people can be so mean :(
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Hey. I just signed up here tonight so my comments may not mean much. I am a guy who used to be very athletic in high school but now face the fact that at the age of almost 41 that I have to deal with my weight that has doubled since my high school days. I have been embarrassed by it but never have made much of an effort to do anything about it.
My doctor told me a few weeks ago that without significant weight loss over the next 6 months, I will probably be diabetic. My father was diabetic and his health went downhill after that and he died a few years ago. I want to be around for my family. That gets me to my point.
Forget what others will say. You are making the effort to get where you want to be. You must take whatever hurtful things you hear from others and use them for your own motivation. Thrive off their arrogance and hatefulness and you have given yourself the extra motivation to reach your goal.0 -
It makes me sad that that happened to you. I know we are stronger for facing adversity and can become kinder to others knowing how such things can hurt.
Such a thing happened to me once, some kids got on an elevator I was on and I smiled at them and one of them told me I was ugly. Then they all laughed. The doors opened and they ran out. I'll never forget how shaken I felt.
When I was growing up my mom had a little clipping on our kitchen bulletin board, it said: be kind to everyone you meet because you never know what sadness may be in a stranger's heart.
As I write this, I know I've fallen short of that ideal. But you've reminded us that we need to try and at least in this place we can offer support and kindness for so many and receive it as well.0 -
WOW What a *kitten*! Any person who could ever think let alone do such a thing is a loser. Anyone who gets their thrills by putting people down needs to look in the mirror. Sorry that *kitten* hat got to you. But right on for taking that and burning it in to your work out. :flowerforyou: Your doing great
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I hat ehearing that people still act thyis immature
I've had people stare when going to a restuarant dressed nicley for my birthday and I swear I feel their eyes on my every move as if my shirt would rip. I have had many jerks at previous jobs talk about my curves decently to my face, but then as soon as I'm out of sight (not hearing range though) the really hurtful comments come out and it's horrible. These people obviously aren't very happy with their own lives and decide to try and screw our day up. Well, just remember we are all beautiful (and handsome) people and we truly shine through. Karma will get ack at them 
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I used to have a few mates that would do that kind of ****. Obviously I never made much effort to maintain those friendships. None of those guys that I knew do anything with their lives.
People seem to really hate it when someone else improves. I guess it makes them feel worse by comparison or something. What a loser.0 -
I agree, what an *kitten*! Good for you for keep on keepin' on. People say mean things because they are not happy with their own situation. It sounds like this a-hole was jealous that he wasn't working out. I admire you for going on your daily run. Someday I hope I can too. Anywhoo, good luck and if you need us we're hear!
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You have already proven that you are stronger, smarter, and more resilient than that creep just in the fact that you kept on running. So what, you shed some tears, but Karma will prevail. And I agree with some others on here that some people just have so much sadness and anger in their own heart that they must make everyone else miserable.
Be proud of yourself and the accomplishments that you have achieved already. Even with that cruel remark, you kept running, logged on to MFP and talked it out....You didn't eat away your pain or sadness either!!!
I, too, am mystified by the cruelty of strangers. On days that my RA is flaring and I am limping very badly or using my walker/cane, I will be stared at by grown adults with disgust in their eyes. The stares are so bad that sometimes I just break down and cry.
Anyhoo, stay strong and keep doing what you're doing!!!!0 -
Not only was he being a jerk, but he was doing it when you were running for all things! It's not like you were scarfing down fries and a burger at McDonalds or something.. wow. It really takes willpower to continue working out after something like that. If I were you, I'd use him as a motivation on days that you don't feel like running. Next time he sees you running, he'll be biting his tongue because you'll have lost even more weight!0
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The dude probably has a tiny d**k. LOL.
People can be such a-holes. And I don't think you're alone on this one - I've been heckled when walking or running and I'm sure others have as well.
I guess all we can do is flip 'em the bird and keep on going :happy:0 -
Wow - what is the world coming too?
I remember back 25 yrs or more I was with my male cousin (early 20's) and my sister (teenager) in the car and he yelled something similiar out the window to a woman who was bicycling...I don't know why he did it, but the only thing we could think of was to appear cool in front of his younger cousins. We ripped him to shreds and my sister pulled over and made him walk. If only more people would stick up for what is right then maybe *kitten* like this would cease to exist.
DO NOT LET THIS HAMPER YOUR PROGRESS. You are doing something to change your life for the better, I'm so sorry this happened to you, but use it as motiviation and nothing else. Karma will get this kid, one day.
PS - saw your photos and you are what I want to look like so keep up your efforts!!0 -
You're beautiful now, and I think it's awesome that you were out running!
It’s been my experience that good or bad, our actions return to us – always.
Keep on being healthy!0 -
At least you're working on getting fit and losing weight... Being a dumbass is for life. The only reason ppl act like that is because THEY are insecure and trying to get you down or discourage you, makes them feel better. Use the anger you feel, to move you farther.0
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Lol I just want to say I'm proud of you for not screaming obscentities in his direction or throwing rocks! That would have totally pissed me off, I'd probably said a few choice things and flipped him off! I detest people that only get happiness out of making others miserable! Good for you to continue running and then coming here to tell us all about it! Now we all know what an idiot that guy is! :flowerforyou: I hope it doesn't happen again though.0
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At least you're working on getting fit and losing weight... Being a dumbass is for life.
Hear, hear! It sure is. What an idiot. You just keep on running and doing what's best for you and let that guy continue to wonder why he's single.
A similar thing happened to me maybe 15 years ago...I was riding my bike up a huge hill and a car went by. In the car was a family (mom/dad/2 kids). This fat boy in the back seat rolled down his window as they passed and yelled, "MOVE OVER, LOSER!". Then, I distinctly heard mom and dad laughing (not reprimanding, not stopping and making him apologize - none of that). That kid is probably in his mid-twenties now and well on the way to having diabetes or heart disease. I am not. (Either in my mid twenties OR have diabetes or heart disease!) :laugh:
Boo to all the mean people who have to put others down. You go, girl! :drinker:0 -
I had some kids (girls) in my neighborhood yell, run chubby run:mad: . I was so mad, Iwanted to go over and smack them. If I ever see the parents outside, I am going to tell them. Maybe they could knock some sense in the kids when they are young so they don't grow up to be mean girls.0
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Reading your post - a couple of things came to mind....
You're gorgeous!
I'm so proud of you for taking care of your weight NOW... instead of waiting for years to pass, like I did.
DO NOT LET THIS HINDER YOUR PROGRESS... remember, if you let it get you down... he's won! I spent most of my life feeling like, "What's the point?"
and my last thought is....
AS IF he were someone that you would consider dating... lol - what an *kitten*.0 -
awww sweetheart! Don't let a ratbag like him get you down
You're doing fantastically and are adorable!
It's a shame that people like that exist, but unfortunately they do...:grumble:
Get up, brush yourself down and get on with it!....hopefully Karma will sort his sorry *kitten* out :flowerforyou:0 -
If you have nothing nice to say don't say it! I guess he hasn't learned that yet!
Why do we judge people? When we have no idea what they are going through or where they have come from!
Karma will get him!0 -
Same thing happened to me one day, I was standing on the sidewalk in front of a pizza joint dobbing grease off my pizza with a napkin and some guy was like "oh yeah, look at you, like you don't eat grease"
I cried....jerk!
I'm sorry this happened to you, people can be terrible0 -
omg what a bunch of xxxxxxxx jesus. makes me so sick that a cheap laugh to impress their friends is worth upsetting other peole for. and its only becuase they dont see the consequences, if that was their sister they want to punch the guy... weeds!0
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I was carrying a bunch of groceries home from the store in a backpack (I like to walk it, really not that far away, 20 minutes) and had to pick up my 4yr old and put her on my shoulders because she skinned her knee. While I was bending down to pick her up someone drove by and called me a fatty out their window.
I just try to ignore all the douche bags out there. (am I allowed to say that on here?
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It's hard though cause at least where I live there seems to be a lot of them!0 -
Do not take it to heart- although no matter what we say, of course you are going to, it's a natural emotion to go through. No matter how many positive things people have said to you, they can all be dashed in one hurtful comment.
This person probably couldn't even see you, he was in a dang car!
Some people feel the need to put others down to make themselves feel better and look the big "I-am" in front of others, it's a way of boosting thier own ego (because I doubt anyone is going to boost it for them!)
The other day I was out in a club, and several guys decided it would be amusing to tell me how disgusting I look and no wonder I am single etc.
The fact being that I wouldn't have been interested in these guys had they been nice is besides the point.
But just put it down to immaturity and feel sorry for them rather than yourself, these people obviously have so little self esteem that they boost themselves by insulting others.
You are doing so well. Keep it up. ^_^0 -
Awww...I send you a kleenex with aloe and gently wipe the tears away. You and your inner athletic should know THAT WILL BE THE SAME GUY WHO WHISTLES AT YOU IN A FEW MONTHS!!! ((laughing!))
I'm glad you posted that experience here. Bravo for getting through that experience and growing stronger from it!!! Keep running and doing what you love to find the best, most beautful you!
(He bought himself a Bad Karma coin - too bad because he can run, but he can't hide from karma!0 -
The other day I was out in a club, and several guys decided it would be amusing to tell me how disgusting I look and no wonder I am single etc.
As I mentioned...these are the fools that will be ooooogling over you when you are strutting your new body! They are lonely souls who probably get dumped and take it out on people.0 -
Thankyou very much- just frustrating after losing so much weight and being still deemed as disgusting and fat etc.
However I try not to let it get to me anymore, for every nice person there are several buttheads it would seem .. just have to take the nice with the nasty and all get on! ^_^0 -
What a douche bunny. Like he was hot ****.... Whatever.0
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Two words: Pepper Spray.
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Eeek....sorry...tried to fix a typo, and double posted...:indifferent:0
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I second that and also suggest a nice compact taser for those situations where some butthead gets up in your face to shove their opinion down your throat. Lets see how cool they look twitching on the floor and peeing their pants in front of their crew.:devil:Two words: Pepper Spray.0 -
What that guy did was mean. Really mean. I try to remind myself (and my kids) that people who resort to such behavior are probably pretty miserable already, so I don't think pepper spray or a taser would accomplish anything.0
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