You'd be so pretty....if you lost weight.

Nicole65

Anyone else ever have experience with a line like that? This is something my dad has said to me numerous times over the years, I know he means it as a pseudo compliment/motivation, but that's not how it made me feel at the time.

Dewdropps

For me, it's people seeing pictures from 10+ years ago saying "wow! you looked great!". Granted, they know that's my goal to get back to and they are trying to motivate me further, but I feel so....ick in comparison every time.

Cocacoladdict

Yeah I have heard this for yeeears.. My dad is especially good at this line. Just shrug it off and point out that you are awesome whatever your weight - who wants to be pretty anyway

Pamella513

You have such a pretty face.....too bad you're overweight and nobody will ever want to marry you.

Celebrating 19 years of marriage this year to an awesome man who loves me no matter how overweight I may be and who has never ever ever, not once, made a mean remark about my weight. My father can go to........

pmteet

And some people would be so polite if they would just not open their mouths.

I have not had that comment but some extremely rude comments.

ireallylikemuffins

Ouch. Yeah. Or the old "Your size doesn't matter to me" from a few people who constantly remark about other people being overweight. Backhanded compliments are worse than straight-up insults, in my book.

Thankfully, a majority of my family have only mentioned my health to me when my weight comes up. It's just as annoying, but not as...disturbing,

Capt_Inzane

Landlord said I'd be a stud if I lost weight...
I'm afraid when I lose the weight she'll come onto me... we'll cross that road when it comes but I'm hoping it never does but... free rent does sound kinda nice...*shudders*..lol

caitlyn012284

Yeah, I have heard that alot too...it's so obnoxious and makes me irritated to the point where it does the complete opposite than motivate me. Thankfully, I am learning to love myself for who I am NOW and I believe that's why I am able to start my weight loss journey the right way, and for me and only me.

pastryari

Some people will think you'd be pretty if you lost weight and some people think you're pretty overweight. Everyone has different tastes when it comes to what they find attractive.

All that matters is that YOU feel pretty.

lina1131

I have heard the "You have such a beautiful face, you would be gorgeous if you lost weight" several times.

IamUndrCnstruction

It has been my Gramma's favorite line for many years. Yes, I know I would feel better if I lost weight, which is why i am here, and making the lifestyle changes I am making. I just don't get how they think that saying those things will motivate me though. I once replied to some one who told me that I was to heavy to be considered attractive with "Perhaps, but your an a**hole, I can lose the weight, but guess what, you'll still be an a**hole." Shrug it off...what matters is how you feel and knowing that you are trying to make the right choices.

lovemitch125

A lot of guys liked me overweight because of my boobs and butt, but I like myself better normal weight. So... thats all that matters :bigsmile: I am now getting comments about how they miss me being chubbier. I DON'T.

But I have heard that line from my family, a hundred times. Now I dont

CCusedtodance

Yes, I have heard that line many times throughout my life. It came at me from family, friends and even strangers. I have learned to ignore them all.

bethlaf

Its generally well meaning family too..... Ugh... Thanks sort of I know the feeling...

HeidiCooksSupper

Yup, I'm 62 and my mom STILL says it. Let it roll off your back.

TiaFerrera

Beauty comes from confidence - and in my case some well laid foundation (I'm not talking architecture here people)
When people say that, at least when I've heard it, it usually is preceded with a command to "smile", and usually from old men who say "im just being friendly" when I tell them to get away. Not that I'm not friendly, I've just had enough dirty old men tell me they are "just being friendly" knowing well that their "level of friendliness" is only limited by my willingness to participate. Gross.

I think when they say "you'd be pretty if..." It's more a statement about our demeanor, looking mopey and unhappy, not about our size so much. I never hear crap like that when I'm feeling good and walking tall, just when I don't give a d*mn

briabner

I have a friend that on many occasions comments on my clothes and sense of style and almost every time she adds "your clothes/outfit would look so much better if you lost weight. I mean you always have such cute clothes but you are fat" Needless to say she is larger than I am so I dont let is bother me too much. Also, people do not realize how hurtful words can be especially if they are coming from a close family member. The next time he says something like that tell him the exact number of pounds you have lost to date and it will show him you are making an active effort to achieve weight loss. You may also want to tell him how much that hurts your feelings.

Scott2ndGradeTeacher

I don't mean to step over any lines, but I prefer larger framed ladies to rail thin ones.

SadKitty27

I get the " You were so pretty when you were thin. " line every now and again now, but when I was younger before losing that weight to get thin I got the "You'd be so pretty if you lost weight" insult all the time.

MyProgressISYour1Proof

Anyone else ever have experience with a line like that? This is something my dad has said to me numerous times over the years, I know he means it as a pseudo compliment/motivation, but that's not how it made me feel at the time.

My grandfather always said that about my sis and I...

jennifer_417

I think many of us have heard some version of it. I've often thought to myself that I want to go from being "the girl with the pretty face" to "the petty girl."