tired of being made fun of need someone to talk to

bertata
bertata Posts: 1
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Hi I'm 19 I've been over weight my whole life I'm ready for a change I'm tired of being made fun of because I'm not a size zero I've done diets before and exercise for some reason I keep gaining weight and I get more depressed I want someone to talk to about this I just want to know I'm not the only one that has this problem I wish people could see that I'm more then my weight
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  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Hey bertata.

    Welcome to the site. I think you'll find that alot of people here have had a similar experience as you and with consistency and effort have been able to change their lives around.

    Best of luck to you.

    :flowerforyou:
  • newtro0925
    newtro0925 Posts: 24 Member
    Welcome to the site. You already made the first step in making a change and always remember that there is more to you then just weight. Use your past as motivation. You will also find plenty of support and motivation on the site as well. Let this be the first day of a new you! Good luck and you can friend me if you like.
  • aaronlawrenc
    aaronlawrenc Posts: 666 Member
    ill be your friend
  • RunsForFood
    RunsForFood Posts: 110 Member
    I promise that you are not the only one with that problem. People can be cruel, you just have to remember that you are better than them, even if you aren't a size zero!
    I hope that myfitnesspal helps you out as it has many others!! Feel free to add me as a friend if you would like :) good luck
  • minihorselover
    minihorselover Posts: 77 Member
    Hi there! keep you chin up deary!! I have been there myself where people even family make fun of you for being anything bigger then a zero. so If ya need a pal I'd love to be your friend on here.
    keep up the good work and you will see success !
  • pinksands143
    pinksands143 Posts: 40
    welcome doll!!!! Keep your head held high you got this!!!
  • KenosFeoh
    KenosFeoh Posts: 1,837 Member
    Remember this: There is no use arguing with stupid people. You are not the *kitten* whisperer.
  • ddky
    ddky Posts: 381 Member
    spend some time reading the success threads to see how amazing their transformations are. It is totally possible to lose weight and get healthy. It won't be quick, it won't be easy, but it will be worth it. You are an adult now, and will find that in the adult world there is a lot less (but it does still exist) of that kind of pettiness and cruelty. Be honest and exact with your food measurements. Don't cut back your calories too drastically or you will damage your metabolism. Do several of the BMR calculators and average them out to get your BMR and then set that as your calorie allowance for the day. Eat back part or maybe half of your exercise calories. You can do this. I wish you all the luck. If you want a 56 year old grandmother as a friend, then send me a request.
  • Frank_Just_Frank
    Frank_Just_Frank Posts: 454 Member
    The bad news is that most people are a-holes. The good news is that the a-holes identify themselves pretty quickly. You'll find nothing but people who sympathize here.
  • tatey2009
    tatey2009 Posts: 47
    You can change your weight, your body shape, your image, your clothing and your mindset but those that grind you down can never change their negative, nasty , short sighted and shallow attitude

    I would rather be a size 16 and a good person than a size zero with a bad attitude - don't let some cruel people drag you down, positivity all the way, set small goals and set about them one day at a time xxx
  • luckyshilling
    luckyshilling Posts: 229
    Awe honey, don't be down, you've found a good place with lots of people going through the same struggles.
    Welcome to the site.

    Use it's tools and enjoy talking with the rest of us, we'll help you get going =)
  • 1two3four
    1two3four Posts: 413 Member
    Hi I'm 19 I've been over weight my whole life I'm ready for a change I'm tired of being made fun of because I'm not a size zero I've done diets before and exercise for some reason I keep gaining weight and I get more depressed I want someone to talk to about this I just want to know I'm not the only one that has this problem I wish people could see that I'm more then my weight

    I'm 5-foot tall and have been over 200-pounds since I was 13-years old. I've heard it all from peers and even family. You are MUCH more than your weight. I've tried dieting in the past and it never stuck. This is different.

    Welcome to My Fitness Pal :) I'm glad you are here.
  • Noodle797
    Noodle797 Posts: 366 Member
    My Grandma bought a button for me to wear when I was in high school that said, "I may be fat, but you're stupid. At least I can go on a diet!" Kind of mean, but funny at the same time. Unfortunately some people are just miserable poo heads & the only way they can feel good about themselves is making fun of other people. Shrug it off because you don't need their validation to be happy. I usually feel sorry for people like that.

    Anyway, I'm in your boat. It takes a long time for me to lose weight. It can be discouraging doing the whole 2 steps forward 1 step back thing, but I'm not giving up. I want to live a longer, healthier life.
  • fisers
    fisers Posts: 7 Member
    People really can suck sometimes, dont let them get you down. I started 56 days ago had am down 25 lbs doing nothing more than tracking every bite I eat, keeping my total calories at 1200 cal and exercising when I can by taking my kids to the park, walking the dog, some free weights at home. NO one loved to eat or cook more than me, I was a true emotional eater and after my two kids were born could not get below 226 which for a 5'1" frame is so unhealthy. My whole goal for losing is for health, looking better is just a plus. The first week was tough, I had headaches and cravings especially when I was stressed but drank my water and hung in there. As my stomach began to shrink and as I started seeing results food wasnt that important, it was something I needed not something I NEEDED. There was no bigger slug than me and I am well on my way to losing it, you can too, just believe in yourself, thats whats important.
  • Dainty59
    Dainty59 Posts: 39 Member
    You can count on me
  • dimitymartin
    dimitymartin Posts: 20
    Hey there, I am 19 in June and I have been made fun of since I was 5 about my weight. I know how it feels and I just want to tell you that if you want to add me feel free. It's time for us to be confident, happy and healthy :)
  • newdaydawning79
    newdaydawning79 Posts: 1,503 Member
    Hi I'm 19 I've been over weight my whole life I'm ready for a change I'm tired of being made fun of because I'm not a size zero I've done diets before and exercise for some reason I keep gaining weight and I get more depressed I want someone to talk to about this I just want to know I'm not the only one that has this problem I wish people could see that I'm more then my weight

    Welcome, hon!

    I was that girl. And I kept on gaining until this year, at nearing 34. I started in January on MFP (for the third time) at my highest weight ever - 288.6. I'm down just shy of 47 pounds (tickers round up) as of now.

    KUDOS to you for grasping onto this at such a young age. You have the power to do something amazing for your health right at your fingertips. The word "diet" doesn't need to be in your vocabulary! This is a lifestyle change, that'll allow you to live a long long life of eating great foods and enjoying nights out/drinks/desserts in moderation.

    Feel free to add me. I will give you any advice that I've learned along the way (which may or may not 100% fit you but it's still something you can learn from and take some out of it) and will be here for you 100%!
  • KaleidoscopeEyes1056
    KaleidoscopeEyes1056 Posts: 2,996 Member
    Remember this: There is no use arguing with stupid people. You are not the *kitten* whisperer.

    I always have to remember this! I was always made fun of in high school, not necessarily for being fat (although sometimes for being fat) I was usually made fun of for being poor. It hurts but you can't let pathetic people get to you. People who feel the need to put down others like that are not worth it.
  • jgcurry3
    jgcurry3 Posts: 172 Member
    Welcome to the dark side of nutrition and fitness, let their words boil inside you into hate and anger and use it on every mile you run and every weight you lift. If they can't deal with you big then they can watch you walk away shredded.
  • ecmorales
    ecmorales Posts: 33 Member
    You find the right place....come to the site every day for inspiration, accountability, good tips -- this is your safe place.
  • jzammetti
    jzammetti Posts: 1,956 Member
    Remember this: There is no use arguing with stupid people. You are not the *kitten* whisperer.

    ^^ LOL

    What I discovered was that my own inner voice was WORSE than all the bullies I had to deal with when I was young (and even not so young). Take control over that inner voice and practice positive self-talk. It sounds dumb, but it made a huge difference for me in being able to stay motivated and also to ignore those that are mean.

    You can do this and MFP can help you along the way.
  • Brownsbacker4evr
    Brownsbacker4evr Posts: 365 Member
    Yean, most people blow. Its usually the younger crowd, but adults can be pricks too. Good job wanting to make the change. Maybe you gotta fix your eating up a bit? If you are exercising and eating right the weight should come off. Would definitely like to be part of the support system though so you, or anyone lookin for a friend can add me.
  • Sjenny5891
    Sjenny5891 Posts: 717 Member
    I have to run to work now. Send a FR and I'll be glad to help if I can.
  • marciebrian
    marciebrian Posts: 853 Member
    Remember this: There is no use arguing with stupid people. You are not the *kitten* whisperer.

    and sadly stupid is also incurable :bigsmile: Good luck to you and never let someone else's ignorance impact your happiness. You will find lots of people on this site that will be happy to help.
  • simplyJ0712
    simplyJ0712 Posts: 1 Member
    Hello, this is my first post and I want you to know that you have me and the rest of "us" here at myfitnesspal.com. You are only 19, and have your whole life ahead of you, and more adventures. Be brave, love yourself and be proud of who you are. Send me a message if you need someone to talk to. Take care!
  • lburnisky
    lburnisky Posts: 5
    Don't let those people get to you. As everyone said you are the better person. You sound so much like my daughter, she is twenty, five foot tall and weights over 250.

    My heart goes out to you and so does my friendship. It is not an easy road ahead of you but with determination and support I am sure you can achieve the goals you set.

    I took the journey to a better healthier life five years ago, I still slip up once and awhile and need to remind my self to get back on track, but a little slip up here and there is bound to happen, so do not get discouraged.

    Good Luck on your journey. I know how it feels to need to bounce things off of someone and not have anyone there to do so. You are more than welcome to add me as a friend.

    Lately, I need some motivation to keep myself on track as well.
  • 32sami
    32sami Posts: 380 Member
    You don't have to be a size 0 to be healthy. I've seen thin people who aren't fit, they're just thin. One of my favourite quote's "The world will tell you who you are until you tell the world." Words to live by. :)
  • wswilliams67
    wswilliams67 Posts: 938 Member
    Size Zero says a LOT of things about a person... all negative. Unless you are under 5'... it's very hard for a normal sized person to be healthy and be a zero.

    #1 people are a$$hats. Ignore them. This is about YOU. Do this for YOU and YOUR health and happiness.
    #2 it's not a short term thing. it will take time. Be patient with yourself.
    #3 surround yourself with positive, supportive people. If they aren't there FOR you then they are AGAINST you. Find better people.
    # DO NOT QUIT!
  • EmLJay70
    EmLJay70 Posts: 5
    Feel free to add me so we can take this journey together.:happy:
  • SierraChristine1997
    SierraChristine1997 Posts: 14
    People only try to take you down with rude comments because they see something in you that you can't see (yet)
    They see this gorgeous person, who is bright, and happy, and healthy.
    They probably feel threatened by you.
    They see you are weak now, and try to tear you down before you can reach the top! Don't let them get to you, if you give in to what they are doing they are just getting the reaction they want. Tell them to seriously, "**** OFF!" keep your head high, and move on. Chances are you will probably never see this person again, and if you do have to see them in the future they will feel like idiots when you approach them with your success!
    I know you have probably heard people say, "They're just jealous of you." and then you think to your self, "That's such a lie, what could they be jealous of me for?" but there IS multiple things a person could be jealous of. Right now, I'm totally jealous of your determination to change yourself! :) Determination is a wonderful quality to have!
    Honestly I think everyone has been down the path of douche bags, *****es, and heartache! :)
    The only way to see a rainbow is to stick it out through the storm!
    Add me if you want and we can get through your storm together, and then we can enjoy that FABULOUS rainbow of success when you get there!:)
    Baby steps.
    You've already taken your first one.

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