Question for the ladies...

sonjavon

I've been with my SO for 6 years and he knows and has always known how much I weigh. Will I get on the scale in front of him? No.

LOL - me either. It's one thing for him to "know" - another thing for him to see... kinda like pooping... I'm pretty sure he knows that I "do" - he just doesn't need to "see" me do it! LOL!

That is the strangest thing I have ever heard!!! What's the big deal? My bf's usually still in bed but it's like he has a 6th sense for knowing when I'm naked...so as soon as I step on the scale, I know he's peeking. It doesn't bother me. Why should it?

I have a feeling that for me... it's the amount that I'm overweight by... I haven't ever felt comfortable in my own skin... I've been "morbidly obese" my entire adult life. Even when I was in high school and looked "thin" - according to doctors charts and society's ideals - at a size 9, wearing a 38 DDD - I was still considered overweight. When you've never felt "ok" in your body - it's hard to let someone (even the one you love most) see you at your most vulnerable... and standing on the scale naked is when I feel my most vulnerable. Strange or not... it's very much how I feel.

busyiam

I have always told my husband how much I weigh. We'll be married for 20 years at the end of this month and I don't keep things from him, even when I was at my heaviest.

BamaRose0107

My husband has known how much I weigh from the very beginning, he has been with me through my transformation and has been my main support. He even measures me once a month. I still weigh a few pounds more than him, but it does not bother me. I know we are different people with different body types so who cares. He would probably weigh more than me if he had my curves, but then he would just look silly .

asltiffm

My sister and I weigh in together every Monday. I am the only person she has ever told her weight to that isn't a doctor. I feel a little bad for her that we weigh in together because she's 5' even and in the mid 140's. I'm 5'9" and in the 140's. But she started losing weight so she'll be in the 130's soon. My husband knows. I wasn't nervous to tell him at all. It's just a number and if I said I weighed 300 lbs I would still look the same. Recently, I told him my current weight and he about freaked out because the last number he remembers is 165...which was over a year ago. He already doesn't like me losing weight anyway...he's anti health which is odd considering he's had cancer twice. I would have taken something different from that.

FireRox21

Yep, mine knows. I tell him what the scale says, whether it's up or down. When we met 4 years ago, he was about 235lbs and I was 150lbs. In 3 years, we went through hell and back a couple of times together and I gained about 40lbs. He also gained about 35lbs. He eventually had to go on two blood pressure meds and is still on them. He is REALLY lacksidaisical when it comes to going to the gym and is a pain in the *kitten* when it comes to eating healthy. It drives me insane. BUT, this past Christmas after getting on the scale and hitting 190lbs, I decided enough was enough and started my journey. He jumped on the gym wagon for a while, but it has been tough for him. He started a new job and they are constantly changing his hours, so getting him to the gym is tough. I am lucky enough to have the time to go everyday and it's starting to show. Not on the scale, but in the way my clothes are fitting, etc.

I do have to give him credit though. While I was gaining so much weight, he never made a comment to me. He just took it in stride and figured I would wake up and realize just how big I had gotten (luckily I did). Now, he comments all the time about how much thinner I look and even today he commented that my biceps are bigger than his now!!!

So yeah, he knows and is 100% supportive (though he can be quite whiney when it comes to the gym).

mrsmojo82

When my second ex husband and I first started dating, he didn't know. While we were together, I gained a LOT of weight. My highest ever was 309. By this time, we were together a couple of years, so I told him. Right before we got married, I lost a little over 100lbs. We were married a little over a year (together about 5 1/2 total) I gained about 40 lbs. Since we split in Oct., I've lost almost 60.
He never said anything about my weight, even at my highest while we were together, but the night he told me he wanted a divorce he said that I'm very beautiful, and that if I only got into shape, I'd have all sorts of guys flocking to me.
Damn, I hate it when he's right. lol

confuseacat

Heck no! The only one who knows is my doctor and of course myself. Why would he need to know?? And I lock the bathroom door when I get on the scale nekkid. With three kids , husband and one bathroom I better lock the door or they burst in or knock. 'Mom, you in there?"... never fails.
weight is a very personal thing to me and as long as I am losing people can know that, but I just like keeping the number on the scale to myself.That's just me. I have issues from childhood with the scale numbers and I will prob. never get over it so I keep it to myself.

anybristow

Honestly, I have tried to tell my husband but he never believes that I am that heavy. I don't know if that's a good or bad thing. I now only tell him how much my goal weight losses are. Right now it's 20 lbs, and another 20 by my birthday since I got tired of arguing that yes, I am over 200lbs, I promise. Who the hell would lie about that? lol
Even still he tells me that would be too much weight to lose and I'm gonna look like a stick. He has some serious love goggles on.

anybristow

I've been with my SO for 6 years and he knows and has always known how much I weigh. Will I get on the scale in front of him? No.

LOL - me either. It's one thing for him to "know" - another thing for him to see... kinda like pooping... I'm pretty sure he knows that I "do" - he just doesn't need to "see" me do it! LOL!

That is the strangest thing I have ever heard!!! What's the big deal? My bf's usually still in bed but it's like he has a 6th sense for knowing when I'm naked...so as soon as I step on the scale, I know he's peeking. It doesn't bother me. Why should it?

I have a feeling that for me... it's the amount that I'm overweight by... I haven't ever felt comfortable in my own skin... I've been "morbidly obese" my entire adult life. Even when I was in high school and looked "thin" - according to doctors charts and society's ideals - at a size 9, wearing a 38 DDD - I was still considered overweight. When you've never felt "ok" in your body - it's hard to let someone (even the one you love most) see you at your most vulnerable... and standing on the scale naked is when I feel my most vulnerable. Strange or not... it's very much how I feel.

I totally get this, I have been obese since my early 20's. When I was in high school I was probably 20-30lbs. over weight and made to feel like I was 300lbs. I am sure that weight would have shifted around a bit as I got older if I had an accurate idea of how I looked. Unfortunately I felt so big in my mind I never noticed the massive weight gain until I looked at an old picture one day. I am still not comfortable in my skin but am working on it.
There is no way anyone but my doctor (and I'm not even thrilled with that) will see me on a scale; like you that is where I feel naked and vulnerable.

Schula03

My Husband totally knows!!! During and after pregnancy is when he got alll toooo familiar with it! Oh and He weighs maybe 135 pounds. Sick

sniffles

I'm single currently but when I was dating the guys knew. HAHAHAHHA. I mean, I'm REALLY upfront about my weight and if somehow it came up in conversation (which as soon as they find out Im running and watching what I eat they want to know why and it leads to the weight loss discussion which leads to; oh come ON! You don't weigh that much! comment which leads to me revealing my weight).

I think there is a stigma that says women should never reveal their weight OR age but that's silly really. The 'mystique' of women isn't REALLY necessary to 'trap' a man... or to keep him interested, like the women before us believed. Heh.

Barneystinson

Ha... my fiance laughs at me when I'm standing on the Wii getting a lecture from the scale, so yep, he knows my "BMI" (not sure that figure is accurate on the Wii) and my weight.

...and hey, it's all good because I get to laugh at him when he gets the same lecture on the Wii!

chandnikhondji

Do your hubby or boyfriend know how much you weigh?

Yes my boyfriend knows it.. Actually since my tummy is too big to see the sliders of the scale he is the one who reads it while i stand on it. And i can say for myself i like that he knows it.. he sees my progress and can cheer for me.. and if i go up he can support and encourage me to make it better the next week.

irunwithscissors

Mine doesn't, and I prefer to keep it that way. 8yrs ago when we started dating I weighed 20lbs less than him, now I weigh 12lbs more, even after I have lost 13lbs, and he has even gained around 20! I am sure he has a general idea, when I was in the hospital in 2006 I had to say my weight in front of him, and I am heavier now, so I am sure he has an idea.....if he even thinks about it, which I doubt he does. He says I am perfect the way I am!!! Silly man, I am 41lbs above my weight goal, and thats not even the range the world thinks I should weigh! However, if he asked I would tell truthfully.

irunwithscissors

Even still he tells me that would be too much weight to lose and I'm gonna look like a stick. He has some serious love goggles on.

Sounds like my husband! I love the 'love goggles'! That is great. Its great that our men love us the way we are.

KarenECunningham

Yes. I told him. I think he was shocked:noway: We have a great relationship and a long marriage so it was o.k. I know he still loves me