I GIVE UP!! I CANT DO IT!

Miss_Meliss86

OP, the fact that you posted this thread shows to me that you are NOT ready to give up. If you were, you would have simply disappeared from the site and no one on here would know of your struggles. I think that because you posted, deep down you know you still can, and you just need a bit of encouragement, which is exactly why we're here!

I hope that you are reading these posts and feeling the love and encouragement from all these strangers who have been in your situation before! Two days is not going to cause you to go right back to the beginning. You're going to be fine! Like so many people in this thread have already said, it's just a thought.

Good luck, and we all know you can do it

Wombay

Can't? Now there's the real c-word...

Why do you want to give up? What positives will that bring??

LeeDahlen38

Read your own profile picture. Join my #OnePound Challenge. Take the pressure off.... Stress kills weight loss as well! But more importantly, you wrote this post becuase you haven't REALLY given up. You just want some help! That's what we are here for! Read this: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/918510-introduction-blog-required-instructions-welcome Then friend me if you like. and most of all.... Know that I Believe In YOU! Lee

fitfreakymom

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> Your mind gives up before your legs do!

lol I am pretty sure my legs were begging my mind to let them stop yesterday during my workout.

Deipneus

"Whether you think you can or think you can't - you're right". - Henry Ford

fitfreakymom

Well you can give up and go back to where you started from and really feel like **** about yourself OR you can pick yourself up off the floor, wipe your tears, get off the couch and get your *kitten* back to the gym ad continue on with your day.

wllwsmmr

I know what you mean! It gets daunting at times and this applies to everything in life. For me, I realised that giving up my 'perfectionism' helps. I made myself believe that I HAD to follow this perfect diet I had in mind, and NO MISTAKES can be condoned. Being too strict is bad because when you slip up it feels especially painful ):
It took me years of mentally torturing myself and yo-yo weighting like crazy before I have finally 'given up' on the all or nothing mentality. Because really, if you're going to continue being alive, you have A LIFETIME to lose weight... There is no need to rush it! Doing it healthy way works... It just takes more time and hence PATIENCE is key. I used to be so skeptical, hence leading to the restricting and binging habit... And now Binging is with me for life. Even if I am no longer restricting now, I still have binging urges, still do have bad binges etc but well I have to live with the mistake.

Yes you can be pissed off, get down, throw a tantrum, cry a river.... But do that for a day and NO MORE. No moping for consecutive days. Wallow in self pity for one day, release that stress, vent all the angst, and then tell yourself YOU ARE GETTING BACK ON YOUR FEET.

I have also realised that unless you have some medical conditions or allergies, do not every feel like eating 100% clean is a must. Yes eating healthy natural raw foods are good, aim to eat as much as possible, but there WILL be days where you just wanna eat crap. DO IT. Try to arrange it such that you stay near your caloric goal. Do an extra workout to compensate. Even if you don't and you go CRAZY with the calorie intake, LOOK AT YOUR WEEKLY average. Your body will not be RUINED because of a few days. Heck, after being very strict and having a nice body, I had ONE WHOLE WEEK of absolutely no exercise and stuffing myself with junk all day and then yes I got bloated and looked bad, but I was no where near where I started, and after that I got back on track and a few days in the bloat was GONE. Then about a week and I WAS BACK TO MY SLIM SELF. Remember, drastically increasing calories causes BLOAT, that reflects on the scale and the reflection on the mirror and you THINK you've gained back ALL THAT FAT just in the few days. NADA.

If this is all too overwhelming, take a break. Heck, a diet break IS good for breaking plateaus! Focus on MAINTAINING maybe? You sure don't want to go back to where you started and wasted all your efforts?

BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY, while I don't know what your caloric goals/exercise goals are like, and whether you're being too restrictive, but if you are, I URGE YOU to go to https://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/937712-in-place-of-a-road-map-ver-3-0 and try to do it the healthy way.. I AM IN THE PROCESS OF TRYING IT AND IT DOES WORK.. And definitely feels much more sustainable.

You need to know that whatever changes you make, you have to KEEP IT UP FOR LIFE. So drastic changes are not advised.

Sorry for the rambly preaching, all the best and stay positive x

FindingMyself24

Like someone said you could give up but is that going to get you to your goal? NO. Dont give up. Just push through this. I know what your going through. One moment I am so determined and i get down to 180 then I go off and eat bad and gain. I have been trying for weeks to get in the 170's and its driving me nuts because i keep messing up and putting myself back. It will take me one day to put on the two or three pounds and several just to get it back off. Today I just reached 180 again and I have decided I am not going to mess up and I am going to keep pushing. Losing weight is not an over night thing its a very long journey. There are going to be rough spots but you have to keep your head up and keep pushing. You will lose the weight just keep it up. Keep counting and keep exercising. Then when you reach your goals it will all be worth it! Maybe you just need a push or more inspiration. I like to go on youtube and watch people's success videos. I keeps me motivated and makes me feel like I can do this! Every time I mess up I try not to sweat it. Tomorrow is a new day which means a chance to try again.

wllwsmmr

"Whether you think you can or think you can't - you're right". - Henry Ford

Thanks for this, it spoke to me

mrs_joshica

I've done so well. I've lost 16 pounds in a little over 2 months, and I've lost 6 pounds while doing MFP for the past month. But in the past 2 days, I'm pretty sure I've ruined it all. I've eaten SO MUCH. I feel so guilty all of the time now. I couldn't even make time to work out today. I can't take the amount of pressure I put on myself. I feel like a fat hippo who can never amount to anything because I end up failing anyways. I'm ready to give up. I'm just so done with constantly putting myself down..and I know I shouldn't feel the amount of shame I feel when I eat something I know I shouldn't, and that just makes me eat more. Please help...

First step to weight loss is this, "LOVE YOURSELF" You've got to love yourself enough to know when NOT to be hard on yourself, and enough to know when to push yourself, and walk in the wisdom to know the difference. I don't think there is an honest person on this weight loss journey that has NOT been in your shoes. Please remember that this is a journey, it is not a race to the finish line. Take a step back, evaluate what you are doing, and why you are doing it, and then give yourself time TO DO IT.

Yes, there are some days where we fall completely on our faces and miss the mark totally; these are the days where we have to just get up, dust ourselves off, and say, OK, I failed, but I'm going to keep trying. Take "I Can't" out of your vocabulary, and put "I Can", and "I WILL" in its place, because YOU CAN DO THIS! But, you have to want to.Too often do we give up on ourselves prematurely. Let this be your turning point to allow yourself some time to evaluate what you need to stop doing, what you need to continue doing, and where you have opportunities to improve, but NEVER EVER GIVE UP!

jodymaro1

The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live. Have faith in YOURSELF. I know all about guilt. Change your thoughts and it will change your actions. Forgive yourself and never give up.

never124get

DONT give up. You are so close. And look how far you have come! Please stick with it and take it a day at a time. I know looking at things as a big picture seem overwhelming but don't fret! Take each day as it comes. You can do it because you have come this far already! We all mess up from time to time because we are human. But don't look at this as a sign of weakness and defeat. Take this in stride and learn from it. You can do it!

MReckward

In regard to the meditation post.........I love that! I've learned the way we talk to ourselves is worse than anyone! We would not tolerate anyone to talk to us or anyone else the way we talk and shame ourselves!

Sweet_Gurl_Next_Door

It took me 2 1/2 years to get from 250 down to 176 pounds. there were times I wanted to give up to but I said to myself how badly do you want this Katie? that gave me the push to keep going. its like anything you have to really want it and allow that to be your motivating factor. your are not that far away. I have almost double your amount to reach my goal weight but I am not giving up. I see it that I am one step closer. when i first began I had 110 pounds to lose to get to my goal weight.

let me ask you how bad do you want to lose weight? do you really want it? if you do your going to have to work for it? there are no quick fixes or fast results

think of all the people who you inspire who see your progress and are probably watching you. there are people who you inspire and probably don't know it. what will you tell those people if they ask why you gave up after being so close to the goal.

Yasmine91

One day of eating badly isn't the end of the world. Last night, I had 20 snack a jacks, 16 brownies, fool mudammes, baba ganoosh and chocolate. I've probably eaten well over 3000 calories. Ah well, you pick yourself back up and carry on. And you have eight pounds left.

So tell that little voice in your head to pipe down and bugger off because you can do this.

seif0068

I've done so well. I've lost 16 pounds in a little over 2 months, and I've lost 6 pounds while doing MFP for the past month. But in the past 2 days, I'm pretty sure I've ruined it all. I've eaten SO MUCH. I feel so guilty all of the time now. I couldn't even make time to work out today. I can't take the amount of pressure I put on myself. I feel like a fat hippo who can never amount to anything because I end up failing anyways. I'm ready to give up. I'm just so done with constantly putting myself down..and I know I shouldn't feel the amount of shame I feel when I eat something I know I shouldn't, and that just makes me eat more. Please help...

Did two days of eating really well result in losing the 16 pounds? No. So two days of eating really badly will not undo all the work you have done. It happened...now you just go back to eating on track and move on. Maybe you need to build in some cheat days for yourself so that it's planned for and you don't have to feel guilty. That's what I do! I've lost 25 pounds in 6 months and am 5 pounds from my goal weight and that's with a cheat day EVERY WEEKEND.

seanezekiel

When i slip up I just tell myself to give my head a shake and buck up and start again the next day. A couple weeks ago i had like 6 bags of chips and 4 chocolate bars in one day. Chips are/were my favorite thing ever and I NEEDED them. Next day i slapped myself and got back at it. I logged them to all could see my shame

ehsan517

its TWO days.
even if you BINGE for 2 days, you will hardly put on a LOT of weight.
hence the use of capitals. just relax...we have to live a little...we are not competetive bodybuilders.
get back on track. monitor ur diet and training as usual and you will be back on track in literally 3 days or so.

i go out of my way to cheat once a week...to keep my sanity...to enjoy myself a little...i love it and never feel guilty. i probably overeat for a day and then my weight goes up by 2 kilos for the next 3 days(water weight) and after 3 days of eating healthy and training, im back to normal and still developing.

relax and get back up. happes to all of us. giving up is the worst option out there.period.

succubaeangel

People who have been losing a lot of fat (+50lbs) can tell you how many times they ate more than they wanted to during their journey. It will happen. There will be that time when you'll be hungry or stressed or your body won't take the restrictions no more. The point is not to be perfect but to try your best.
Calm down, don't give up.

Xhell_on_heelsX

I understand where you're coming from, but putting everything in perspective...you have 8 pounds to go....seriously 8 pounds. Some people like myself have about 20-30 pounds to go...some have 50..some have more than 100 pounds to lose. You have to get it in your mind sometimes you're going to have cheat days...no one on this site can say they haven't had one or haven't thought about having a cheat day filled with sh*tty eating and no exercise...it's apart of the journey, it's going to happen. But having one or a few days like that is not going to ruin you or your journey. C'mon girl, you got this and you know it.

Sparlingo

Let's just say, for the same of argument, that you HAVE undone all of your previous weight-loss good (which I don't believe is true).

If you were starting back at square one, are you content to stay there? Is this what you want for yourself? Giving up means staying put. I doubt that's what you want, so let's try something different:

Forgive yourself. Be kind to yourself. LOVE yourself. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep going. WITHOUT punishing yourself or restricting too severely. Even if it's two steps forward and one step back, you are headed in the right direction.

freelancejouster

I'm kind of in the same boat as you, though I've not been losing as quickly. It's been something like 8 pounds in two and half months. Last weekend I fell off the wagon and basically just ate nachos, chocolate, and mac and cheese for two days straight, and this weekend I've been so busy with my research project that I haven't had time to work out once, and as a result, finished most days over my goal.

The thing I've realized, though, is that I managed to stay under my TDEE every time I went over, which is kind of awesome in itself.

Sometimes you need to take a break and fall off the wagon so you know how horrible it feels to not be as healthy as you want to be, as healthy as you CAN be.

I'm with you on this, but you need to stop saying that you can't.

fit4lifeUcan2

I've done so well. I've lost 16 pounds in a little over 2 months, and I've lost 6 pounds while doing MFP for the past month. But in the past 2 days, I'm pretty sure I've ruined it all. I've eaten SO MUCH. I feel so guilty all of the time now. I couldn't even make time to work out today. I can't take the amount of pressure I put on myself. I feel like a fat hippo who can never amount to anything because I end up failing anyways. I'm ready to give up. I'm just so done with constantly putting myself down..and I know I shouldn't feel the amount of shame I feel when I eat something I know I shouldn't, and that just makes me eat more. Please help...

Do you really want to undo all of your hard work you've already put into this? Plus it's likely you'll gain even more. So you've had 2 bad days. It's not a big deal so don't make it worse than it is. You want to be a quitter? Then quit. Quitting is the easy way out. I go for months without exercising but I've stuck with it for over a year now and have 5 to go. You think I'm going to quit because my weight loss didn't go anywhere for 3 straight months? NO! Life happens. Pick yourself up and move on. Don't make excuses. If you want a pity party fine. Have it for a day. But don't let it go on any longer and don't expect others to join your pity party. You're only hurting yourself. You only have 8 pounds to go and you want to quit? Really? What happens when something really hard comes your way? Are you going to quit that too? Don't mean to be harsh but take a reality check. Get over it and move on.

CoachReddy

Get over it.

What do you want? To be thinner? Feel good about yourself? Like the person you see in the mirror? Be more confident? Wear cuter clothes?

Tell me how the hell any of that is going to come true if you give up. Do it. Tell me. Right now.

Quit whining and moping and feeling all bad about yourself and ****ing do something about it. Because trust me, nobody else in this thread really gives a ****. Two minutes after they posted their message of "support" they've moved on with their lives and forgotten about you. The only lasting motivation won't come from strangers on a message board, but from YOU. YOU have to want it, and YOU have to know why. Because at the end of the day, YOU are the only person YOU are accountable to. End of story.

So why do you want it?

theCarlton

I give up, too. You quit, I quit. We're done here! Let's go.

KellyHealthyBrindle

HA, Jenna, I hope that's your name...If I were to follow your theory that two days "ruins" ones weight loss ...I am soooo in trouble..lol.. Let's see.. I had Dairy Queen - Medium Double Fudge Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Blizard on Monday, 5 possibly six slices of Pepperoni & Sausage Pizza on Thursday, and last night I had 3 Twix Candy Bars. I do not know how you could of possbily been worse then me in the last 5 days...do tell me..;)

Lovingly,

Kelly

zichab

I do not want to sound condescending here at all, but you are only 18 years old and according to your diary, you kind of "got into your Easter basket" a couple of days early! Good for you! CELEBRATE spring with that bunny! If one of your friends said "I am a hideous person because I overage some Easter candy!" my hunch is, you would say that was an overreaction right? So, be your own best friend and acknowledge that sometimes, we need to "be a kid" and indulge in things we normally do not. For me, it is all the great dips and finger foods at all the Christmas parties. Savor it and acknowledge that holidays carry memories for us, like an Easter Basket, that we want to relive when we grow up. It is OK! Losing weight is wonderful, but not if you can't live life and celebrate once in awhile. I think you are a super young person who is still on touch with being a child! Do not ever lose that.

yamsteroo

I'm going to have a 'bad' couple of days myself because we're out for dinner tonight and I don't want to order salad (it's a really great restaurant and I want to enjoy it!) and of course tomorrow, there is Easter Sunday lunch followed by chocolate eggs.

Mentally, I've written off any weight loss next week and braced myself for possibly a small gain (though I'm going to exercise as much as I can to avoid that if I can), but I won't give up because I don't want to be starting from 181lb again, I'd rather start from 164lb or at a push, 165lb. I'll do the same a various points along the way until I reach goal but I won't give up as it's been a lot of work to lose the first 17lb so I'm not going to let it slide.

So don't give up - imagine how bad you'll feel if you have to lose the same LBs again and again because you gave up so close to your goal?

cwolfman13

you can't undo 2 months of progress in a couple of days.

here's my question...what the hell are you going to do once you're back in "real life?" The one where you're not on a "diet"...the one where you're just living and doing what you do? What happens then? You going to go to a party or BBQ or something and overdo it a little and just say **** it and pack the Lbs back on?

I think you need to adjust your mentality...none of this is for a day or two...or a few weeks or whatever. You should be teaching yourself how to make better overall decisions as part of an overall lifestyle rather than focusing on isolated events.

RedneckMomma77

Every person is their own worst enemy! I haven't been able to log my food this week, because I haven't been home, and where I was didn't have enough signal for me to do it on my phone. So I figure I consistently went over my goal calories. But, I needed to be where I was because of family illness, and now a family death. Does that mean that I am doomed to fail? No. Does it mean that I have undone everything? No. I'll just start again tomorrow, because today isn't going to be a good day either. I have to get dressed up, and carry myself like there is nothing wrong, and keep going. Lunch is being served by a local church for the family, and all kidding aside, I'm in the south, and we have some very unhealthy cooking habits. But, I will go and enjoy the time with family, and wish that it was for a different reason than what it is. Tomorrow, I will start over again, and just chalk this entire week up to life. Life happens whether we want it to or not, and it will knock you on your @$$ from time to time. When that happens we have two options. 1.) Cowboy/cowgirl up or 2.) Lay in the dirt. Get up, dust yourself off, and keep pushing forward. If that saying doesn't do it for ya, here's another one. Pull up your big boy/girl panties, and get it done.

We define ourselves in times of struggle, not in times of comfort! You can do this, so stop beating yourself up.