Disrespected at work.

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  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Go to HR. There is really no other choice in the workplace, and, unfortunately, if you take any other tact and she reports first, you will be on the defensive.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    If you have tried to talk with the person you can try laying down some law with them and let them know the next step is HR. I had a similar experience and once I pulled them aside and I spelled out in no uncertain terms that they will NOT treat me like that, things improved.
  • Brik66
    Brik66 Posts: 10
    Lol
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    Tell her it must stop or else tomorrow will be Bring Your Knife To Work Day

    hahahahahahahahahahahaha..........
  • DalekBrittany
    DalekBrittany Posts: 1,748 Member
    If you have tried to talk with the person you can try laying down some law with them and let them know the next step is HR. I had a similar experience and once I pulled them aside and I spelled out in no uncertain terms that they will NOT treat me like that, things improved.

    This, but don't make any empty threats. If you tell her this, and she does it again, take your *kitten* to HR. Most medical offices have at least one HR person within the office, I can't imagine yours is much different. Basically let her know that you are done with her **** and that this will be the last time she does it and gets away with it. I can understand the situation you are in, my MIL has the same situation where the surgery coordinator is a real ***** around the office and bosses people around, but she's not anyone's actual manager. Of course, no one listens to her anyway, so it's a bit different, there lol
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
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  • HiKaren
    HiKaren Posts: 1,306 Member
    Report it to your manager. Request an intervention meeting between the two of you. Include your manager and hers and possibly HR.

    Honestly, if she did this in front of other managers and no one stepped up, it's past the point to contact HR.
    This
  • HiKaren
    HiKaren Posts: 1,306 Member
    Ex-Lax brownies. Shots fired. Time to fire back.

    Then this... :laugh: Okay, maybe NOT this... But I do think the idea is freaking funny.
  • berriboobear
    berriboobear Posts: 524 Member
    Honestly, do what others have suggested about being professional and diplomatic. Don't do anything rash on your own and talk to HR or a higher superior. It's frustrating to be in that position, but don't sink as low as her!
  • SuZQz173
    SuZQz173 Posts: 37
    Go immediately to HR & file a complaint. That complaint will likely go through the ranks, so you do not have to do so first.

    File the complaint, in detail. Name names of all present. Keep feelings out of it, just state what happened, what was said, loud tones etc. Name all people present at time of incident, even if they all did nothing.

    It worked for me, there was no denying all that happened, with so many witnesses who did nothing at the time. One investigated, they all must have agreed, because the person was let go.

    It won't always end in termination, like others said, depending on what happened and policy. You'll feel better for standing up for yourself. You may become the office hero for doing something! R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

    Good luck.
  • MSeel1984
    MSeel1984 Posts: 2,297 Member
    Thanks everyone for the sound advice.

    I'm going to speak with her in private this morning-then taking myself to the administrator (closest thing to her boss-she was present when this happened) and to HR.

    I'm fed up...but I'll be professional about it, which is more than I can say for her.
  • iLoveMyPitbull1225
    iLoveMyPitbull1225 Posts: 1,690 Member
    Ex-Lax brownies. Shots fired. Time to fire back.


    bahahaha
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    That's something your manager should be taking care of, and if that doesn't work, go to HER manager.

    This.
  • FitnessCharl
    FitnessCharl Posts: 166
    If you give people enough rope....

    Mainly I keep quiet and let it all catch up with these people, because it eventually does.
  • MSeel1984
    MSeel1984 Posts: 2,297 Member
    Yeah. Talking with her and the admin. didn't really go over well.

    Basically the decision was that she needs to be more careful about other people being sensitive...

    It's frustrating because I work with a lot of people who are naturally loud and abrupt..that's one thing. This individual is condescending and rude...Oh well. Karma's a b*tch.
  • LBNOakland
    LBNOakland Posts: 379 Member
    Yeah. Talking with her and the admin. didn't really go over well.

    Basically the decision was that she needs to be more careful about other people being sensitive...

    It's frustrating because I work with a lot of people who are naturally loud and abrupt..that's one thing. This individual is condescending and rude...Oh well. Karma's a b*tch.

    Still file a complaint with HR just to be sure it is in her file. Then, if she tries to retaliate in any way, you can CYA. Retaliation is a BIG NO-NO!! Use the term hostile work environment in your complaint!
  • trailtripper
    trailtripper Posts: 71
    Go to HR. There is really no other choice in the workplace, and, unfortunately, if you take any other tact and she reports first, you will be on the defensive.

    THIS! As you have stated, she, other managers and employees are aware of this.

    Go to your HR and ask for immediate resolution. Also state that you believe you are in a 'Hostile Work Enivironment'. Use these exact words. They are key to an EEOC complaint.

    By doing this, you are placing Management and HR on notice to reach a resolution and that her conduct will no longer be tolerated.

    If they decide on any adverse action against you (as part of the resolutuion). You now have grounds for a reprisal complaint (which EEOC does not tolerate).

    Unfortunate that this has happened to you. But, it is now up to you to let it continue or take some action that will be uncomfortable for a while.

    Best of luck! Hoping all work well for you.

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