From "you look great" to "I'm worried, you're too thin"

sblim

The last time I dropped a lot of weight and went through the same thing. I was eating healthy and doing triathlons. Anyone that knew me, especially my family, said the same things to me about being too skinny and it just got really old.. If I met someone new (especially a girl), they would say the complete opposite (nice body, etc).

I came to the conclusion that it is probably more a reflection of them and not you/us. If you are taking care of yourself, then I assume most of the people telling you this are overweight and not in shape, and quite honestly, I think the one thing that most people who are not actively trying to improve themselves hate (or will try to negatively impact) is someone that is. It is that old adage about misery loves company and nobody wants to be the only fat one.

It is quite easy, tell them you would like to analyze your activities and nutrition with them but only if they sit down to analyze theirs with you. It will never happen.

gailosborne

I get this too.

I always ask people who say that to me what they would think if they had just seen me walking down the street for the first time - they always say that they wouldn't think I was too thin.I think it is more to do with people relating to the change in us - even if they love us, they are not always comfortable with us becoming different. The thing I hated most on the way 'down' and which offended/upset me more than anything was the: "Don't lose too much - you won't be you anymore."

jdavis193

I love my friends and family but sometimes they can be really annoying :explode:

I've lost 45lb and up until 10lb ago they have all been supportive and congratulated me. Now they are "concerned" that I am looking too thin and need to put weight back on. They think that I'm not eating anywhere near enough. This would be OK if my ribs were showing through and I looked gaunt but seriously check my profile for pics taken last week. Does that look too thin and gaunt?

Every week it's "You've lost a LOT more weight" and "you're not eating anywhere near enough!".... aaarrrghhh! - I would be SERIOUSLY impressed if they really could notice a 1/2lb loss over a week! (I know I can't and I'm the one looking in the mirror)

I am very happy with my current weight and I think I look pretty healthy...so why do they all keep saying a I need to put more weight on :sad:

Congrats!!! My family won't say anything about my weight loss only that I am obsessed. I had a baby a year ago went from a size 7 to a 3... I am now getting that I am to thin... If you are happy where you are stay there. Ignore them

SassyMissDasha

Ohhhh I would give anything for my family to say that I don't need to lose anymore weight!! I understand how that can be annoying though. I agree though we are doing this for us .. not them. So it's only up to how you feel about you.

aippolito1

You look great and you really shouldn't worry about what they say. My grandma said my dad was looking "way too thin" when I thought he could have lost a good 80 lbs more... people see everyone else differently than you see yourself - if that makes any sense at all. You know you're doing this healthfully and if you weren't, someone on here would most likely tell you, so don't sweat it!!