How many dates should a woman pay for??

TwinkieDong
TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
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So a woman asks a guy out on a date, how many dates should she pay for?
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  • 5erious
    5erious Posts: 469
    All of them if she wants any of this
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    All of them if she wants any of this

    LOL!!!
  • AZ_Gato
    AZ_Gato Posts: 1,270 Member
    At least an hour's worth of payment.

    Oh wait...I think I answered this wrong.
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    I ask because I been married forever. I have always paid and it is in my DNA. Though I just wonder since things change all the time
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    All of them if she's asking.
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    I pay for them in sexual favors....such a universal currency.
  • CristinaL1983
    CristinaL1983 Posts: 1,119 Member
    I always prepare to pay for my portion of the date but I've never asked a guy out so I don't know what the "rules" are.

    Edit: After the first few dates, I usually end up alternating (I pay for this one, you pay for the next, I pay for the next, etc...)
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    I was speaking about the past. Though there are people who have open relationships or people that cheat. I would never suggest any of that but...to each their own.
  • matt2442
    matt2442 Posts: 1,259 Member
    560...just because thats the number of dates it usually takes for me to get them to like me.
  • KaleidoscopeEyes1056
    KaleidoscopeEyes1056 Posts: 2,996 Member
    I always pay for my portion of the meal. Unless the guy insists or if he asks and I'm particularly poor that day, then he can pay for it.
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    I always prepare to pay for my portion of the date but I've never asked a guy out so I don't know what the "rules" are.

    so how does this discussion even come up?
  • 5erious
    5erious Posts: 469
    I always prepare to pay for my portion of the date but I've never asked a guy out so I don't know what the "rules" are.

    Edit: After the first few dates, I usually end up alternating (I pay for this one, you pay for the next, I pay for the next, etc...)

    cool story bro
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    the discussion of paying?

    well...you meet a guy....and you should ALWAYS be prepared to pay....and when the cheque comes if he says separate checks, you pay....if he says nothing and pays for it....he pays...

    easy
  • michellelemorgan
    michellelemorgan Posts: 184 Member
    None, in my opinion. My husband always happily paid when we were dating.
  • vanillasky123
    vanillasky123 Posts: 4
    I am old fashioned (But only when it suits me :) ) I say "NONE"..... I think though for real it is nice if a woman knows a guy is struggling or does not have a 100,000 dollare a year salary to pay her share or to take turns. Times are hard at the moment.
  • MightyDomo
    MightyDomo Posts: 1,265 Member
    I like it all 3 ways, he pays, she pays or they both pay a portion regardless of how much it was.

    I think it depends on the persons involved and how they feel about it. Though as I was brought up if the guy asks the girl out and plans the date then he should offer to pay the full bill for at least the first 3 dates.

    Sorry if my wording doesn't make sense... When I am tired I am not very good at putting my thoughts in an order that makes sense.
  • wencandoit2013
    wencandoit2013 Posts: 22
    LMAO - let me edit this. The woman should pay for none of them. It's the least you (as a man) can do since we'll probably end up your mother, cook, social planner, tax accountant, therapist...the list goes on and on. Any man want to challenge me on that? I call your b*****.
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    I am old fashioned (But only when it suits me :) )

    I think this is very common.
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    LMAO - let me edit this. The woman should pay for none of them. It's the least you (as a man) can do since we'll probably end up your mother, cook, social planner, tax accountant, therapist...the list goes on and on. Any man want to challenge me on that? I call your b*****.

    LMAO!! HAHAHA I dont know what type of relationships you been in, or your choice of men. LOL
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    This topic and topics like this interest me. I play the devil's advocate to better understand.
  • MustachioNerd
    MustachioNerd Posts: 34
    All of them. It's the least you can do since we'll probably end up your mother, cook, social planner, tax accountant, therapist...the list goes on and on. Any man want to challenge me on that? I call your b*****.

    I would prefer to cook, actually. I also would rather handle my own taxes. I think my therapist would be listening to problems ABOUT my girl.. so I doubt that would work either..

    I love these double standard threads. Did we really need another one? Everyone is different. I think that relationships are best built on equality and fairness. Take care of your own tab, it will cause less issues down the road.
  • 5erious
    5erious Posts: 469
    LMAO - let me edit this. The woman should pay for none of them. It's the least you (as a man) can do since we'll probably end up your mother, cook, social planner, tax accountant, therapist...the list goes on and on. Any man want to challenge me on that? I call your b*****.

    looks like you've been dating a bunch of losers
  • dezcast
    dezcast Posts: 429 Member
    It all depends how good he is in bed, if he sucks then hes def paying, if he's good, ill think about paying.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    LMAO - let me edit this. The woman should pay for none of them. It's the least you (as a man) can do since we'll probably end up your mother, cook, social planner, tax accountant, therapist...the list goes on and on. Any man want to challenge me on that? I call your b*****.

    You sound pleasant..
  • CristinaL1983
    CristinaL1983 Posts: 1,119 Member
    I always prepare to pay for my portion of the date but I've never asked a guy out so I don't know what the "rules" are.

    so how does this discussion even come up?

    The discussion about who pays or going out? When the check comes, I get my wallet out. If he insists on paying the check it's not a big enough deal to me to make a scene about it but otherwise just split it down the middle. If he pays, I'll offer to pick up the movie tickets or drink tab or whatever.

    About going out, right now I'm pretty busy (divorced parent, in school full time and working full time) so I don't really ask anyone out but if someone asks me out and it's not finals or mid-terms or a 60 hour work week and my daughter doesn't have a bunch of gymnastics stuff and I'm interested in the person, I'll probably agree. Yeah, I'm not dating a whole bunch at the moment.

    If you're asking why I answered the question even though I said I've never asked anyone out, it's because I think the dates (at least the first couple) should be dutch regardless. Why should one person pay to get to know another person?
  • ptak1sm
    ptak1sm Posts: 172
    my boyfriend and i take turns. when he picks the date, he pays, and when i pick, i pay. it works
  • bluecrayonz
    bluecrayonz Posts: 459 Member
    guy should offer to pay....he should have the decency of pretending to be a gentleman
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    I always prepare to pay for my portion of the date but I've never asked a guy out so I don't know what the "rules" are.

    so how does this discussion even come up?

    Why should one person pay to get to know another person?

    I think this honestly hits the nail on the head. I think this is the most fair thing anyone has stated.
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    Fuucking fuuck gender roles....such loads of shiit!!

    Just take charge in the one place it matters, the rest is trivial. :)
  • MustachioNerd
    MustachioNerd Posts: 34
    How is paying for a meal being a gentleman? That is ridiculous.

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