You're getting too thin comments?
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I haven't been told I've that I'm getting too thin but I have had people ask me if I'm done losing weight and that they think I don't need to lose any more which is ridiculous because I am 5'3" and still weigh 146 lbs.
I agree. I am 5'2 i am suppose to be 114-128 I am currently 133 and would be ecstatic to be 127. Right within the range. But people tell me I will look sick.0 -
Yep along with "you won't be you if you are skinny"
and the one that hurts the most "you look scary aneroxic!" got that one from my two best friends who i thought would support me a little more than that. (mind you at the time i was at the high end of my BMI and had been told by my doctor to lose some weight to help some personal medical issues.)0 -
I despise the, 'You're too thin' comment. I'm nowhere near my weight loss goal (about 170-180 give or take) and people are constantly telling me that i need to stop or that I'm 'Fine where I am'.
'Why are you still trying to lose weight?'
'You're STILL losing weight? (this is usually followed by said person me looking me up and down). What are you trying to lose? Your damn mind?
'You need to stop going to the gym so much! You already look stupid!' (said by a loved one recently)0 -
My therapist tells me I'm getting too thin every time I see her. I just tell her she's getting too fat. :laugh:
Had a friend whose marriage counselor told him that spending 30 minutes a day at the gym was an "unhealthy obsession".0 -
Yes! This will be common from people who were so used to the old version of you. Don't let it phase you and try to understand it will take them time to see this is a permanent change for you. My family is still in shock and always comment now you look like your too skinny but I am going to stop until I am content with the reflection I want to see. I am 5ft 8 and weigh 166 lbs. They were so used to me being 200lbs and over. Also you will get those nice comments that just make your day like people telling you are an inspiration to workout, you look so trim, skinny, beautiful. So just know beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And we know where we will stop at a number, size, or BMI not their opinions. Best of luck.
I am so right there with you! I am 5'8.5" and currently 162 pounds. I started this journey at 222 and even though my family has seen me at 150, I've had a couple people at work ask why I plan to get to 150. No matter how many times I tell them I was there several years ago and it's perfect for me. It's where I'm happy with me. They just don't understand. I even had one co-workers daughter ask her if I was on drugs because she thinks I'm too skinny! I've lost 40 pounds since a couple months after I started this job. It's taken me 8.5 months not 8.5 weeks. MORONS!
"THEY" need to get over it. Be happy with yourself and as long as you are not bulimic or anorexic (really, not just in their minds) then there isn't a problem.0 -
had a point where i commented that i was close to my goal, but still had some fat to lose. they flipped out...
"you don't have any fat!!! you are crazy!"
so i squatted down, grabbed my belly and shook it for them..."THIS is fat!"
they left me alone after they got off the floor and could breathe again. ^_^0 -
I'm getting this from a few people. I don't get it. I'm still in the "overweight" category on BMI charts by a few pounds, and definately not skinny. I'm not planning on going much lower, maybe six or eight more pounds, I'm just not a tiny person. I don't need to get down into the lower parts of the chart, that would be too low for me. I know some of this is genuine concern for my health, but really....I'm ok. I don't have an ED. I'm not starving myself. I'm eating healthier than ever before in my life,actually.0
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I'm getting the "you're too thin" and "you have an eating disorder" comments from a few people.
Admittedly I've lost a lot of weight, 55 lbs in less than 18 months, and I was never really overweight to start with, just borderline healthy/overweight. So it seems worse than it is because I'm short and the weightloss is noticable.
I find it offensive though. I eat healthy and I exercise. There's nothing more to it than that. I'm a runner by nature, and I'm back doing marathons. So yes, I run a lot. Yes, that keeps the weight off. No, I no longer eat fast food. But that doesn't mean I'm starving myself. I just prefer a more natural diet. Fresh fruits, vegetables, salad, lean meat.
At any rate, I still don't think it's any of their business. I don't go around saying "you're fat" and "put down the bucket of KFC" to obese people, because I would get read the riot act for it. I don't see why the reverse shouldn't apply.0 -
Yes, I do..along with accusations that I had an eating disorder. Many people assume drastic weight loss isn't possible for someone my size and height without drastic measures, even though my hearty appetite is clearly visible.
Interestingly enough, those who tell me I'm too thin are the very same people who told me I was getting to fat.
Can't please people, so I don't even try :laugh:0 -
had a point where i commented that i was close to my goal, but still had some fat to lose. they flipped out...
"you don't have any fat!!! you are crazy!"
so i squatted down, grabbed my belly and shook it for them..."THIS is fat!"
they left me alone after they got off the floor and could breathe again. ^_^
This sounds very similar to what I have been thru. I have lost a good bit of weight but I still have a goal in mind. When I verbalize that I tend to get the remarks. My BFF actually told me that I was looking unhealthy and she was sure you could see my ribs. I'm 5'3" at 133lbs with a naturally musular body. My goal is to be around 115 which would mean loosing the last bit of fat and toneing up. She litterly screamed at me when I told her I was 133lbs...she swore I was 110 already and I didn't need to be any smaller.0 -
I once had a guy I know telling me I would fly away in a hard wind ( at 162 pounds, 5;5" ) ??
That really happened to me when I was 5. A sudden gust of wind turned the full skirt of the circa late 50s little girl's dress I was wearing into a kite and I flew off my grandparents' back porch.
I was a skinny kid and a naturally thin adult well into middle age, and I almost never heard any comments about my weight. About the closest to being told I was too thin I recall was when my doctor told me I was on the lightweight side but had enough meat on my bones for a "tall petite person." And no one seemed to notice when I got fat because it happened gradually. But everyone had something to say when I took the weight off. Even one of the ladies who hand out free samples at Walmart had an opinion and thought I needed to hear it. I think it's just human nature to notice relatively rapid change.0 -
Thank you so much for being normal. I am alarmed at how many on this site display an actual ED. I don't think you are one of them. You look healthy so, the people making the comments are probably just not used to you this way. If they saw a stranger at your weight they wouldn't think anything of it. Carry on and realize they just want you to be healthy and it alarms them that you could lose too much, not that you have, but they just haven't adjusted to the new you yet.0
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I get this too and it's shocking to me. I am currently 5'11, 198 (down 100 over a year-ish) and my BMI is 28, which is still in the upper half of the overweight category. I need to lose about 25 more lbs to get to healthy BMI, yet I have had a couple people lately tell me that I am "losing too much weight," and that I should "knock it off." Where are these people's heads at? Is being healthy considered abnormal now?Thanks! It's good to know I'm not the only one!
And I do wonder if our idea of what is a normal size has changed too. After all, most of the general population is overweight to some degree. Being overweight is starting to become normal!0 -
My son said "mom! stop, you're too thin now!" He says he feels guilty cause when he was 7, (he's 29 now), he made up a song about my fatness-it was called "Baby Beluga" as in whale.0
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How about: "Are you still dieting? How long are you going to that?
No, I'm not dieting, I'm eating a salad of mixed greens with 4 tbs of straight olive oil. As for eating healthily, I plan to do that forever.0 -
Grandma: You are too skinny! I make you cookies now. Wait here.
LOL!
I don't enjoy hearing this crap either, between the sick comments & "you shouldn't lose anymore". Where were all these opinions about my well-being when I was CLEARLY unhealthy @ 5', 230#?
Oh yeah, the opinions have NOTHING to do w/ my well-being...but they have everything to do w/ their own insecurities/shortcomings, IMO. STFU.0 -
Thanks! It's good to know I'm not the only one!
And I do wonder if our idea of what is a normal size has changed too. After all, most of the general population is overweight to some degree. Being overweight is starting to become normal!
This! Recently a Facebook friend of mine posted criticism about a get-healthy campaign advertisement, calling it body shaming. While I don't think people should be made to feel bad about their bodies, especially if they take care of themselves but are naturally curvy, we need to realize that our lifestyles and diets are totally unnatural. There are tons of factors in American culture that people never question- lack of public transportation (thus sitting in a car everyday), essentially subsidizing processed foods and pushing up prices of local and organic produce (watch King Corn or Food, Inc), television, desk jobs, etc. Props to everyone here for realizing that and trying to get to a weight that is actually healthy for your body!
A couple years ago I dropped two clothing sizes and was eating well and working out everyday. A friend of mine got really critical and would constantly try to pressure me to eat junk food. She would tell me I was way too skinny, it was scaring her, I shouldn't deprive myself. I felt great eating only whole foods and exercising, but to some people who have never tried that, it's a foreign concept. I think a lot of people have never tasted good "health food" or don't understand how a hard workout can turn a crappy mood around.
Keep doing what you know works for you! I don't know if people are jealous or just unfamiliar with your new lifestyle. I hope this wouldn't come off as preachy or something, but maybe you could invite them over and share a healthy delicious meal or make them a vegan dessert. If people see that you are still eating great tasting foods and not just celery, maybe they will be more supportive and even consider changing their habits a bit too!0 -
I had a friend tell me recently that I'm "going to blow away". :huh: Hardly. And I have dinner with this friend on a weekly basis, and she sees how I eat (back for seconds, all the food, plus dessert, while she eats tiny portions, no rice, no bread, etc). Ridiculous.
I have had a couple people ask if I'm still trying to lose weight, or tell me I don't need to lose any more, and I just tell them that I'm not working on losing any more weight (which is true), but trying to lower my body fat percentage a bit more. Usually shuts 'em up. :bigsmile:0 -
I've gotten them in the past, but I kinda agreed with them. The second I drop below 140, people start asking if I'm ok. I'm 5'9, and dropping below 140 really isn't great for me because it means I'm losing muscle I don't want to lose.
Right now, I'm 152 and not thrilled with my weight, but I've been 150 and loved my weight. For me, it's about how much of my weight is fat and how much is muscle. Right now, it's too much fat and not enough muscle. When I was 150 and loved it, I had more muscle than I've had most of my life.0 -
I get "Now don't go getting all anorexic on me, you have lost enough weight".
You know how you shut them up? I say "When I was 30 pounds heavier why were you not here saying "now don't go getting fat on me you have gained enough weight". Always stops them dead in their tracks. They have no clue how to respond.0 -
I am starting to get that also. I had lost about 10 lbs over the course of a year, so people really didn't notice that. Since Feb, I have really kicked it into gear and lost another 12 lbs since then. My SIL said someone that we go to church with actually asked her if I had a "problem with substance abuse" since I was losing weight so fast. I was so upset, my loss averages out to 1lb a week, and I am sure that is healthy. Since I have never been this healthy before, I was mad that someone would try to imply that I was doing something wrong to get here!
Thankfully, I have a wonderful husband and when I told him about it, he just hugged me and said not to worry about it. Basically, haters gonna hate! He did say that if anyone mentioned it to him that he would be sure to set them straight!0 -
I get this too, i'm happiest at10st (140lbs) and constantly get told once I get under 147lb, i'm 5'8 so not unhealthy. Other people don't always know whats best for you, listen to your heart, as long as your healthy thats what counts.0
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All. The. Time. That and, "you're counting your calories? You look great, why the heck would you want to count your calories?! you're too thin as it is..."I wondering if anyone else has dealt with the issue of people saying you are too thin. I'm right smack in the middle of my BMI and have a few people tell me I have lost too much weight. Mind you, I know my arms look puny but the rest of me is fine!:laugh:
Drives me nuts.0 -
No "too thin" comments (yet), but I do get "don't get too crazy thin!" ones quite often.0
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I once actually flew away in the wind. Wind speeds close to 100 MPH up on Long's Peak Colorado. Me at around 90 pounds. I went about 10 feet before crashing! Good thing it wasn't near a cliff.0
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another perspective, is that i think for people who have struggled with their weight their whole life, and then manage to get control of things and lose the weight... their friends and family are used to them being heavy, and having no control over it, so the idea that we are losing weight in a healthy way, and are not sick or overdoing it or something crazy seems... well.... unlikely! I think sometimes it causes them to assume something must be wrong.
^^^ This is exactly what I think, with respect to my own situation. No one, not even my family, has seen me look lean and athletic/fit since...god, since pre-puberty??? I can understand that it's visually shocking (especially if there's been a lag between visits) - heck, sometimes the mirror surprises *me*. Perhaps it's natural to assume something is "wrong" because the new situation is such a deviation from "normal"? I think all you can do is explain what you're doing and reassure them that you're healthy.0 -
My dad told me last week if I lost any more weight he was going to kick my *kitten*... Funny think is I haven't lost any since January, I've been toning up... But he didn't want to hear it. Some days being a dad's girl is hard! I'm still 10-15 pounds from my goal!0
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My mum keeps saying the weight loss notices on my face! How can any one lose 20lb off their face only lol:laugh: :laugh:0
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Yeah I get it, I'm 5'4" and 189lbs, though I don't really look it, still I know I have a ways to go.0
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I despise the, 'You're too thin' comment. I'm nowhere near my weight loss goal (about 170-180 give or take) and people are constantly telling me that i need to stop or that I'm 'Fine where I am'.
'Why are you still trying to lose weight?'
'You're STILL losing weight? (this is usually followed by said person me looking me up and down). What are you trying to lose? Your damn mind?
'You need to stop going to the gym so much! You already look stupid!' (said by a loved one recently)
Sometimes I think it's because they are insecure about their own body.0
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