When people offer advice, stop being rude and degrading!
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STFU0
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GAH, NOT THIS AGA- ....... o_o ..... oh.
As awesome as this is, people are just gonna....
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I don't know about that! I think I get more wound up about people being rude in person because of the confrontation. Someone not using their signal when they're changing lanes is a far cry from someone being a **** to you. One is just inconsiderate, the other's aggressive.I would add that while, yes, some people on the internet are rude because they are on the internet, there are also many people who appear to take said rudeness on the internet much harder than if someone was rude in real life. If this was not the case, I would imagine that highways would be full of people just sobbing behind the wheel because someone changed lanes without signaling.
For example, not long ago, I was walking my mother's two dogs along on the sidewalk leashed. Some crazy lady on a bike with an unleashed pooch running behind her screamed "Get your f*cking dogs out of the way!" as she careened down the sidewalk on her bike (illegal) with her dog happily racing her without tether (illegal). My mother's dogs were just... freaked out. They weren't used to cyclists on the sidewalk or other dogs off a leash or a combination of those two things barreling at them. They had mini panic attacks and I had to drag them to the grass of someone's lawn. Said whackjob actually turned around, came back up the side walk and started chewing me out... for having the nerve to walk on the sidewalk... with two leashed dogs... and not get out of her way fast enough. Naturally, I was pretty certain I was in the right, told her as much, and that we could discuss it with the police if she liked. She eventually just called me a "dumb c*nt" and took off. I was SHAKING. I was incredulous... for hours. Someone calls me a name on the internet? I'm over it in ten seconds.0 -
Yes, please. Nicely put, OP!! :-)0 -
GAH, NOT THIS AGA- ....... o_o ..... oh.
As awesome as this is, people are just gonna....
OMG I LOVE YOU FOR POSTING THIS, AURIE. ASK ASHLEY, FTW.0 -
UH *blinks* am I seeing double? I thought this was already being discussed elsewhere,. LET IT DIE ALREADY!!0
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BUT I'M SO HANGRY BECAUSE I ONLY EAT 900 CALORIES BUT REALLY I JUST DON'T LOG EVERY LITTLE THING I PUT IN MY MOUTH SO I AM GOING TO USE MY FIGHTING WORDS WITH YOU BECAUSE I AM FRAIL AND DELICATE AND THIS SITE IS HERE TO MAKE ME FEEL GOOD AND I AM SPECIAL DANG IT AND I DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE A DELICATE SNOWFLAKE!!! RAGE RAGE RAGE RAGE
That being said it's time to go put this rage to use... like a work out... and then I'm going to eat a steak.0 -
Abide by Wheaton's Law.is there a shorter version?
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Stop being rude and degrading you say....
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STOP TELLING ME WHAT TO DO!
YOU'RE NOT MY REAL DAD!
You and your daddy issues. Do you have to drag that into every conversation?0 -
UH *blinks* am I seeing double? I thought this was already being discussed elsewhere,. LET IT DIE ALREADY!!
No; you are just reading the title, and none of the content.0 -
A lot of people go out of their way to try to help people in these forums. Every one who does goes about it in their own way.
If someone phrased something poorly, or is just having a bad day, and so their advice is unwelcome, I encourage everyone to take a deep breath and move on - rather than starting an argument about it with the individual, or starting a subsequent thread complaining about people on the site.
People on this site are EXACTLY the same as people in real life. You get cut off in traffic sometimes; you forget to use your turn signal. Someone is rude to a clerk at a store because they had a bad morning and were late for work and were just plain not thinking. Sometimes you snap at a loved one in a conversation because you're frustrated. Sometimes there are just miscommunications
If you are upset by the tone you perceive in someone's communication, think about all the other ways that they might have intended their statement, rather than concluding that your instant impression is correct. Another approach is to focus on the feedback that you find helpful, rather than the feedback that irritates you.
But being rude to the people who are trying to offer advice just starts needless conflict... it is very sad when someone gets 80% positive supportive advice, but wishes to engage in arguments and mudslinging with a 20% minority.
Good luck.
Oh. What a total load of crap. You didn't even cite any peer reviewed studies there buddy. Don't be coming around here with your broscience Burt. Maybe I am just being mean and it's not an imperception of what someone meant. STFU!0 -
perhaps i'm not 'normal' - well, i know i'm not - but i don't wear my heart on my sleeve. if i'm in a 'bad mood' - which is rare - those around me are usually not aware and is does not come through in my communications.
maybe if people were to respond with advice and word it in a way that you would a business interaction, there would be less complaining.
i.e. - i'm not losing weight eating 900 calories a day.
instead of snarky responses, what about, 'this topic has actually been addressed a lot on these threads. you should check out the message board search and see what others have said." OR - 'have you considered that maybe you are eating too few calories?' etc. etc. etc. instead of the 'well duh' posts you see all the time.0 -
I'm here to learn about nutrition and fitness. Not for people to tell me I'm a pretty princess.
Asking the entire internet to be nice, the way you define nice, is ludicrous.
but you are a pretty princess.
we're all pretty princesses here :'B
Not me. I am an ugly frog pretending to get some kisses.0 -
UH *blinks* am I seeing double? I thought this was already being discussed elsewhere,. LET IT DIE ALREADY!!
Read it again.
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instead of snarky responses, what about, 'this topic has actually been addressed a lot on these threads. you should check out the message board search and see what others have said." OR - 'have you considered that maybe you are eating too few calories?' etc. etc. etc. instead of the 'well duh' posts you see all the time.
I have actually seen that exact type of response. And the OP gets every bit as much butt hurt over it. And calls it rude. And says "I thought we were all hear to support each other - excuse me for asking a question"0 -
But I can't eat 1200 cals so I am allowed to be rude, as I'm a special snowflake....
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I'm here to learn about nutrition and fitness. Not for people to tell me I'm a pretty princess.
Asking the entire internet to be nice, the way you define nice, is ludicrous.
So where do I go to hear about what a special snowflake I am?
You aren't! I am.0 -
STOP TELLING ME TO THINK ABOUT THINGS... YOUR HURTING MY FEELINGS...0
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I would add that while, yes, some people on the internet are rude because they are on the internet, there are also many people who appear to take said rudeness on the internet much harder than if someone was rude in real life. If this was not the case, I would imagine that highways would be full of people just sobbing behind the wheel because someone changed lanes without signaling.
The police told me I had to stop doing that or that they would report me to DMV and have my license revoked.-0 -
Why can't we all just get along??:sad:0
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I don't know about that! I think I get more wound up about people being rude in person because of the confrontation. Someone not using their signal when they're changing lanes is a far cry from someone being a **** to you. One is just inconsiderate, the other's aggressive.I would add that while, yes, some people on the internet are rude because they are on the internet, there are also many people who appear to take said rudeness on the internet much harder than if someone was rude in real life. If this was not the case, I would imagine that highways would be full of people just sobbing behind the wheel because someone changed lanes without signaling.
For example, not long ago, I was walking my mother's two dogs along on the sidewalk leashed. Some crazy lady on a bike with an unleashed pooch running behind her screamed "Get your f*cking dogs out of the way!" as she careened down the sidewalk on her bike (illegal) with her dog happily racing her without tether (illegal). My mother's dogs were just... freaked out. They weren't used to cyclists on the sidewalk or other dogs off a leash or a combination of those two things barreling at them. They had mini panic attacks and I had to drag them to the grass of someone's lawn. Said whackjob actually turned around, came back up the side walk and started chewing me out... for having the nerve to walk on the sidewalk... with two leashed dogs... and not get out of her way fast enough. Naturally, I was pretty certain I was in the right, told her as much, and that we could discuss it with the police if she liked. She eventually just called me a "dumb c*nt" and took off. I was SHAKING. I was incredulous... for hours. Someone calls me a name on the internet? I'm over it in ten seconds.
*Starts timer* B!tch!0 -
perhaps i'm not 'normal' - well, i know i'm not - but i don't wear my heart on my sleeve. if i'm in a 'bad mood' - which is rare - those around me are usually not aware and is does not come through in my communications.
maybe if people were to respond with advice and word it in a way that you would a business interaction, there would be less complaining.
i.e. - i'm not losing weight eating 900 calories a day.
instead of snarky responses, what about, 'this topic has actually been addressed a lot on these threads. you should check out the message board search and see what others have said." OR - 'have you considered that maybe you are eating too few calories?' etc. etc. etc. instead of the 'well duh' posts you see all the time.
If you read the forum rules you will see where it says to not post topics that have already been addressed and recommends searching existing topics. The information is all there but no one wishes to take the time to go forth and search for themselves. Also, the fact of the matter is that it's advice. It's a courtesy not a requirement of people to provide advice. I'm not saying that I condone all rude behavior, because I don't. That being said though, this site isn't actually about helping other people, this site is about helping YOURSELF. All the tools are there. People just need to take the time to use them.
If someone sees something posted that they don't like then they need to learn to just ignore it and move past it or use it to their benefit. I just understand all the hub-bub about how everyone HAS to be nice to each other. No one has to be nice. It's nice when they are and I appreciate it more when people are nice but you can't just assume that it's proper procedure to be nice. The world is cruel that way and even though we should be nice we should also learn to not allow words to hurt us. They are just words. They can't actually hurt you. Sticks and stones.0 -
The worst part is, most people aren't even being d*cks. They're simply answering questions - albeit in an opinionated way - but answering questions to the best of their ability nonetheless. Most answers are genuine and are given in an attempt to HELP. This is not the place to come to have sunshine blown up your patootee. If you want that, I'll be a long search and end with you paying a lot of money.
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The worst part is, most people aren't even being d*cks. They're simply answering questions - albeit in an opinionated way - but answering questions to the best of their ability nonetheless. Most answers are genuine and are given in an attempt to HELP. This is not the place to come to have sunshine blown up your patootee. If you want that, I'll be a long search and end with you paying a lot of money.
I hear they will do it in vietnam for $5.0 -
STOP TELLING ME TO THINK ABOUT THINGS... YOUR HURTING MY FEELINGS...
inb4 YOU'RE*0 -
STOP TELLING ME TO THINK ABOUT THINGS... YOUR HURTING MY FEELINGS...
inb4 YOU'RE*
OMG YOU'RE SO MEAN!!!0 -
What's up with the "special snowflake" saying? All snowflakes are technically special, soooo, it's kind of a misnomer.
I'm still kinda salty about someone saying that *I'm* not a special snowflake. I'll be a special snowflake if I want, :P!0 -
A lot of people go out of their way to try to help people in these forums. Every one who does goes about it in their own way.
If someone phrased something poorly, or is just having a bad day, and so their advice is unwelcome, I encourage everyone to take a deep breath and move on - rather than starting an argument about it with the individual, or starting a subsequent thread complaining about people on the site.
People on this site are EXACTLY the same as people in real life. You get cut off in traffic sometimes; you forget to use your turn signal. Someone is rude to a clerk at a store because they had a bad morning and were late for work and were just plain not thinking. Sometimes you snap at a loved one in a conversation because you're frustrated. Sometimes there are just miscommunications
If you are upset by the tone you perceive in someone's communication, think about all the other ways that they might have intended their statement, rather than concluding that your instant impression is correct. Another approach is to focus on the feedback that you find helpful, rather than the feedback that irritates you.
But being rude to the people who are trying to offer advice just starts needless conflict... it is very sad when someone gets 80% positive supportive advice, but wishes to engage in arguments and mudslinging with a 20% minority.
Good luck.
I'll admit, I did a double take.
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