When people offer advice, stop being rude and degrading!

BurtHuttz
BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
in Chit-Chat
A lot of people go out of their way to try to help people in these forums. Every one who does goes about it in their own way.

If someone phrased something poorly, or is just having a bad day, and so their advice is unwelcome, I encourage everyone to take a deep breath and move on - rather than starting an argument about it with the individual, or starting a subsequent thread complaining about people on the site.

People on this site are EXACTLY the same as people in real life. You get cut off in traffic sometimes; you forget to use your turn signal. Someone is rude to a clerk at a store because they had a bad morning and were late for work and were just plain not thinking. Sometimes you snap at a loved one in a conversation because you're frustrated. Sometimes there are just miscommunications

If you are upset by the tone you perceive in someone's communication, think about all the other ways that they might have intended their statement, rather than concluding that your instant impression is correct. Another approach is to focus on the feedback that you find helpful, rather than the feedback that irritates you.

But being rude to the people who are trying to offer advice just starts needless conflict... it is very sad when someone gets 80% positive supportive advice, but wishes to engage in arguments and mudslinging with a 20% minority.

Good luck.
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  • chubby_checkers
    chubby_checkers Posts: 2,352 Member
    Sorry your panties are bunchy. :flowerforyou:




















    :tongue:
  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
    Sorry your panties are bunchy. :flowerforyou:

    Ah, but I'm smiling :happy:
  • MudRunLvr
    MudRunLvr Posts: 226 Member
    I'm here to learn about nutrition and fitness. Not for people to tell me I'm a pretty princess.

    Asking the entire internet to be nice, the way you define nice, is ludicrous.
  • DandelionCupcakes
    DandelionCupcakes Posts: 234 Member
    I'm here to learn about nutrition and fitness. Not for people to tell me I'm a pretty princess.

    Asking the entire internet to be nice, the way you define nice, is ludicrous.

    <3 but you are a pretty princess.
    we're all pretty princesses here :'B
  • MightyDomo
    MightyDomo Posts: 1,265 Member
    We all just need to learn how to use criticisms and not take it all to heart. Sometimes people need a 'rude' awakening to understand their options.
  • KaleidoscopeEyes1056
    KaleidoscopeEyes1056 Posts: 2,996 Member
    Oh, you're just ButtHurt.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    that makes too much sense for this place \m/
  • ZoeLifts
    ZoeLifts Posts: 10,347 Member
    Kumbaya

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  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    But I can't eat 1200 cals so I am allowed to be rude, as I'm a special snowflake....
  • Some_Watery_Tart
    Some_Watery_Tart Posts: 2,250 Member
    I'm here to learn about nutrition and fitness. Not for people to tell me I'm a pretty princess.

    Asking the entire internet to be nice, the way you define nice, is ludicrous.

    So where do I go to hear about what a special snowflake I am?
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    I was once voted most likely to be a MFP bully in the 3rd grade. No lie.
  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
    I'm here to learn about nutrition and fitness. Not for people to tell me I'm a pretty princess.

    Asking the entire internet to be nice, the way you define nice, is ludicrous.

    So where do I go to hear about what a special snowflake I am?

    PM sent.
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    But I can't eat 1200 cals so I am allowed to be rude, as I'm a special snowflake....

    I would be rude and cussy too, if I was eating 900 calories.
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    Mods, can this get pinned? LIKE, FOR REAL.
  • calibriintx
    calibriintx Posts: 1,741 Member
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  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    is there a longer version with spreadsheets and graphs?
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
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  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
    is there a shorter version?
    Abide by Wheaton's Law.
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    STOP TELLING ME WHAT TO DO!


    YOU'RE NOT MY REAL DAD!
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Somebody is butt hurtz.
  • calibriintx
    calibriintx Posts: 1,741 Member
    is there a longer version with spreadsheets and graphs?

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  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    is there a shorter version?
    Abide by Wheaton's Law.

    your quick response foiled my edit again!

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  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    Sorry your panties are bunchy. :flowerforyou:

    Ah, but I'm smiling :happy:

    panties are overrated
  • BleedsCoffee
    BleedsCoffee Posts: 247 Member
    Do what I do. Forget what posts you replied to and therefore, never know if someone's commented, rudely or otherwise, on the *kitten* you say! Huzzah!
  • juliemouse83
    juliemouse83 Posts: 6,663 Member
    But I can't eat 1200 cals so I am allowed to be rude, as I'm a special snowflake....

    Well, if you're struggling to get 1200 in, no wonder you are rude...it's not your fault, tho...you're just cranky because you aren't getting enough to eat. :laugh:

    Sorry...I couldn't help myself. :flowerforyou:
  • doorki
    doorki Posts: 2,576 Member
    I would add that while, yes, some people on the internet are rude because they are on the internet, there are also many people who appear to take said rudeness on the internet much harder than if someone was rude in real life. If this was not the case, I would imagine that highways would be full of people just sobbing behind the wheel because someone changed lanes without signaling.
  • MrsDanner78
    MrsDanner78 Posts: 107
    AMEN.
  • PetulantOne
    PetulantOne Posts: 2,131 Member
    :drinker:
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
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  • EponaBlue
    EponaBlue Posts: 96 Member
    Seems simple enough

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