Why do people consider weight loss surgery cheating?

jennielou75

I had gastric sleeve surgery in June 2012. I tell everyone I had the surgery mainly because I lost weight so quickly I didn't want people I hadn't seen for a while to think I had been ill. Also I am not ashamed of it at all.

I lost 3 and a half stone before the op because I wanted to be as light as I could be on the operating table. I have never been a healthy weight in my life and yes I had indeed tried virtually everything except diet pills because I have bowel issues. I know there is no way I could have done this by myself. I only lost weight when I ate 1,000 - 1,200 calories a day. This was found by follwing doctors instrucitons and starting at 1,500 and reducing by 100 cals every 2 weeks until I started losing.

Bad eating habits were creeping back in as in eating a packet of crisps but my pre op diet started at the right time for me.

My weight loss means I now look normal. That is all I wanted to be....normal. Now I can go to the gym 3 times a week, walk 5 miles a day etc etc.....I love my fitbit!! I could not do this at 5ft 3 and 23 stone. Just walking caused me pain.

I still want to eat the wrong things. The difference is that now I can't eat much of them, I log them here so I can see the effects of what I am doing and I stop and think about it before I eat again....I also drink a lot more liquids now. I am also going to counselling.

I have no doubt that the surgery saved my life....now with over 10 stone gone it is now up to me. I will make sure that the money that has been spent on me will not be wasted. If I regain more than a stone then off to the doctors I will go or I will join a weight management group, not for more surgery as there is no more I can have but to have a good talking to like I can get on here.

Now you can all say that you know someone who has done well so far with surgery and hopefully in 2,3,4,5 years time I will still be here saying i have done well as I really hope that people here just wish people well even if they do not agree with the way they have lost the weight. I almost feel that I need to prove some of the people on here wrong which is really sad as outside of here I have only had support from people who wish me well and want me to succeed because they care about me and want me to be happy. I think I will continue to not want to let those who have supported me and people like me down as that is a much more positive reason to want to succeed.

Fat people have been considered lazy and greedy for years. Now that is being added to those who have had surgery and are working hard to make it work for them. I just find that a little sad.

pyrowill

I think it is up to you, same for girls that want their boobs done and men for laser surgery or whatever. Its your body, do whatever the *kitten* you want with it. Just stay away from my NHS unless it is 100% medically necessary.

On a personal note I do think that it doesn't really change your feelings towards food. You still have psychological issue towards food and it can't cure that. It restricts you, and you might form a habit but the original cause is still there.

pyrowill

To the OP:

What I'm not understanding is if you are having problems losing weight with your PCOS now, how is it going to change when you have the surgery? Will something in your hormones change that will make you more likely to lose weight, purely due to the surgery? It would seem logical that the weight may come back on (and you would still have extra trouble getting it off) if you still have PCOS, as you said PCOS is the cause for your weight problems.

She will be eating a substantial less amount of calories = weightloss.

Although it should be said that I don't really know much about PCOS so my above comment might be pointless.

StephTheBookworm

I NEVER had surgery. I changed my mindset and attitude, and therefore have lost successfully and kept the weight off. I know several people who had the surgery but thought it would solve their problems without changing their mindset. They gained the weight back.

dough21

I don't think it's cheating. However I do think it's pointless if after the surgery you return to your old ways and expect to keep it off. It's not going to happen. Unless you got some sort of condition I would just do it the natural way through diet and exercise.

cwolfman13

I don't think of it as cheating...when you're morbidly obese, one of the best things you can do is drop that weight very quickly...which would mean surgery. I do however think it's a pointless exercise if you aren't willing to make lifestyle changes to improve your overall health and well being post surgery.

Elzecat

Could a WLS patient do an hour in the pool swimming laps? Probably not, because they become physically incapable of taking in enough nutrient at one time to actually do a decent workout.

I will let my very good friend who had successful WLS three years ago, followed ALL the recommendations given to her by her doctor, has lost over 150 pounds and kept the weight off, AND runs half marathons know that she's obviously physically incapable of doing that. Oh yeah...her running coach, who also had WLS a number of years ago, has successfully completed at least a dozen marathons and (to date) two Ironman competitions. Guess he shouldn't be doing that, eh?

/Facepalm.

A post-WLS patient should given a lot of guidance by their surgeon (if it's a good one) on how to intake the proper nutrients and balance that with activity. There are also support groups for post-WLS folks.

OP, it's a totally individual decision between you, your doctor, and your family. I wish you the best and hope that whatever you do, it is successful and you feel healthier.

pjwcampbell

I have a very good friend who had surgery. He's lost quite a bit of weight but has now stalled. Every day I see him coming in after lunch with a bag of fast food. I rarely eat fast food. In the end, I will bet money that he will always be overweight and I won't because I exercise and eat good food. BTW, since I'm a 50+ year old woman I also have hormonal issues. I have to work harder than I ever have to keep my body fat at a healthy percentage.

I'm not anti-surgery per se but I do get frustrated when people comment about how thin I am and tell me I have no idea how hard it is for them to lose weight. However, they also have no problem calling me crazy when I tell them I rode 75 miles on my bike over the weekend or that I get up at 4:45 so I can go to the gym before work. So...really...let's talk about me not understanding how "hard" you work to lose weight.

cici1028

Cheating is a rough word... I did it the calories in/calories out way. But then some people would tell you that MY way was cheating since I still ate processed foods like pizza and chicken fingers, just in smaller portions. Eventually I started eating healthier whole foods when I saw the benefits to my hair, skin and body but I lost 50 pounds eating LESS pizza and LESS fried foods.

I just think that people who say "I've tried everything" haven't really... I used to say the same thing. Then I really got into weighing/portion control/counting and exercising hard and it fell right off, seriously. If you've worked really hard and done every little thing you're supposed to with no shortcuts and it still isn't working... then maybe it's a good step? I just know someone who died from this. It's serious stuff. I would think diet would be a good way to control sugars, etc. since that is what causes the weight gain with PCOS. I was an APPLE to start with lots of belly fat and a round body. Not anymore.

It's a journey. I say whatever gets you going is great, just make sure you are continually looking to improve your habits! My friends with gastric never really addressed their underlying food issues and most of them gained it back. It's not always sustainable. So good for you, but be sure you have a good relationship with food before that surgery! Best of luck!!!

Missjulesdid

I can't believe some ppl think its the easy way out. WlS is one of the hardest things to do. Your life will nvr be the same again. You no longer enjoy food.... You will nvr again get to feel the satisfaction of talking a gulp of water when you're super thirsty. You can nvr have candy or sweets again....and if you do there are horrible consequences! I don't enjoy going to social gatherings anymore bc they always involve some sort of food that I can't eat and it makes me feel like an outsider. The surgery was painful and there was a long long recovery. I still have to excerisize.... I still have to manage what I eat....even more so bc now it's really important I get lots of protien. I have to do what everyone else is doing to lose weight plus the problems from the WLS! But there was no way I could've done it without it bc I was addicted. I would tell ppl that this is the harder road to take and if at all possible to try to do it the normal way.

Maybe you can see why some of us would think it's not a good idea?


Everyone can do whatever they want with their lives. But this^? I wouldn't recommend that kind of life to anyone.

...and again I say, mileages may vary. I was back at work within a week, so my recovery was nowhere even in the ballpark of "long". I can chug water like a champ, and I can still eat the occasional piece of candy or kid's birthday cake with no consequences, and have once or twice. I just choose not to do it all the time. I LOVE social gatherings even more than I ever did, because I'm a big attention *kitten* and I love getting compliments. I just plan my way around the food and decide ahead of time what I will eat, or whether I'll have something more fitting to my plan at home beforehand. Yes, it does require planning and dedication and modification, but so does any other long-term plan. I know far more post-op patients who live the lifestyle I'm living than the one described above. Please don't let the horror stories stand as the norm just because they stay fresher in the mind.

I am only two months post-op for my VSG surgery. I eat around 1,050 calories a day and chug water easily. My lunch today consisted of a 2 ounce piece of turkey breast, 1 ounce of avocado and a piece of cheese. it's small, but enough to be psychologically satisfying. I still enjoy food immensely, I just enjoy it in smaller quantities and make sure that it's of good nutritive value as well as TASTY... and yes, TASTY is still very important to me!!! As far as sweets goes, I've been avoiding them for the most part but I enjoyed two peanut butter cups about a month ago and those went down nicely without any complaints from my digestive system which is not surprising since VSG patients don't have any malabsorption so don't typically experience any of those nasty side effects from any foods. My recovery was way easier than my gallbladder removal was years ago. I had very little pain, and only took pain medication for one day post op. I was up and walking around within hours of the surgery. My experience has been excellent with the surgery. I've lost 24 pounds in two months.. around 3 pounds a week which isn't a ridiculous amount for a person of my size who is also exercising daily. (the other 70 pounds on my ticker I lost before surgery)

I don't want to pry, but if you lost 70 lbs before surgery why did you proceed? Seems like you were doing just fine on your own and now you have the side effects of the surgery to deal with.

Fair enough question. I wanted an appetite to match my metabolism. I worked with a dietician for around a year and I could NOT HANDLE eating at a deficit enough to lose or even maintain over the long term. I am metabolically challenged. I also had perversely enough a longer than normal stomach as confirmed by my surgeon... So extra large stomach.. extra small metabolism PLUS I LOVE LOVE LOVE food it just took SO MUCH of it to satisfy me.. not even to make me feel "full" but just to reach the point of satiety. Now, I aint gonna lie.. as much as this fatty actually enjoys really healthy food options, I also love the junk and like everyone, I have to exercise will power, or these things find their way down my throat.. It's absolutely AMAZING how much easier it is to say "no" when you're not also battling almost constant hunger! If I wasn't willing or able to exercise willpower then my surgery would be for nothing since if I ate the wrong things.. I could easily consume thousands of calories per day... but if I eat the right things... Regular normal good quality foods (I choose low carb, and higher fat and 80 grams of protein a day) and I'm satisfied after a small meal and not feeling the need to eat again for many hours. I've done a lot of work to make sure my head is in the right place before doing this surgery. I addressed any issues with emotional eating, I stopped eating wheat and STUCK TO a wheat free diet (I'm intolerant to wheat but used to eat it anyway because I felt like I HAD to). Even with all these steps that I took to address my weight problem, I still kept coming back to the HUNGER and I had this surgery to address that!

Fortunately I don't have any side effects to deal with. I don't have any digestive issues, I can tolerate any food.To be clear, I did not have RNY gastric bypass. I had VSG-Vertical sleeve gastrectomy.. which is basically just reducing the size of your stomach but your intestines remain untouched so there is no malabsorption of nutrients or calories and no "dumping" when eating sugar. My body digests food in the same way it always has.. just with a smaller stomach! Some people need the RNY, but I felt that I could make it work with just the VSG.

So I hope this answers your question. I chose the surgery because I simply could not face the rest of my life having to feel deprived and hungry all the time.. Now with the surgery, I can maintain an appropriate calorie intake for my body and feel satisfied with that calorie amount.

amyk0202

Fair enough question. I wanted an appetite to match my metabolism. I worked with a dietician for around a year and I could NOT HANDLE eating at a deficit enough to lose or even maintain over the long term. I am metabolically challenged. I also had perversely enough a longer than normal stomach as confirmed by my surgeon... So extra large stomach.. extra small metabolism PLUS I LOVE LOVE LOVE food it just took SO MUCH of it to satisfy me.. not even to make me feel "full" but just to reach the point of satiety. Now, I aint gonna lie.. as much as this fatty actually enjoys really healthy food options, I also love the junk and like everyone, I have to exercise will power, or these things find their way down my throat.. It's absolutely AMAZING how much easier it is to say "no" when you're not also battling almost constant hunger! If I wasn't willing or able to exercise willpower then my surgery would be for nothing since if I ate the wrong things.. I could easily consume thousands of calories per day... but if I eat the right things... Regular normal good quality foods (I choose low carb, and higher fat and 80 grams of protein a day) and I'm satisfied after a small meal and not feeling the need to eat again for many hours. I've done a lot of work to make sure my head is in the right place before doing this surgery. I addressed any issues with emotional eating, I stopped eating wheat and STUCK TO a wheat free diet (I'm intolerant to wheat but used to eat it anyway because I felt like I HAD to). Even with all these steps that I took to address my weight problem, I still kept coming back to the HUNGER and I had this surgery to address that!

Fortunately I don't have any side effects to deal with. I don't have any digestive issues, I can tolerate any food.To be clear, I did not have RNY gastric bypass. I had VSG-Vertical sleeve gastrectomy.. which is basically just reducing the size of your stomach but your intestines remain untouched so there is no malabsorption of nutrients or calories and no "dumping" when eating sugar. My body digests food in the same way it always has.. just with a smaller stomach! Some people need the RNY, but I felt that I could make it work with just the VSG.

So I hope this answers your question. I chose the surgery because I simply could not face the rest of my life having to feel deprived and hungry all the time.. Now with the surgery, I can maintain an appropriate calorie intake for my body and feel satisfied with that calorie amount.

I could have written this same post. For me, the surgery was about controlling my hunger. I would lose weight but I was always sooo hungry. Eventually I would just give in & eat until I was not hungry anymore. Then I would gain the weight back. Maybe I produce more ghrelin than other people--I don't know. Even after my surgery (also had a VSG)--that same weekend, I was still hungry. The difference is that now I can eat the small portions that everyone is supposed to eat & actually be satisfied. If that means I have "cheated" because I am no longer suffering enough for everyone else, then so be it. How many years do you have to be hungry before you are considered to have paid your dues? I spent my whole life waiting for my next meal because I was never satisfied after I ate. Now I can make better choices about my food because I'm not driven by constant hunger. Does that mean I don't have enough "will power" & everyone can look down on me? Go for it. I was not willing to spend the next several years struggling to lose the weight the "right" way that everyone talks about while starving & having my health & quality of life continue to deteriorate. I think if people cannot recognize the hard work & struggle that a WLS patient goes through even if it is not the same hard work & struggle that they face, then there is nothing more to be said to them. So many people complain about WLS patients not telling others about their surgery, but the negative attitude & the "you cheated" type comments make it pretty certain that many won't. I tell anyone who asks. I want everyone to know what a life saver the surgery was for me & I would encourage anyone who is willing to do the work to do it.

etak17

To the OP:

What I'm not understanding is if you are having problems losing weight with your PCOS now, how is it going to change when you have the surgery? Will something in your hormones change that will make you more likely to lose weight, purely due to the surgery? It would seem logical that the weight may come back on (and you would still have extra trouble getting it off) if you still have PCOS, as you said PCOS is the cause for your weight problems.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22169760
Surg Obes Relat Dis. 2012 Jul-Aug;8(4):440-4. doi: 10.1016/j.soard.2011.09.022. Epub 2011 Oct 6.
Roux-en-Y gastric bypass ameliorates polycystic ovary syndrome and dramatically improves conception rates: a 9-year analysis.

Abstract
BACKGROUND:
Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is a common cause of infertility, especially in the morbidly obese. We evaluated the long-term effects of Roux-en-Y gastric bypass on PCOS and infertility.

METHODS:
A total of 566 morbidly obese women underwent Roux-en-Y gastric bypass from 2000 to 2009. A total of 31 patients (5.5%) had a history of PCOS. Of the 31 patients, 6 were postmenopausal and 5 lost to follow-up and were excluded. Telephone interviews were conducted with the 20 eligible patients.

RESULTS:
The mean age and body mass index was 32 ± 5.8 years (range 22-42) and 52.8 ± 9.08 kg/m(2) (range 37-76) before surgery. All 20 patients had ≥ 2 of 3 diagnostic criteria for PCOS, including clinical or biochemical evidence of hyperandrogenism, anovulation, or polycystic ovaries. Of these, 85% had oligomenorrhea, 70% had hirsutism, and 45% had type 2 diabetes mellitus with medication. Before surgery, 8 patients conceived with or without hormonal treatment, 2 did not desire pregnancy, and 10 did not conceive. The mean follow-up was 46.7 months. After surgical weight loss, menstruation was corrected in 82%, hirsutism had resolved in 29%, and 77.8% of those with diabetes had complete remission. Of the 10 patients who did not conceive before surgery, 4 no longer desired pregnancy, and the remaining 6 patients had become pregnant within 3 years of surgery-5 without any hormonal treatment and 1 with in utero insemination.[/b]

CONCLUSION:
Surgical weight loss after Roux-en-Y gastric bypass achieves excellent amelioration of PCOS manifestations and the postoperative conception rate in infertile PCOS subjects desiring pregnancy was 100%.

Georgielee37

As the sister of TJ, I saw first hand everything she has gone through and it has not been an easy ride. Yes part of me is very jealous because her weight is coming off so fast right now, but she is working her *kitten* off for it. I don't think others really think of it as cheating if they were honest I bet they are more jealous then anything. Honestly after being with her during her surgery I am not sure I could do and I damn sure know I couldn't afford it at this time. Besides I smoke and am not ready to give that up. Op go for it and anyone that truly cares about you will be proud of you just like I am proud of TJ. She just started this journey and is doing great so far. I'm still jealous but very happy for her.

Georgielee37

I only think it's cheating when people hoop and holler about how great it is that they lost a big chunk of weight without acknowleging the surgery being the main reason. Similar to me taking credit for walking 37 miles into work when I drove a car. I know people I work with that have lost 150 lbs after surgery, but act like they did it on a treadmill.


Own it. If it's part of your process at getting healthy, then who cares what they think.

Erm... you do know that WLS is only a catalyst right? YOu know that even after the surgery they have to work hard, and eat properly or they can undo everything they have done right?


I have a friend who has had WLS, she has had amazing results, but I also know she works her *kitten* off (literally) to maintain what she has lost and she worked her *kitten* off to lose that weight. WLS is NOT a fix, it is a tool, one that if used properly is a wonderful tool, they still have to maintain a healthy lifestyle which includes a good diet and exercise to get to the goal they want.

OP ignore everyone and their remarks, do what YOU need to do for YOU and no one else.

ABSOLUTELY THIS!!!

I had surgery a month ago tomorrow and I am still working just as hard now as I did before the surgery to lose weight and gain strength. Don't listen to those people who haven't gone thru it, they have no idea what they are talking about if they think its cheating or the easy way to lose weight. Its not.

Yes, you do see some great results at first, but the you will hit plateaus just like everyone else and if your not following all the rules laid out for you you will gain it back. JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. I have no doubt that there are people out there that joined a gym and worked their *kitten* off to get in shape and then let it all fall apart because they got complacent so they have no room to judge people that used surgery as a tool. Just like a gym or a food scale, surgery is a TOOL.

You people need to get off your high-horses if you haven't been thru it and be supporting because I guarantee people that have had the surgery have a lot more challenges than you do. People that judge someone else's choice, shouldn't, because I bet there is something you do in your life that others would be appalled at.

OP do what you need to do and remember to just surround yourself with people that understand your situation and support you and get rid of the ones that dont.

As the sister of TJ, I saw first hand everything she has gone through and it has not been an easy ride. Yes part of me is very jealous because her weight is coming off so fast right now, but she is working her *kitten* off for it. I don't think others really think of it as cheating if they were honest I bet they are more jealous then anything. Honestly after being with her during her surgery I am not sure I could do and I damn sure know I couldn't afford it at this time. Besides I smoke and am not ready to give that up. Op go for it and anyone that truly cares about you will be proud of you just like I am proud of TJ. She just started this journey and is doing great so far. I'm still jealous but very happy for her.Sorry this is on twice I didn't do it right the first time.

NYCNika

As the sister of TJ, I saw first hand everything she has gone through and it has not been an easy ride. Yes part of me is very jealous because her weight is coming off so fast right now, but she is working her *kitten* off for it. I don't think others really think of it as cheating if they were honest I bet they are more jealous then anything. Honestly after being with her during her surgery I am not sure I could do and I damn sure know I couldn't afford it at this time. Besides I smoke and am not ready to give that up. Op go for it and anyone that truly cares about you will be proud of you just like I am proud of TJ. She just started this journey and is doing great so far. I'm still jealous but very happy for her.Sorry this is on twice I didn't do it right the first time.

I don't think it is jealousy to think that using surgery as a substitute for willpower is not a great idea.

The only thing that surgery accomplishes is that it makes you EAT LESS. And the fact that people see it as impossible or too difficult without the surgery, that's what bothers me. That so many see it as a "last resort" and eating less on their own is just not an option. So yes, I know I will get jumped for this, but I do see people who want weight loss surgery to be extremely weak willed.

I"m not jealous. I have about 10lb more till my ultimate goal weight and I love enjoying a cheat meal once in a while. A piece of wonderful cream pastry or a large beer. And freedom of lifestyle that you still get to enjoy when you get there on your own, healthy, without unnecessarily altering your body.

onwarddownward

If I didn't know that I would figure out a way to cheat the surgery adaptation, I guess I might consider it.

But I know myself too well. Plus, I have Postcholecystectomy syndrome, which is very much like dumping syndrome and I don't want anyone going in and making my innards WORSE.

I've failed and failed and failed with weight loss in the past. Each time I've ended up fatter. But at least I have an intact digestive system.

I'm working hard to do this on my own. At least by eating better my Post cholecystectomy syndrome is less bothersome.

Good luck to all on both sides of the issue. Health and happiness! :drinker:

BustedBeauty

I am scheduled to have a gastric bypass on May 24th. I have family and friends making snide comments about my decision. And I keep reading online posts about how weight loss surgery is so horrible because it is cheating.

I have followed a doctor supervised diet and exercise regiment for over a year. My PCOS is making it impossible for me to lose weight. I've seen and endocrinologist and several other specialists and all are agreeing that it is a good idea if I have weight loss surgery because it will change my hormone composition.

I see weight loss surgery as a tool...you still have to follow a strict diet and exercise program if you are going to be healthy. You have to be extremely diligent in taking your supplements and protein intake. You can never eat sugary or fatty foods again. It's not as easy as people think.

Sorry about the rant....I guess I'm just in need of some support or validation of my new journey.

I have an honest question. How does making your stomach smaller change your hormones? Shouldn't you have hormone therapy to change your hormone levels?

I don't know if this has been answered yet, but I too have issues with hormones which made it very very difficult for my to lose weight. I am not blaming it 100% on them, but it did have a huge impact. After having countless appointments with everyone ranging from GYN, Prime Care, surgeons, etc, etc, it was determined that weightloss would help my hormone levels. I don't know the exact chemical reactions that make this true, but the occular headaches from the hormones have lessened in severity as well as some other hormone-related issuses I have suffered from. Losing weight has a huge impact on hormones

BustedBeauty

I NEVER had surgery. I changed my mindset and attitude, and therefore have lost successfully and kept the weight off. I know several people who had the surgery but thought it would solve their problems without changing their mindset. They gained the weight back.

You are 100% accurate. I had surgery a little over a month ago, and know ppl who have been successful and know people who have failed. Surgery is a tool, and if you look at it as "the fix" vs. a tool there is no hope for long-term success

BustedBeauty

This is what irritates me. I worked for many years as a server in a restaurant. You would not believe how many people say......I have had WLS or I have a lapband and I can not eat as much. I do not want to pay for a whole meal since I can't eat it all, will you discount the meal? Ummm NO! That gets me every time. I have 3 friends who have had weight loss surgery, and 1 that had lap band. They have all gained their weight back. I think if you lose weight, either by surgery, or diet and exercise, you will gain it back if your mind set has not been changed. The bottom line is if you can lose weight, it will improve your health. If you will keep it off, is completely up to you.

I'm sorry your paying customers are so irritating to you by requesting a service that is offered by many other restaurants. Many establishments DO offer a smaller size meal and discounted rate to WLS patients.. Why should it irritate you if someone asks? Does it also irritate you when people ask for a senior discount? Now if they are DEMANDING special treatment, that might be cause for irritation, but really you are so easily annoyed that you can't handle an inquiry?

These are not polite customers asking if they can order off the the senior menu or kids menu. These are demanding customers that order the regular meal, then want it discounted because they can only eat a portion of it. I have never seen a menu with a WLS/Lap band section on it. Unless you have worked in food service, you have no idea how rude and demanding people can be.

I'm sorry you have had really demanding customers, but to try to promote the concept that these people poorly communicated to you, the program I am part of actually hands out cards to the patients to present to the servers. I know it can be annoying, especially during a busy shift, but most places haven't given me any issue whatsoever.

amandapye78

My sister was obese her entire life. She had a serious food addiction and refused to admit it. She tried OA, weight watchers, etc. You name it,she tried it. She was miserable. 5 yrs ago she got lapband surgery. She could eat very little after the surgery and it was seriously like a heroin addict going through withdrawals. She was not someone you wanted to be around, but she stuck to it ( she could have had them remove the fill at any time but didn't) She lost 350 lbs in 1 yr ( maybe not the best way but it worked for her) and has kept it off for 4 yrs and eats healthier than anyone I know and works out like crazy. Watching her go through that showed me that the surgery was not cheating for her. It took a lot of work. She got help with her addiction and is now the happiest person I know and I'm proud of her.