Fake support!?

Trueray
Trueray Posts: 1,189 Member
in Motivation and Support
Why do people say "great diary" or "good job" when I am 1000+ calories over my daily limit. Their is nothing great about that and it frustrates me that people will give me that false sense of motivation. It is not making me or other people any better, the truth is what helps people be aware of their mistakes and helps them grow. So stop the madness and just be honest or don't respond at all. Agree or disagree?
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  • Justkeepswimmin
    Justkeepswimmin Posts: 777 Member
    I used to get a bunch of "good jobs" when I was 'under' my goal but my macros we're messed up. I don't get it either.
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,320 Member
    I have to agree. If someone goes that far over, I might say, "Dont worry, tomorrow is another day." or, if they were expecting to go over (a party or big night out), I tell them their food looks yummy and hope they had a great time.
  • Gr8ChangesAhead
    Gr8ChangesAhead Posts: 836 Member
    I don't comment on other peoples diaries, makes that easy enough. I may look to get ideas but what you eat is your choice.
  • Sunny_fit4life
    Sunny_fit4life Posts: 157 Member
    I only comment on a food/exercise diary if I actually look at it and it looks healthy... which doesn't happen often, but does occasionally. You never know when you're writing "hey great job staying under" and the person ate like 800 calories that day. Then you look like a jerk.
  • tatd_820
    tatd_820 Posts: 573 Member
    True story is that your profile pic is smoking hot! As for the fake support. I see a lot of that. I tend to comment on friends diary's when I really think they did a good job. If not, I skip over, tell them they need to eat more or tell them that tomorrow is a new day with new choices to be made.
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    I stopped commenting on friends diaries because some people don't want hear the truth if they are starving themselves so it's rare if I do now.
  • Trueray
    Trueray Posts: 1,189 Member
    Truestory is that your profile pic is smoking hot! As for the fake support. I see a lot of that. I tend to comment on friends diary's when I really think they did a good job. If not, I skip over, tell them they need to eat more or tell them that tomorrow is a new day with new choices to be made.

    Thanks thats me.
  • Trueray
    Trueray Posts: 1,189 Member
    I stopped commenting on friends diaries because some people don't want hear the truth if they are starving themselves so it's rare if I do now.

    I might need to start doing this more.
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,320 Member
    I stopped commenting on friends diaries because some people don't want hear the truth if they are starving themselves so it's rare if I do now.

    I wont comment on anyone's diary that has too low a calorie consumption. And if a person's diary isn't open, I just say I hope they had a good day.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    I rarely comment unless I feel concerned by how little they ate or they ate something that sounds awesome and I feel I should talk about how great said food is.
  • OMGeeeHorses
    OMGeeeHorses Posts: 732 Member
    it would help me if people were blunt and honest. Everyone is too nice to me!

    Ditto I like honesty, one of my friends went 1200 over sodium.. I told them they had a great calorie day but to watch out for the sodium it will make them bloat. So good with bad :) I am a tough lover kinda person. You either want it, or not at all!
  • bekah818
    bekah818 Posts: 179 Member
    I posted something very similar to this a few days ago. I feel like the comments tend to be generic. I have some greats friends that give constructive feedback but other than I find that what you say is true.
  • DestroyTheOpposition
    DestroyTheOpposition Posts: 444 Member
    Why do people say "great diary" or "good job" when I am 1000+ calories over my daily limit. Their is nothing great about that and it frustrates me that people will give me that false sense of motivation. It is not making me or other people any better, the truth is what helps people be aware of their mistakes and helps them grow. So stop the madness and just be honest or don't respond at all. Agree or disagree?

    I hear ya bro. for sure agree
  • LadyBeryl
    LadyBeryl Posts: 344 Member
    I say "good logging" because it is important to log even when you are over and I'm not faking it.
  • Trueray
    Trueray Posts: 1,189 Member
    I say "good logging" because it is important to log even when you are over and I'm not faking it.

    I understand good logging and i agree with you
  • dixiewhiskey
    dixiewhiskey Posts: 3,333 Member
    Disagree.

    Make a thread, ask for honest people who spend their life on the computer to add you. Now you have a babysitter(s). Problem solved.

    Trust me, I guarantee you that if I added you and told you that your day sucked, you would have a e-cow and delete me. Guarantee it. A lot of people on here don't like hearing the truth and would rather folks encourage them than remind them that they are doing poorly. I say do what I suggested or get over it. You should be happy any one is even bothering to acknowledge you daily.
  • dixiewhiskey
    dixiewhiskey Posts: 3,333 Member
    Also to go further, if I do actually get the time to comment and say "good day" "great logging" etc, it's because I saw you tried. What is the big deal in someone doing that?
  • Thena81
    Thena81 Posts: 1,265 Member
    some ppl take cheat days so i dont wanna be mean when its on purpose. it does hAppen. i cheat my *kitten* off when i can lol
  • megsmom2
    megsmom2 Posts: 2,362 Member
    I don't comment or look often at diaries. Most of my friends are doing great...although a couple of them seem to never eat a vegetable...we do support each other, just not about what everyones eating every day.
  • Txracy
    Txracy Posts: 78
    LOL, my friends are honest with me! They tell me cut the cookies, add fresh fruit, and gave me some ideas on what I could do to up my protein intake without eating an entire cow.

    I keep my friend circle small though, so it's easier for us to actually check each others' diaries, and see their workouts etc.
  • donyellemoniquex3
    donyellemoniquex3 Posts: 2,384 Member
    Amen
  • DragonflyF15
    DragonflyF15 Posts: 437 Member
    For me it's simple:
    Don't have an open diary for me to see and it says under, I don't comment.
    Don't have an open diary for me to see and it doesn't say under, I don't comment.
    Have an open diary and you go over with lots of junkie foods, I don't comment.
    Have an open diary and you are under, but eat crappy foods, I don't comment.
    Have an open diary and you are under or just a reasonable amount over and eat healthy, I say kick *kitten* and stuff like that :)

    I guess for some it's just about calories, but for me it's about being healthy and keeping things in moderation and balance!
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    People don't look at your diary they just comment so that it seems like they actually care and you won't delete them due to inactivity.
  • DragonflyF15
    DragonflyF15 Posts: 437 Member
    I say "good logging" because it is important to log even when you are over and I'm not faking it.

    That's a good one, guess I could say that for the occasional slip ups :)
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    Honestly I really do not comment much and I don't really like getting comments.
  • lovinmyselfagain
    lovinmyselfagain Posts: 307 Member
    I try to just give helpful hints. So if they had a dish that was heavy on the calories/fat/sodium, I would tell them ways to tweak it to make it lighter, healthier, etc...I don't comment that often anymore on diaries and only when I feel like I have something "real" to contribute...
  • FitGuyWillDoIt
    FitGuyWillDoIt Posts: 111 Member
    I give honest support. I do give props when things are good and encouragement when they are not. I just try to help people back up.
    I'd never tell people "great job" if it's not deserved. I do tell people that tomorrow is another day and encourage them to kick butt. As for me, I don't publish my diary.
  • dixiewhiskey
    dixiewhiskey Posts: 3,333 Member
    People don't look at your diary they just comment so that it seems like they actually care and you won't delete them due to inactivity.

    Truth be told!
  • OneEyeUp
    OneEyeUp Posts: 373 Member
    Fake support reminds me of the people in the elevator who just HAVE to say something. " Man this weather is cold huh?"
    I mean WTF? OBVIOUSLY its cold, we JUST walked inside together.
  • charismanoodles
    charismanoodles Posts: 343 Member
    I usually comment if the food sounds healthy/delicious and within calories/macros. I admit I mainly look at diaries to steal meal ideas.....I'm bad.

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