What do you say when this happens to you?

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  • knittingwitch
    knittingwitch Posts: 231 Member
    I have literally no idea why this conversation would offend or bother you in any way? Am I missing the point here?

    ditto

    (but only 1200 calories/day and working out 7 days/week is way beyond needed)

    and what would have I said in response:
    "I just make it a priority to not eat more than I use"

    but I am a person of short answers due to all the homeschool questions I use to get.

    Well I like what I'm doing and I didn't ask for your opinion on my eating or workout regiment.
  • knittingwitch
    knittingwitch Posts: 231 Member
    I honestly don't know why this would offend you. He is just making excuses for himself as to why he can't get in shape. Many people don't want to change their eating habits and/or work their @$$ off. Sucks for him

    Because I don't want to hear the excuses, I don't care, and I don't want to tell him oh well do this instead. If he was really interested in losing weight he wouldn't be making up excuses. But instead he is trying to waist my time.
  • milf_n_cookies
    milf_n_cookies Posts: 2,244 Member
    People want to here that it was easy, that you did it some magical way they have never heard of that is simple. They don't want to hear the truth, that it's a daily struggle and you have to work your *kitten* off to get it and keep it.
  • Hexahedra
    Hexahedra Posts: 894 Member
    He gave you a compliment, so thank him for it. You don't know his exact circumstances, so just accept whatever he's saying because it's his problem, not yours. Don't worry about his negativity because he has no power to stop you from doing what you need to do (in terms of exercise and eating healthy). If his negativity alone is enough to make you stop, then your motivation is not strong enough.
  • sexymuffintop
    sexymuffintop Posts: 636
    I honestly don't know why this would offend you. He is just making excuses for himself as to why he can't get in shape. Many people don't want to change their eating habits and/or work their @$$ off. Sucks for him

    Because I don't want to hear the excuses, I don't care, and I don't want to tell him oh well do this instead. If he was really interested in losing weight he wouldn't be making up excuses. But instead he is trying to waist my time.

    The poor guy was probably just trying to initiate a bit of conversation to be polite and thought complimenting you would be a safe option perhaps. He probably had no idea a casual comment as to why he couldnt lose weight the way you have would cause you such offence. And for the record I couldn't do it your way either, so he's not alone in his viewpoint. 1200cals and working out 7 days a week? No thanks!!
  • seena511
    seena511 Posts: 685 Member
    i understand why it's frustrating. i'd liken it to the people who come on here asking if this or that diet fad is a good idea, or asking why they're not losing weight netting 600 calories a day, and get upset when people try to show them what's wrong with that. why would he bother asking you about it if he's just going to brush it off? it's obnoxious, but not much you can do with it besides say something snarky...like pointing out that a toddler is a lot harder to work out around than teenagers.
  • seena511
    seena511 Posts: 685 Member
    He gave you a compliment, so thank him for it. You don't know his exact circumstances, so just accept whatever he's saying because it's his problem, not yours. Don't worry about his negativity because he has no power to stop you from doing what you need to do (in terms of exercise and eating healthy). If his negativity alone is enough to make you stop, then your motivation is not strong enough.

    what i wanted to say, but better
  • Lupercalia
    Lupercalia Posts: 1,857 Member
    It wouldn't bother me. If he wants to make excuses, that's not your problem. His weight problem and/or lack of fitness isn't your problem, either. You don't need to offer him solutions for his bizarre childcare issues for teenage boys or anything like that. I wouldn't say anything about his excuses at all, in fact. Just pull a little frowny face, say "aww, that's too bad..." (or something like that) and keep rolling. He has to work his own issues out himself.

    Nothing to get annoyed by, IMO.
  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
    A few years ago I went from 170 of very out of shape me to 132 pounds of working out hard me. I did it all here, and it was very obvious I had made big changes. Because I was so happy and healthy, I wanted to share with anyone who asked.

    After the 3rd or 4th time I told the story in detail I realized they were looking for the majic pill in the story! Blah blah blah OH! there it is.

    I was telling this one girl how I was on MFP, logged all my food, changed the foods I ate, worked my way up to more and stronger exercise. As her eyes glazed over I was going to just stop, but I really think she wanted to make changes. My last sentence was "Well, I switched out the potato chips for brocolli......."

    She perked right up and said "OH I LOVE BROCOLLI!! I can DO brocolli!"

    Not another word had been heard, just that she could eat brocolli and lose nearly 40 pounds with no effort.

    This same young lady went on to lose a great deal of weight, so she did get it at some point, but I never went into detail again. From then on I said "I ate healthier and exercised more and lost some weight BONUS!"
  • jerryallegood
    jerryallegood Posts: 31 Member
    I've been told I'm so lucky that I can eat so much and not gain weight.. I just laugh in their faces.


    Lucky.. yeah, that's it. :wink:

    a couple weeks ago, for the first time EVER in my life, I was told "I don't think you need to worry about dieting" and I laughed and said, "You could be my new best friend!" and then told her my story. It was awesome. :)

    Can't get any better than that!
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
    I have literally no idea why this conversation would offend or bother you in any way? Am I missing the point here?

    ditto

    (but only 1200 calories/day and working out 7 days/week is way beyond needed)

    and what would have I said in response:
    "I just make it a priority to not eat more than I use"

    but I am a person of short answers due to all the homeschool questions I use to get.

    Well I like what I'm doing and I didn't ask for your opinion on my eating or workout regiment.

    SMH

    In asking how we would respond given your details and conversation I assumed you were asking for opinions about it all. But I know see you just want to hear from people that agree with your point of view. My mistake. Sorry.
  • MsCristie
    MsCristie Posts: 27 Member
    I've had similar experiences. Just the other day, I was explaining that I am watching my calories (I have changed what I eat and how much) and I am exercising. My co-worker looked and me and said "no, really." When I said that was what I was doing she said "well it is isn't easy and quick I won't do it. " LOL- okay. After these interactions I am really wondering if I should continue to share my hard work or just thank them and say nothing more.
  • NamibianRose
    NamibianRose Posts: 151 Member
    I find this: "my co-worker's husband comes in to change his wife's vacation days in the work calender." to be the oddest part of the entire story.
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    My question is: are people really that daft?
    Do they really NOT know how to lose weight? :huh:
  • pobalita
    pobalita Posts: 741 Member
    This is a major pet peeve of mine too. People ask me what I did to lose weight and get fit and when I tell them that I eat right and exercise, they come up with every excuse in the book as to why that would NEVER work for them. They don't have the time, they don't like to exercise, they don't like healthy food...worst of all - they think I have it "easier" than them somehow. I don't. I am a single mom of two boys, I work full time, I commute 80 miles (over 2.5 hours) per day, yet I manage to maintain my home, help my kids with homework, attend soccer games, and STILL find time to work out and cook healthy meals. I just make it a priority.
  • squatsandlipgloss
    squatsandlipgloss Posts: 595 Member
    It depends on what you say. I think saying you eat 1,200 calories a day and work out 7 hours a week might scare anyone. Really not necessary. Might work for you but definitely won't work for anyone, especially when you have a busy life and aren't as serious about losing weight as others.

    When people ask me how I do it I try not to go into detail what I do personally but give them some general advice that THEY can actually work with because they don't ask you this to praise you, they ask because they're interested in doing it themselves. So I would say something like "just eat healthy, make better food choices and work out at least 30 minutes a day, a few times a week."

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