It was the worst feeling, but it became my motivation as your situation has become yours.

Track diligently. You can do this. That same dress is loose on me now, I'm living proof that it works.

Stick with this and you're going to wow them at that wedding.

longtimeterp

i was asked to be a part of my step-dad's funeral and had to buy a new jacket to do it...and then i had to go to 3 stores to find on that was large enough to fit me...i still have the jacket and put it on every once in a while to remind me

KarenJanine

I'm sorry you felt so bad, but sometimes a wake up call like this is needed to kick start some motivation and get on track to losing weight and getting fit. Good luck in meeting your goals and being at knock out on the big day.

Cr01502

Use it as motivation.

You've got this.

Rosplosion

I feel the pain in your heart. I hope that in the future you will look back on that moment in your life and think, "That was the turning point." Sometimes humilation can be what we really need to fully grasp reality.

I see you're pretty new here. My best advice is to look at the people around in the forums. There are some VERY fit people who pretty much live here (MFP). Find the people you want to look like and see what they do. Look at what they eat, how they exercise, embrace the sarcasm and find joy in life! A good place to start is the "in place of a roadmap" thread that everyone posts. It's around so much because it works and it's realistic. It is the advice of real *kitten* people who have met their goals and continued on to exceed their expectations. MFP has a horrid search feature so I cannot find the link to that article right now but I'm sure during the time I've been looking someone else has posted it.

Check this woman out for instance:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/903628-one-year-of-barbells-and-ice-cream-my-story-so-far-pics

Please do not stop living your life because you are not your ideal weight. Go to that wedding and enjoy regardless of your size.

sandradev1

You know what? It takes something big and nasty to happen in our lives in order for us to finally say 'enough is enough', to get that strong will in us and to turn it all around. I know that you can do this and will.

The following was posted on my newsfeed this morning by a friend and I think it's something we all need to do every day and thought it may help you:

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"I will beat her. I will train harder. I will eat cleaner. I know her weaknesses. I know her strengths. I've lost to her before - but not this time. She is going down. I have the advantage because I know her well. She is the old me.." This is my new mantra. I will not let her win - she is only as strong as I allow her to be. And, believe me, she is doing her darnedest to get me to quit. Not happenin'.
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YOU CAN DO THIS :flowerforyou:

moo1907

I had a similar experience and it sucks but it was a much needed kick in the butt and everytime I feel like im slippling off the wagon I remember how I felt that day. Chin up chick, MFP will have you in that dress in no time

khall86790

Use it as motivation.

You've got this.

boroko

As people have said - a horrible feeling but make it a turning point.

My sister is chief bridesmaid at her friend's wedding which is this Saturday (it was meant to be a spring wedding but so much for that idea!!). She was similarly horrified at her dress fitting in January and decided to cut out alcohol and do the 5:2 fast diet. She stuck with it, went swimming twice a week and used MFP to record all her calories. Final fitting was on Monday and the dressmaker is now frantically taking her dress in! She feels so healthy and positive about the change and will be smiling in the photos not trying to hide behind other people.

If your friend's wedding is in May you have still got time to make a difference to how you look and feel on the day. You might not make it into the first dress in that timescale but that doesn't mean you can't start to change yourself. Start today and change yourself not just for the wedding but for your life.

I hope the wedding goes well and that you can feel good about yourself and enjoy your friend's special day. :flowerforyou:

KANGOOJUMPS

its not till May, go kick some *kitten*,

NikinCilla

Dont feel bad, we have all been there before. Ive been there. My sons confirmation I had an outfit ready to wear so I didnt worry about getting me a new outfit. Come the morning of the confirmation I couldnt get into my dress OMG I had 30mins to find something to wear and it was run to Kmart and found a stretchy black skirt and top. Hadnt tryed it at the store had no time and I was soooooo uncomfortable the whole day. So embarassed.......this should motivate you to do what you can do to go back to where you were or smaller, best of luck you can do it, Im trying!!!

jdhoward_101

It is a horrible experience. My massive wake up call was when i was 18 and chosing a dress for prom and had to get a size16, and that only just about fit. I've lost four and a half stone since then, i'm sure you can do it hon. Use that humiliation to give you strength and determination

lilpoindexter

Its given me a well needed wake-up call...

Ok, quit crying, and get in the gym, or start walking, or biking or whatever, and in a year's time you will be fine.