Total Humiliation :(

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  • scookiemonster
    scookiemonster Posts: 175 Member
    As you can see, this happens to the best of us. When I was getting married, I ordered my wedding dress well in advance. Six months before the wedding, I went to try on the dress. I had gained 20lbs between ordering and first fitting - I couldn't even zip it up. Imagine not being able to zip your special-order wedding dress! I worked my butt off all spring and summer, and by my October wedding I could squeeze into it, but if you look at pictures from my wedding towards the end of the night, you can see the welts on my back from where the dress was rubbing me (it was still just a teensy bit too tight).

    Just remember - this too shall pass. You'll lose the weight, but don't put too much pressure on yourself. You ordered the size up, you don't need to kill yourself to lose the weight by May. In the long run, I may have forced off those 20lbs, but I gained them back with interest after the wedding. I wish that rather than crash dieting to get it off, I had just had the dress let out and done it the slow and steady way - if I had, maybe I wouldn't be here on this site, trying to lose that same 20lbs again, plus the extra 10 that got added to it.
  • TanyatheBrave
    TanyatheBrave Posts: 12
    Use this as motivation! Bodies change, so if you're ready, you can change it right back. It's a great step to be on here and sharing. Motivation is key, including from MFP members who can cheer you on! Don't let this make you feel bad about yourself--use it to make yourself feel better.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    I'm sorry! You're a good person though, I would have been pissed at my friend too, for not realizing that a lot can happen in one year!
  • violetcharms
    violetcharms Posts: 158 Member
    I totally can relate.

    I once even bought myself shorts two sizes smaller as I was convinced i would be working harder to lose what I needed to. It's been 6 months and all ive done is regressed.

    But let this be motivation for us, and let's set our lifestyles right together =)

    xx
  • MommaChocoLatte
    MommaChocoLatte Posts: 389 Member
    I can absolutely relate. I havent bought my dress yet but I am about to. My best friend is getting married next March and has asked me to be her Matron of Honor, which is the main reason I am here. A few months ago we went to try on dresses and I had a total reality check.. ugh. Sometimes all we need is a swift kick in the *kitten* to get us going ;) You can do this. ((Hugs))
  • sarahslim100
    sarahslim100 Posts: 485 Member
    Hugs xx you can lose 8 pounds in a month. Just stick to a plan!
  • tnsumner
    tnsumner Posts: 283 Member
    I could hug you through the computer right now. I feel your pain. I got so tired of having to buy the next size up every year because my clothes didn't fit. My "omg moment" was when I went to Biltmore with my boyfriend for Christmas. We had a nice dinner planned while we were there. I had taken a dress that I was sure would fit just fine. When I put it on to go to dinner, it was so tight I didn't want to leave the hotel for dinner. I was mortified to order any food or just be seen in public. That was the breaking point. Now that I'm 50 pounds lighter, that dress falls off me. It's awesome. You are going to be so skinny that the dress you were too big for is going to fall off you. JUST WAIT!!!!
  • two_octopodes
    two_octopodes Posts: 130 Member
    Just wanted to say that I've been there too. Bridemaid dresses are the worst, and with the way my weight has fluctuated during my 20s, there have been several times (since I've been a bridesmaid five times so far) that I've bought a dress really early and then had to get it taken out at the last second due to gaining weight. It's humiliating and just awful all around.

    The important thing though is that you use this experience as a jumping off point - you've got at least a month before the wedding, so this is a perfect opportunity to start the journey of turning it around. You've got this! =)
  • ruwise
    ruwise Posts: 265 Member
    Just want to echo what others have said. I knew I needed to lose weight for a long, long time but my OMG moment came when I was flying to mexico this year. I could only barely get the seatbelt fastened, I NEVER want to be the person who has to ask for an extension to the seatbelt so I've turned that negative into something positive and hey presto now I'm nearly 30 lb's down.
  • FindingMyself24
    FindingMyself24 Posts: 613 Member
    Nake that be your moment of change. I feel for you girl, you can't change the pass but you surely can change the future :)

    I so agree!! I really like this!
  • andiechick
    andiechick Posts: 916 Member
    We've all been there where we've had a complete reality check, but on the brightside (c'mon us northerners are postive people!) at least you've time to make a difference and you hadn't put on weight between your fitting and the wedding. If you eat sensibly and do some regular exercise you'll be able to drop some poundage and will feel a whole lot better about yourself. Don't know if you're interested but I've just signed up to a challenge where we have to record our weight/measurements in a month's time via a secret group on facebook - I needed to make myself accountable to someone to help with my motivation.

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