How do you like them?

jasmineconley

When looking for your next ex what do you look for personality or looks?

ltgarrow

I prefer them not to predestine themselves to failure in the relationship...ie: "then next ex".

aceofspades69

I have lowwww expectations. And I am rarely disappointed!

jasmineconley

I prefer them not to predestine themselves to failure in the relationship...ie: "then next ex".

While I can respect not wanting to be called or considered as the next ex most people are just that. It appears to be more prevalent in the younger generations. Love is something too easily thrown around then heaped into the trash. People don't take the time to work on relationships as a whole and base their love on very conditional circumstances. it's almost comical but severely sad if you look at it in a different light. Say if your love for your child was such as your love of a significant other nowadays, I'll love you but once you spill the milk on the floor we're through! See conditions. To be quite honest this may show some seriously shallow people. I'm waiting on the without looks how do they know your personality line

ltgarrow

But when you set the stage that your significant other is just then next ex, you are continuing the cycle...This by the way is a strange role reversal argument we've got going here. Aren't I supposed to be the one devaluing the opposite sex and you're supposed to be calling me a chauvanistic pig?

jasmineconley

But when you set the stage that your significant other is just then next ex, you are continuing the cycle...This by the way is a strange role reversal argument we've got going here. Aren't I supposed to be the one devaluing the opposite sex and you're supposed to be calling me a chauvanistic pig?

I call no one by any name other than the one they are given. I also don't devalue people or set myself up for failure. The next ex is an endearing term around here, but we also know it as a joke not a way of life. If I truly were looking for a next ex none of my relationships would've lasted years and now that I am single ( the man has issues with a previous marriage and has himself spooked and I am totally okay with this) I would be out roaming the streets sowing wild oats but no I'm not that person.

hellokittymaui

First, looks. Then, personality.

hungrypotato

I like mine scrambled

usmc01462

first meet the parents and see what your other half is going to look like abnd if they are nasty RUN LIKE HELL N DONT LOOK BACK

Cr01502

Semi attractive, loose morals, and low self esteem.

The attractiveness I can take or leave.

jasmineconley

first meet the parents and see what your other half is going to look like abnd if they are nasty RUN LIKE HELL N DONT LOOK BACK

LOL smh

jasmineconley

Semi attractive, loose morals, and low self esteem.

The attractiveness I can take or leave.

I know a few your type

homerjspartan

I have lowwww expectations. And I am rarely disappointed!

How you doin'?

MelsAuntie

"Next Ex"?? WTF? I have no exes. I married my high school boyfriend during my last two weeks of college, we've been married for 42 years. I married with the expectation it would be for life. I don't understand the "oh well if it doesn't work we'll break up" mentality. If it's not working you fix it, you don't just throw it out. Not unless there is abuse.

caterpillardreams

I am not looking happily married here. But back in the day, I would find someone who is fun and not pushy, not too serious. And when it becomes a drag, bye bye.

Stogie40

I prefer them not to predestine themselves to failure in the relationship...ie: "then next ex".

While I can respect not wanting to be called or considered as the next ex most people are just that. It appears to be more prevalent in the younger generations. Love is something too easily thrown around then heaped into the trash. People don't take the time to work on relationships as a whole and base their love on very conditional circumstances. it's almost comical but severely sad if you look at it in a different light. Say if your love for your child was such as your love of a significant other nowadays, I'll love you but once you spill the milk on the floor we're through! See conditions. To be quite honest this may show some seriously shallow people. I'm waiting on the without looks how do they know your personality line

Preach on Sister! Oh, a sense of humor, is a must.

TheRoadDog

Unless she leaves me, my wife is the last woman in my life. We worked hard to build what we now have and I am looking forward to enjoying it with her when we retire.

_noob_

if was LOOKING for an ex...I'd go the hot mess route.

I pre sort better than that though.

bsuew

I left one ex 30 years ago now. Met my soul mate and 25 years later ... he'll never be my x. I wasn't looking for anyone when we met and I've never looked for anyone since.

Maddalen101

No next ex. I am one happy married lady.
If you want five fine ingredients, take strong, smart, funny, caring, and responsible.

falilvx

"Next Ex"?? WTF? I have no exes. I married my high school boyfriend during my last two weeks of college, we've been married for 42 years. I married with the expectation it would be for life. I don't understand the "oh well if it doesn't work we'll break up" mentality. If it's not working you fix it, you don't just throw it out. Not unless there is abuse.

if only i can marry my highschool boyfriend but we will never be together coz we're totally different hmm..

toaster6

Hmm, if we've determined that this is just the "next ex" then obviously, looks.

RoseTears143

But when you set the stage that your significant other is just then next ex, you are continuing the cycle...This by the way is a strange role reversal argument we've got going here. Aren't I supposed to be the one devaluing the opposite sex and you're supposed to be calling me a chauvanistic pig?

Sorry..this made me giggle

perfectionisntme

I prefer them not to predestine themselves to failure in the relationship...ie: "then next ex".

This.

edack72

HAHAHAH neither I'm looking for a them to have a car and a job so I don't have to support their sorry *kitten*:laugh:

erickirb

When looking for your next ex what do you look for personality or looks?

I would say personality.... Looks usually lead to meeting, but personality is what determines if there will be a relationship. So for them to end up an ex, personality, but there wouldn't even be a chance to get to know the personality if there wasn't that initial attraction.

tallvesl99

that is sad.....next ex...really?

iAMsmiling

When I feel like sleeping in the guest room, I like to introduce my wife as "My current wife."

shellbatronic

Back in the day I looked for a magic formula of looks, humor, ability to procure booze, and stable drug connections.

bcattoes

first meet the parents and see what your other half is going to look like abnd if they are nasty RUN LIKE HELL N DONT LOOK BACK

:laugh: My daughter once dated a guy like this. The first time I met him my daughter said he told her she'd passed the "Mom test". I'd never heard of such a thing, but was glad to hear we had passed.

jasmineconley

I prefer them not to predestine themselves to failure in the relationship...ie: "then next ex".

While I can respect not wanting to be called or considered as the next ex most people are just that. It appears to be more prevalent in the younger generations. Love is something too easily thrown around then heaped into the trash. People don't take the time to work on relationships as a whole and base their love on very conditional circumstances. it's almost comical but severely sad if you look at it in a different light. Say if your love for your child was such as your love of a significant other nowadays, I'll love you but once you spill the milk on the floor we're through! See conditions. To be quite honest this may show some seriously shallow people. I'm waiting on the without looks how do they know your personality line

Preach on Sister! Oh, a sense of humor, is a must.

Thank you for reading and understanding versus the flying off the handle routine