Male opinions please...

TheWinman

If he was really interested, he would have found you and said hello. IMO He is no longer interested.

Kevintron2

Not good.

TheWinman

1) He was freaked out that you were in the gym unexpectedly and felt stalked. 5%

2) He was just busy working out, wasn't expecting to meet you there, and had to go. 30%

3) For whatever reason, he's not into you. 65%

The only way to find out is to ask, but honestly, Joy_Joy is right, wait. If he wants to contact you, he will. Nothing will run a guy off faster than pestering.

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RedHotHunter

If he was really interested, he would have found you and said hello. IMO He is no longer interested.

Yep.



Well thanks everyone.
I'm not going to beat a dead horse LOL
I'll simply not respond to the "I left" message and keep my feet moving. If he realizes "whoops, she thinks I dissed her" and messages me I'm ok with that. Otherwise I just wasnt the one for him. Life is good. Love is good. Trying to date is hard :drinker:

RedHotHunter

1) He was freaked out that you were in the gym unexpectedly and felt stalked. 5%

2) He was just busy working out, wasn't expecting to meet you there, and had to go. 30%

3) For whatever reason, he's not into you. 65%

The only way to find out is to ask, but honestly, Joy_Joy is right, wait. If he wants to contact you, he will. Nothing will run a guy off faster than pestering.

fixed

LOL

TheWinman

If he was really interested, he would have found you and said hello. IMO He is no longer interested.

Yep.



Well thanks everyone.
I'm not going to beat a dead horse LOL
I'll simply not respond to the "I left" message and keep my feet moving. If he realizes "whoops, she thinks I dissed her" and messages me I'm ok with that. Otherwise I just wasnt the one for him. Life is good. Love is good. Trying to date is hard :drinker:

THat's a good attitude. Yes, trying to date is hard. I've just about had it with the games of online dating. Good luck.

amandapye78

if it were me, I would say I had been dissed and move on,

2stepscloser

Its not beyond the realm of possibility that the man in question has zero social skills and was too anxious to stick around to meet you.
If he wants to meet - leave it up to him. The ball's now in his court.
kind regards,

Ben

This.... I wouldn't text him back.

dirtyd89

Every guy is different just like every other woman is different.

You just have to keep trying and eventually you'll get lucky.

You got to plant a lot of seeds before something grows.
(Pun intended.)



Me personally I'm the type of guy when I'm working out I don't want to be bothered.
(This guy that your talking to could of been the same way. Just wanted to get his work out done and go home.)

BeachIron

1) He was freaked out that you were in the gym unexpectedly and felt stalked. 5%

2) He was just busy working out, wasn't expecting to meet you there, and had to go. 30%

3) For whatever reason, he's not into you. 65%

The only way to find out is to ask, but honestly, Joy_Joy is right, wait. If he wants to contact you, he will. Nothing will run a guy off faster than pestering.

fixed

It depends on whether you count (1) with the guys in relationships, but yea, being brutally honest, you're about right.

ClintShields

Considering I go to the gym 5/6 days a week, see the same people over and over and still barely get nods from the fitness trainers or others working out, i'd say him giving you a nod after making eye contact is GREAT! Like most have said, he could be shy, busy, or like myself prefer not to stop and start up conversation in the gym as it side tracks me and start to lose my motivation to keep working out. It's happened multiple times and after the 3rd/4th person you get in a 5/10 minute convo with you just cut so much into your workout. It's only the first time seeing him there after connecting, dont be touchy, just be friendly and it'll work out!

DonnaNCgirl

I've just about had it with the games of online dating. Good luck.

I found out that I'm so not into the whole online dating thing - at least for now but that's another worthy thread. :drinker:

skinnyinnotime

kind regards,

Ben

Aww cute

TheWinman

I've just about had it with the games of online dating. Good luck.

I found out that I'm so not into the whole online dating thing - at least for now but that's another worthy thread. :drinker:

I could write a book on it. I just might do that someday.

sPaRkLiNgLYFE

this is a difficult situation to read. my first instinct was that it was a "diss." sure, he could be shy or have no social skills....but if you're interested in someone and they make it clear that they are nearby...wouldn't you go say hi?

if i were you, i'd wait it out. if he texts you or comes up to you next time you're in the gym, disregard what i'm saying now. i don't suggest you ask him about it...that could come off as super clingy.

^^^^^ i agree

RedHotHunter

Y'all are great!!!

Thank you for letting me know I'm not the only one that sucks at dating (online or otherwise) As with my health and fitness, I'll just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
:drinker: :drinker: :drinker: :drinker:

yoyofighter

OMG. :laugh: Not all that helpful at the moment but I'll save that for later for sure!

I *kitten* love this!!!!!

Doodlewhopper

The trail is cold. Call in the dogs. Pee on the fire. There aint nothing happening here.

Trust me, if he is interested, it's not very much.

NormInv

My last woman trained me not to have opinions.

RedHotHunter

My last woman trained me not to have opinions.

LMAO Oh dear...

sPaRkLiNgLYFE

Considering I go to the gym 5/6 days a week, see the same people over and over and still barely get nods from the fitness trainers or others working out, i'd say him giving you a nod after making eye contact is GREAT! Like most have said, he could be shy, busy, or like myself prefer not to stop and start up conversation in the gym as it side tracks me and start to lose my motivation to keep working out. It's happened multiple times and after the 3rd/4th person you get in a 5/10 minute convo with you just cut so much into your workout. It's only the first time seeing him there after connecting, dont be touchy, just be friendly and it'll work out!

why didn't he just say that?

lilpoindexter

Are you in junior high? If you are interested, go over there and say wassup.

RedHotHunter

Are you in junior high? If you are interested, go over there and say wassup.

I believe the point of my post was that I was trying to do just that.
You do realize that by asking "are you in jr high" you just made it sound as if you are? Your rude comment was unneccessary.
:grumble:

TheRealJigsaw

If you are interested, go over there and say wassup.

I agree

Scott15Fit

If you are interested, go over there and say wassup.

Or text him back saying "You should come say hello next time"

Most guys don't get subtle hints, alot of guys don't get obvious ones, if you want attention ask for it.

RedHotHunter

If you are interested, go over there and say wassup.

I agree

That reads sooo much better without the first sentence included.
Point is that i was tryin. After all the feedback I'm of the mind that he might be nterested but only slightly. So I'll leave communication up to him. If I do see him there again, I'll walk right up mid set and say hello. If that's too subtlle, then he's not the right guy for me anyway.

markdavy1982

He might be embarrassed as your in better shape

kmshred

i'd next him! personally.

kazmurphblin

Dont ask him!!! Who cares?? Continue to just wave and say hello let him come to you after all its not like you know him??

Justjamie0418

eh, My gut says a diss. But he could have been running late someplace, or maybe he was going on another date? I don't know. Where you completely honest in your POF profile? ie pictures, etc? I know when I was single the last time there were plenty of people who I saw on there that I know from this being a small town and they are NOTHING like how they portray themselves... Was he just as you expected him to be appearance wise? Maybe he was embarrassed?

Let us know what happens!