Advise me please

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  • LaurenAOK
    LaurenAOK Posts: 2,475 Member
    My mother did option #3 when my dad died.

    OMFG. :laugh:
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    Option 3. He's 3 year's old people save the life lesson's for the next fish.

    ^^ Agree! Ignorance can be such bliss at this age.
  • Momma_Grizz
    Momma_Grizz Posts: 294 Member
    Option 3. He's 3 year's old people save the life lesson's for the next fish.

    ^^^This. He's 3. No need to traumatize him.
  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
    Option 3. He's 3 year's old people save the life lesson's for the next fish.

    ^^ Agree! Ignorance can be such bliss at this age.

    Agreed! But I also feel he will be ok if she tells him and they run and buy a new fish together.
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    My ex wasn't ready to deal with the fact that his sons hedgehog died. So he put him in a plastic container, taped it all up, marked it "Dad's please do not touch" and put it in the freezer.

    I, being the respectful girlfriend, did not touch and moved that carton through two house moves. Finally after it being in the freezer for 3 years, I got nosy (shame on me) and opened it up.

    I promptly screamed....which brought the kids running....

    and then we had to deal with the whole

    OMG THAT'S where Pixel went!!!! You said he ran away Dad!!!

    and the crying...holy hell the crying....

    so I would say option two.

    LOL, that is disturbing on so many levels. And the fact that I laughed so hard when I read it, is slightly disturbing to me as well. Will have to share this story with my husband when he gets home. He's a bit warped like me.
  • Mainebikerchick
    Mainebikerchick Posts: 1,573 Member
    My ex wasn't ready to deal with the fact that his sons hedgehog died. So he put him in a plastic container, taped it all up, marked it "Dad's please do not touch" and put it in the freezer.

    I, being the respectful girlfriend, did not touch and moved that carton through two house moves. Finally after it being in the freezer for 3 years, I got nosy (shame on me) and opened it up.

    I promptly screamed....which brought the kids running....

    and then we had to deal with the whole

    OMG THAT'S where Pixel went!!!! You said he ran away Dad!!!

    and the crying...holy hell the crying....

    so I would say option two.

    DEAR LORD!! Can't make that *kitten* up!!!

    OP, definitely Option 2. Honestly is always the best way to go.
  • Christizzzle
    Christizzzle Posts: 454 Member
    Option 3. He's 3 year's old people save the life lesson's for the next fish.

    I'm with you here.
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    Trying to remember back to when my kids were little and how we dealt with dead fish. I think they kinda got a kick out of having 'fish funerals' which meant saying goodbye to them as we flushed them down to 'fishy heaven'.

    So perhaps option 2 is the best one after all.

    (trying to figure out if my girls suffered any mental trauma or if their bad choices in life later on could be tied to my handling of said dead fish.) Mommy guilt NEVER ends. SMH
  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
    I am requesitng an update please. :flowerforyou:
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    Flush it and tell him he was Nemo and must of climbed out the window with the help of Jacque etc and that we'll have to get another one tomorrow

    ^^Winner
  • TLCorsini
    TLCorsini Posts: 78
    #2.

    I've been learning in my Child Psychology class how children should learn "loss" at a young age. i.e. when a pet dies instead of parents tip-townig around it to avoid sadness. It helps them to learn how to cope with uncomfortable situations and it teaches them appropriate ways to mourn and express their feelings. Boys can be afraid of "feelings" and don't know how to deal with the sad feelings & can act out etc so it can be a learning/bonding experience with mommy & son. Good luck and my condolences :(
  • kellijauch
    kellijauch Posts: 379 Member
    I would personally vote for Options 2 or 3. Only you know how your child will react and what's the best to do.
  • stellcorb
    stellcorb Posts: 294 Member
    Flush it and tell him he was Nemo and must of climbed out the window with the help of Jacque etc and that we'll have to get another one tomorrow
    That's pretty creative!
  • stellcorb
    stellcorb Posts: 294 Member
    2.

    It's sad that you even have to ask..

    Do you have kids? When my son's fish died when he was about 4 or 5 he freaked out. Started asking where he went when he dies and if he would still have his bones, etc. He was TERRIFIED. This is not a suprising parental question IMO.

    Good luck OP.....I think you will handle it beautifully. :)
    Thank-you for the vote of confidence! And yes, I think I'm leaning towards 2... I'll definately post my update.
    I appreciate all the the suggestions!
  • Scott2ndGradeTeacher
    Scott2ndGradeTeacher Posts: 147 Member
    dead_parrot.jpg

    This is an ex-parrot!
  • stellcorb
    stellcorb Posts: 294 Member
    Yeah, so my son didn't even care about his fish! Which is a relief for me, definately... but I'm completely surprised. This is the boy who throws a fit when one of his drawings gets "misplaced"! He did, however, let me know that daddy killed the fish b/c he fed him too much!

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