WTF? I've been loosing and now I'm told I'm fat.

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  • mchammer73
    mchammer73 Posts: 5 Member
    Hey cqp1 - everybody has those "friends" or family members who don't have the sense to keep their comments to themselves. My former Mother in Law was one of those, who would turn a compliment into an insult ("Have you lost some weight? You look soooooooooooo much better (read: less disgusting), but maybe you got some new pants that fit you better...."). I have another acquaintence who, every time she notices that I've slimmed, will tell me her secret to lose 10 MORE pounds overnight, not realizing it's taken me 2 months to get that far!!!

    I did weight watchers before, and I thought they gave a helpful tip - shoot for losing 10% of your starting body weight. That was the point when I really noticed a difference - clothes were getting baggy, my face thinned out, and I felt different in my skin. I'm still short of my 10% - 5 lbs to go - but it's good to have a smaller goal to work toward.

    Keep up your good work! You'll get there :-)
  • bumblebums
    bumblebums Posts: 2,181 Member
    You know you've been making progress, and they will see it soon enough. I've heard it said that people start noticing around 20 lb, so there's hope that they will have to eat their words :)

    On a more serious note, you aren't doing it for them, so I'd just ignore them and focus on your own goals. Also, unless you are a model or a TV anchor or similar, it isn't appropriate for your boss to comment on your appearance, regardless of what he has to say about it.
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
    Remember after you lose weight it takes a little bit for the skin to bounce back since it will have that deflated look. Which looks terrible and makes you look fatter.

    So during that period if the general shape stays the same it is going to look like you are heavier.

    If the scale says you are going down just recognize that it is just a sign of losing.

    I noticed when I was comparing my nakey progress photos that I actually looked a little better at my starting weight than I do now - it's the deflation effect. :/ But I know it's just part of the process - I have to make stops in Droopville and Lumpytown before I get to my desired destination. Sometimes it has to get worse before it gets better.
  • Garthamatic
    Garthamatic Posts: 84 Member
    I feel for you.

    I went in for my yearly physical, psyched up. I'd dropped 26 lbs, was starting the C25K program, and just dropped two pants sizes.

    My doctor said good job, now lose the other 10. Almost verbatim those words. Some stellar bedside manner going on there.

    I brushed it off, but my wife wanted to drive back to the Dr.'s office and take her head off when I told her about it.... :indifferent:
  • Sarahland
    Sarahland Posts: 65 Member
    What's with all the D bag boyfriends?! If my husband told me I was getting fat, I'd punch him straight in the mouth. Please don't let your boyfriend disrespect you like that. Even if he is "just joking"...
  • ktsmom430
    ktsmom430 Posts: 1,100 Member
    It is very hard to have to hear comments like this, especially when you have been losing weight. Try not to let these comments get to you. You are doing great!

    When I began here I did not tell anyone, not even my husband or daughter. I just kept plugging along, consistantly losing weight. I had a lot to lose, but by the time I had lost 40 pounds, everyone began to notice.

    Try to focus on the small goals. Before long, you will be rewarded by all the positive comments which will help motivate you and keep you on track. There are a lot of people here that you can get support from and understand what you are trying to accomplish.
  • likearadiowave
    likearadiowave Posts: 445 Member
    I started MFP in January and no I did not tell friends/family. I know myself and I will do better without stressing over whether they see me fail or not. I have lost 15 lbs since starting MFP. Not a lot considering I was 255 starting but still weight loss. I'm trying to stay positive and realize it has to be slow to stay off.

    Last week my boyfriend told me I was getting fat and needed to loose weight (joking statement but still) and my boss made a comment about needing to slim down before I reach 40 and have to start taking all kinds of meds. (cholesterol, etc.). I can't help but think WTF. Here I am trying and given it's not showing yet but its not like I'm gaining either and I have been about 255 for at least the last 4 or 5 years.

    Anyone else getting insulted instead of complimented?

    Your boyfriend is an *kitten*.
  • konerusp
    konerusp Posts: 247 Member
    People are ignorant. lol Samething happened to me. Down 12 pounds and someone asked me if I was expecting. NIIIICCCE! :P Whatever, just laugh and keep on moving! :)
    This happened to me.Got that twice the same week.
  • MeganGable
    MeganGable Posts: 68 Member
    Ugh, girl, you do what you need to do.....other people just don't see the whole picture. I've been mistakenly asked when my baby was due three times in the past 6 years. Each time hurt immensley....I'm only about 35 lbs at the most overweight....it's stupid, people are ignorant and shouldn't comment on anything they don't know about or maybe approach it different. Instead of offering unsought for advice, they should just ask you what you have been up to lately :)
  • AmandaLipphardt
    AmandaLipphardt Posts: 80 Member
    Keep hanging in there. It takes a little bit but you'll have your moment of triumph. I've been going to the same doc for a few years now and she always gives me the same 'you need to loose weight speech'. This time around she walked in without even looking at me, started in on her speech, looked an my chart, then at me, and promptly turned red. She tried to play it off as moving towards inspirational but we both know I caught her recycling the same crap without doing her job first and her reaction was pricelss. You'll get there and trust me, the in your face is totally worth it.
  • PhearlessPhreaks
    PhearlessPhreaks Posts: 890 Member
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    I agree with the other poster - try to incorporate strength training if you can. I only did cardio and not strength training that first 45 days of being on MFP because I had a hectic schedule but I wish had done both now.
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    This- AND, the cool benefit of strength training is the confidence you build as you get stronger. Even though the weight may come off slow, feeling your body change and grow stronger is an awesome motivator :)
  • ekahnicole
    ekahnicole Posts: 216 Member
    Reminds me of after losing about 15lbs, a lady that I barely know asked what size clothes I wore and offered to give me clothes she couldn't wear anymore because they are too BIG...and she weighs about 40 lbs more than me. I was like wtf? xD I lose weight and someone thinks I can fit into their size 26 clothes.

    Don't even let what other's say determine how you feel about yourself!

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    ^ This, every day, all day, no matter what your weight is.
  • StantonLeFort
    StantonLeFort Posts: 18 Member
    Based on the swarming of support (I'm on your side too), I can't help but point out a humorous solution.


    1. Invite your boyfriend and boss out to dinner.

    2. Invite all of us too ... and we'll set 'em straight!!


    Don't change, don't stop, don't get upset - let them keep their negativity. Just get healthier and have a good memory. ;)

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