Anybody doing this alone in the real world?

KYT1121

I'm not doing it alone in the real world but I have in the past so I can relate to the struggle. Please feel free to add me! I may not be able to be there in the real world but you certainly don't have to go it alone on MFP!

Dewdropps

I am doing it alone, but not really at the same time. My girls are 7,8 and 10 years old and since pool exercises and swimming are what my doctor ordered, I make sure to go at times they can come with me. Fun for them to swim, it's a great way to burn off their excess energy as we live in the boonies, and they never let me skip a day without a good amount of stress LOL.

I also love that they see me changing my life, and it's building a foundation for them to continue for years, even well after they are grown and on their own.

I would love some extra friends on MFP who know what it's like to go it alone, though. It can get rather disheartening and very frustrating at times.

Dewdropps

swimming although very healthy and good for your cardiovascular system, due to its non impact and non weight baring style it doesnt actually burn that many calories, maybe swap it for a brisk walk of a run if your up to it. Or of course do both, by no way am i condeming swimming, its just work done = weight moved, swimming removes the weight, so for all your movement you dont get a lot of reward.

I disagree. I swim 5 days/week for 1- 2 hours per day. When I say swim, I mean swim. Out of breath, muscles screaming etc. Using a special swimming monitor, I can easily track my HR as well as the calorie burn, and I average somewhere between 900-1100 cals burned per session.

Also, swimming is low impact, but have you ever tried to run in water? The resistance is unbelievable. You can build up any area in the water as you can with weights and machines. There are some great instruction videos on Youtube you can see exactly what I mean. Just search "water exercise"

I would bet that I use more range of motion/more groups of muscles in the water than the typical gym goer could.

TLDR: Low impact does not equal low cal burn

fyoufat

I feel like I am doing it alone-as in little support. My husband isn't unsupportive, but he doesn't really say anything unless I mention stuff and even then it is pretty generic "that's good". He is not fat and I don't know whether or not he feels uncomfortable mentioning it (which he says is why) or what. I have told him just simply acknowledging something would be nice but he has yet to do it really. I can't wait until the day he says "it looks like you lost weight" or "wow I can tell you have been working out now".

I'm sure he would rather me be skinner (I was like 100 lbs less when we met omg) but he is the type of person who has never said I was fat and he still seemed interested in me in that way- if you know what I mean. I know I have only lost 22 pounds and still have a lot to go, but no one has said anything (my family). I am sure they might not even notice it on me but, they all know I go to the gym at 4:30 am and workout, etc. and they don't really encourage me, I don't know. And I tell them I lost 22 pounds and they didn't really say anything-like they don't believe me? And these are people (i/e my mom) that used to bug the crap out of me about loosing weight, and now that I actually have drastically changed my life-they don't even say anything. Litterally everyone in my family and my husband's family is of healthy weight, although not very athletic imo.


So I feel like I am doing it totally on my own (in RL at least). I am now not even going to talk about it in RL and just wait for people to say things to me because I am ultimately doing this to improve my life in all aspects. It is hard because I weigh things and log things, workout and it is obviously I am doing these things and ignoring the subject seems weird to me). But, the way I think about it is, when I finally reach my goal it will be so much more rewarding to know I was able to do it with very little encouragement from my family.

hellokathy

I have three friends who want to lose weight. The one who is in a similar situation lives too far away, so it's not much different than the encouragement I get from people on here. The other one is much skinnier and prefers other kinds of fitness that I cannot / don't want to approach just yet. The third...well, we said we'd do this together but she's better at dragging herself and me down rather than encouraging. For example she'll only tag along when I'm going to the gym once a week instead of bringing it up herself. And when we go, she tries to talk me into having McD or Starbucks afterwards. So I prefer to go without her.

So yup, despite there being people I can talk to about this, I am pretty much doing this on my own. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have proper gym buddies but then again...it's not exactly a group activity.

vmckinzey

For the most part I'm also doing it alone. My son has a lot to lose, but he's doing his own thing and I need consistency. My husband is very supportive, but has never had to watch a calorie in his life so it's not always easy. It gets difficult some times, but God and my MFP friends are helping me through it. Taking it one day at a time.

lnxjenn

I am not really doing this alone, but sometimes it feels that way. My husband is supportive and we have been eating healthy together for the last year. He's lost quite a bit of weight thanks to changing of his eating habits since I moved in. I have been struggling and haven't lost anything. So I am restarting, and still feel like I'm struggling frequently, even when i do eat healthy. I was quite active at first but I haven't been as active the past few months.

I live with my MIL as well, and she really needs to lose weight. she is quite the aggitator in the house and is usually the one bringing in lots of processed and junk foods. It's quite bothersome and a distraction. Usually I get disgusted and it makes me want to eat better. But still hasn't helped my weight loss efforts. :embarassed: I don't eat her stuff but it sometimes triggers desire for a sweet thing...

SJackson50

Besides my extremely supportive, rock star friends on MFP, I am doing this alone...I exercise alone at home...I eat alone in my office with food I prepared, while everyone else goes out...

I have one super-slim sister (size 0!) and two others who need to consider the health impact of their weight. All seem a little envious--my slim sister because she is no longer the only slim one ;-) This has been working extremely well for me and with only one size, or 15 pounds, left to my goal, I wouldn't have it any other way.

Good luck to everyone in their goals and feel free to add me if you believe we have something in common!

Cp731

Yes.
Its lonely fitness world for me. Ha!
I often run and ppl just stand there looking all, idk, lazy, unmotivated, fat.
I have lots of friends that could care less, they see me changing and make comments, but I cant get them motivated.
They make comments about how they wish they could do what I do..and I cringe..why would anyone want to continue a lifestyle of harm and laziness? I guess I was lazy at one time, for a minute..
Ah, Too each is own.

brookemcfarlin12

i'm doing this alone. I have my boyfriend with who I live with for support, but he doesn't exercise with me, so there is the fact that I am doing this on my own. I live with him and his family (his mother and brother)
His mother is skinny, but she eats barely anything so I can't really relate with that. His brother eats what he wants and is overweight. So basically i'm doing this in the long haul.
Hoping that I can get my boyfriend to start running with me, but we'll see.