Is this Facebook thing weird?

SerenaFisher

Yikes.

1) facebook is the devil

I doubt the devil would like being associated with it

bookworm_847

Why don't you just unfriend her and be done with it?

This!

SerenaFisher

Why don't you just unfriend her and be done with it?

This!

Let me be the first to say (other then the OP in her original post and a few posts later) she already unfriended and blocked her. Does no one read these things and just respond?

TheStephil

Something similar happened to me. My boyfriend ended up staying friends with his serious ex. They dated for two years then didn't talk for a year or two then started being friends again. I was fine with the idea until I met her. The entire lunch she gushed about their time together, made comments like "Out of all my exes I really want the chance to date Drew (my bf) again!" It was extremely annoying and she has a fiance. i ignored it and we only saw her once every few months. She then added me on Facebook and the only time she showed up was to talk about my bf. I would post that we got a new cat and she would comment "OMG I bet Drew loooves the new cat! He is such a big cat lover, when we were together we volunteered at this animal shelter... blah blah blah". She would like our pictures and comment "Drew looks so handsome/sexy/adorable/etc".She would send me links of cool items and tell me how much my boyfriend would like it. It was ridiculous. I deleted her after a month of nonstop flirting at my boyfriend through me. He was so annoyed by her and when he confronted her she freaked out and started crying and said that she would wait for him to be done with me so she could have him all to herself. Her fiance was pissed and broke up with her. My boyfriend hasn't spoken with her for over a year and apparently she rushed into a marriage with a guy she knew for a few weeks and is now pregnant.

CristinaL1983

:huh:

Um, she's liking pictures of two people she knows? I actually struck up a friendship with my ex's fiance (now wife) on facebook by liking the pictures she posted of them (I could see them because mutual friends were also tagged in them). I am genuinely happy for both of them. I even shot their wedding and they are going on vacation with me and my husband. I don't see how this is weird at all unless she's messaging you creepy things or trying to get back in his life by contacting him and trying to hide it from you. Seems like she just wants you to know she's happy for you both.

It sucks your boyfriend got his feelings hurt -- but nobody was married or even in a serious relationship. It's your list, so do whatever -- but honestly it sounds like you are overreacting to me.

Well striking up a friendship is one thing...she certainly hasn't tried to do that. And I wouldn't say she really *knows* me, nor does she have any reason to contact me. It would actually be less odd if she commented on other things aside from what I post about my BF.

Playing devil's advocate for a second, maybe she doesn't feel comfortable enough with you to comment on other stuff you post but she knew him pretty well for a while so she may feel more comfortable that way.

I don't actually have people I'm not really friends with on my friends list (other than my ex mother in law) so it doesn't really make sense to me but I don't think it's as weird as you think it is.

I wouldn't lose sleep over de-friending her but as a courtesy, you might send a message first.

devil_in_a_blue_dress

:huh:

Um, she's liking pictures of two people she knows? I actually struck up a friendship with my ex's fiance (now wife) on facebook by liking the pictures she posted of them (I could see them because mutual friends were also tagged in them). I am genuinely happy for both of them. I even shot their wedding and they are going on vacation with me and my husband. I don't see how this is weird at all unless she's messaging you creepy things or trying to get back in his life by contacting him and trying to hide it from you. Seems like she just wants you to know she's happy for you both.

It sucks your boyfriend got his feelings hurt -- but nobody was married or even in a serious relationship. It's your list, so do whatever -- but honestly it sounds like you are overreacting to me.

Well striking up a friendship is one thing...she certainly hasn't tried to do that. And I wouldn't say she really *knows* me, nor does she have any reason to contact me. It would actually be less odd if she commented on other things aside from what I post about my BF.

Um... how do you think one strike up a friendship? I would like pictures of my ex and his new girlfriend. After doing that, I commented on one and just said "You two look so happy, congrats!" when they got engaged. This was 2-3 years of just liking pictures. She sent me a PM saying thanks and now she's one of my best friends.

You just said she doesn't really know you -- she DOES know your boyfriend. It doesn't seem weird that she would only like things with him, as he's the common link. Doesn't seem weird to me. It does seem weird to you, so whatever.

songbyrdsweet

Why don't you just unfriend her and be done with it?

This!

Let me be the first to say (other then the OP in her original post and a few posts later) she already unfriended and blocked her. Does no one read these things and just respond?

Haha, thank you!

songbyrdsweet

:huh:

Um, she's liking pictures of two people she knows? I actually struck up a friendship with my ex's fiance (now wife) on facebook by liking the pictures she posted of them (I could see them because mutual friends were also tagged in them). I am genuinely happy for both of them. I even shot their wedding and they are going on vacation with me and my husband. I don't see how this is weird at all unless she's messaging you creepy things or trying to get back in his life by contacting him and trying to hide it from you. Seems like she just wants you to know she's happy for you both.

It sucks your boyfriend got his feelings hurt -- but nobody was married or even in a serious relationship. It's your list, so do whatever -- but honestly it sounds like you are overreacting to me.

Well striking up a friendship is one thing...she certainly hasn't tried to do that. And I wouldn't say she really *knows* me, nor does she have any reason to contact me. It would actually be less odd if she commented on other things aside from what I post about my BF.

Um... how do you think one strike up a friendship? I would like pictures of my ex and his new girlfriend. After doing that, I commented on one and just said "You two look so happy, congrats!" when they got engaged. This was 2-3 years of just liking pictures. She sent me a PM saying thanks and now she's one of my best friends.

You just said she doesn't really know you -- she DOES know your boyfriend. It doesn't seem weird that she would only like things with him, as he's the common link. Doesn't seem weird to me. It does seem weird to you, so whatever.

Seriously, I see what you're getting at...but if she truly wanted to strike up a friendship why would she spend close to a year just 'liking' my pics/statuses *only* about him and never ever say anything or like anything or, ya know, strike up a friendship?

songbyrdsweet

:huh:

Um, she's liking pictures of two people she knows? I actually struck up a friendship with my ex's fiance (now wife) on facebook by liking the pictures she posted of them (I could see them because mutual friends were also tagged in them). I am genuinely happy for both of them. I even shot their wedding and they are going on vacation with me and my husband. I don't see how this is weird at all unless she's messaging you creepy things or trying to get back in his life by contacting him and trying to hide it from you. Seems like she just wants you to know she's happy for you both.

It sucks your boyfriend got his feelings hurt -- but nobody was married or even in a serious relationship. It's your list, so do whatever -- but honestly it sounds like you are overreacting to me.

Well striking up a friendship is one thing...she certainly hasn't tried to do that. And I wouldn't say she really *knows* me, nor does she have any reason to contact me. It would actually be less odd if she commented on other things aside from what I post about my BF.

Playing devil's advocate for a second, maybe she doesn't feel comfortable enough with you to comment on other stuff you post but she knew him pretty well for a while so she may feel more comfortable that way.

I don't actually have people I'm not really friends with on my friends list (other than my ex mother in law) so it doesn't really make sense to me but I don't think it's as weird as you think it is.

I wouldn't lose sleep over de-friending her but as a courtesy, you might send a message first.

Maybe, but she doesn't know that I know about their thing and they are not friends on FB or IRL. I'm pretty sure it was not a good 'split'.

songbyrdsweet

Something similar happened to me. My boyfriend ended up staying friends with his serious ex. They dated for two years then didn't talk for a year or two then started being friends again. I was fine with the idea until I met her. The entire lunch she gushed about their time together, made comments like "Out of all my exes I really want the chance to date Drew (my bf) again!" It was extremely annoying and she has a fiance. i ignored it and we only saw her once every few months. She then added me on Facebook and the only time she showed up was to talk about my bf. I would post that we got a new cat and she would comment "OMG I bet Drew loooves the new cat! He is such a big cat lover, when we were together we volunteered at this animal shelter... blah blah blah". She would like our pictures and comment "Drew looks so handsome/sexy/adorable/etc".She would send me links of cool items and tell me how much my boyfriend would like it. It was ridiculous. I deleted her after a month of nonstop flirting at my boyfriend through me. He was so annoyed by her and when he confronted her she freaked out and started crying and said that she would wait for him to be done with me so she could have him all to herself. Her fiance was pissed and broke up with her. My boyfriend hasn't spoken with her for over a year and apparently she rushed into a marriage with a guy she knew for a few weeks and is now pregnant.

Wow...good story, but IMO wayyyyyy worse than what I had going on lol. I'm glad it never reached that point. His mom is the only one who gushes about him to me haha

devil_in_a_blue_dress

:huh:

Um, she's liking pictures of two people she knows? I actually struck up a friendship with my ex's fiance (now wife) on facebook by liking the pictures she posted of them (I could see them because mutual friends were also tagged in them). I am genuinely happy for both of them. I even shot their wedding and they are going on vacation with me and my husband. I don't see how this is weird at all unless she's messaging you creepy things or trying to get back in his life by contacting him and trying to hide it from you. Seems like she just wants you to know she's happy for you both.

It sucks your boyfriend got his feelings hurt -- but nobody was married or even in a serious relationship. It's your list, so do whatever -- but honestly it sounds like you are overreacting to me.

Well striking up a friendship is one thing...she certainly hasn't tried to do that. And I wouldn't say she really *knows* me, nor does she have any reason to contact me. It would actually be less odd if she commented on other things aside from what I post about my BF.

Um... how do you think one strike up a friendship? I would like pictures of my ex and his new girlfriend. After doing that, I commented on one and just said "You two look so happy, congrats!" when they got engaged. This was 2-3 years of just liking pictures. She sent me a PM saying thanks and now she's one of my best friends.

You just said she doesn't really know you -- she DOES know your boyfriend. It doesn't seem weird that she would only like things with him, as he's the common link. Doesn't seem weird to me. It does seem weird to you, so whatever.

Seriously, I see what you're getting at...but if she truly wanted to strike up a friendship why would she spend close to a year just 'liking' my pics/statuses *only* about him and never ever say anything or like anything or, ya know, strike up a friendship?

I didn't even say she wanted to be friends with you -- I just was explaining to you what happened in my situation. I liked pictures over several years and then making a single comment when they got engaged. My point was that I think it's entirely possible that she's just happy he's happy -- especially since she hurt his feelings and all. I think if she was jealous, she's be seeking him out or making snide comments to you. Since she's just your acquittance, it doesn't seem off that she only likes things about your boyfriend since she actually knew him.

Anyway, it sounds like you have resolved it by blocking her. Which I think is just dandy -- it's your FL and you control who sees your info. I was just suggesting that viewing her actions as motivated by jealousy might be a bit much, as she might be genuinely happy for you both.

ETA: It sounds like time has passed since they broke up, she may have realized she did a crappy thing and is sorry/happy to see he moved on.

Fat_Jimi

unfriend her and block her. you two aren't friends, so let it go.

Thats it, just pull the pin on her and move on she probably wont even notice for a while and if she does shes a freak and your best with out here any how

SerenaFisher

unfriend her and block her. you two aren't friends, so let it go.

Thats it, just pull the pin on her and move on she probably wont even notice for a while and if she does shes a freak and your best with out here any how

:laugh: she already has, she said so in her original post.

ngressman

Why don't you just unfriend her and be done with it?

I don't understand why you would be a FB friend with someone that you only know through another friend, spoke two a couple times in real life and aren't actually friends with.

It's been a really long time since she added me and I honestly just can't be bothered to 'clean' my friend list.

Deleting one person takes very little effort.

Agreed. Plus it will take the weirdness out of your life. much better to be done with the stress it causes.

michellemybelll

Why don't you just unfriend her and be done with it?

This!

Let me be the first to say (other then the OP in her original post and a few posts later) she already unfriended and blocked her. Does no one read these things and just respond?

um. apparently not you.

whatshouldieat

1. Facebook is a Fad and a tool for everyone to monitor your life.
2. If your unhappy, its because your creating it.
3. if there's a problem in the world that bothers you, you are responsible for fixing it.
4. If you want certain people in your life, you must attract and invite them to be with you.
5. If you don't like your present curicumstances, you must end them.

songbyrdsweet

1. Facebook is a Fad and a tool for everyone to monitor your life.
2. If your unhappy, its because your creating it.
3. if there's a problem in the world that bothers you, you are responsible for fixing it.
4. If you want certain people in your life, you must attract and invite them to be with you.
5. If you don't like your present curicumstances, you must end them.

Thanks, Yoda...but I'm pretty sure I mentioned that I already took care of it

MissMormie

I wouldn't keep friends with her, just because she's not a friend.

But weird? nah. I like stuff about people I know, and that sounds what she's doing. She doesn't know you that well so not much care (or likes) go into your normal updates. But she's dated your bf for a while, so she's more connected to him. Not so strange she likes things with him in it.

songbyrdsweet

I wouldn't keep friends with her, just because she's not a friend.

But weird? nah. I like stuff about people I know, and that sounds what she's doing. She doesn't know you that well so not much care (or likes) go into your normal updates. But she's dated your bf for a while, so she's more connected to him. Not so strange she likes things with him in it.

I sometimes like random stuff, too, but it's actually random. Hers was a pattern. They were never serious and their thing happened like 3 years ago...so with all that I think it's weird. I did unfriend her for both reasons. That was the first time I've unfriended someone lol

feistymoon

You can add her to a 'restricted' group so that she can only see your public posts. When you do it, leave a public post saying "Just cleared up the wall and removed a lot of old pics" or something to indicate you've taken that stuff down. She'll see that and think you've done a spring clean, while the people you do want to see things still can

songbyrdsweet

You can add her to a 'restricted' group so that she can only see your public posts. When you do it, leave a public post saying "Just cleared up the wall and removed a lot of old pics" or something to indicate you've taken that stuff down. She'll see that and think you've done a spring clean, while the people you do want to see things still can

Well I didn't really know her well enough to care if she knows that I unfriended her or not lol...

Cute weimy! My BF has 2. Make sure you really train it haha, he didn't and now he is having to play catch-up :P

coliema

Delete her.

I would have deleted her a long time ago, I don't think I would have even friended her if I didn't know her or talk to her regularly.

songbyrdsweet

Delete her.

I would have deleted her a long time ago, I don't think I would have even friended her if I didn't know her or talk to her regularly.

I actually never friend people, I just accept the requests. I accept pretty much anyone if I've talked to them before. I'm not the type to limit friend lists, seems excessively organized or something.

xLexa

You can add her to a 'restricted' group so that she can only see your public posts. When you do it, leave a public post saying "Just cleared up the wall and removed a lot of old pics" or something to indicate you've taken that stuff down. She'll see that and think you've done a spring clean, while the people you do want to see things still can

So this is why I can't see your pics anymore?!


You biatttttttttt mhm..




jk jk OP sry had to tease my sister lmao

jess7386

Yikes.

1) facebook is the devil

THIS.

tiffanylacourse

Why don't you just unfriend her and be done with it?

I don't understand why you would be a FB friend with someone that you only know through another friend, spoke two a couple times in real life and aren't actually friends with.

I second this.

Nessiechickie

I saved myself from all this FB junk!
Deleted everyone except family/best friends and close friends who don't live close to me. (They all can text me otherwise!)
I have maybe about 30-60 friends on my FB.
I don't have to deal with crap! It is so nice... I hate FB :explode:

b7bbs

It is weird. She hurt him, and still wants to be in the bachground of your relationship. I think it's best to just delete her from your FB. Get rid of her once and for all.