Comments From FB Friends... Awkward?

jessicae1aine

So, as I type this out, I know it sounds ridiculous. I'll just start with that.

I have a dear friend on Facebook who lives in Mexico, and asked me to upload a new picture to Facebook because mine was oldish and she's just like that. :P So, I did... and now I'm getting a ridiculous number of comments on it from family/people I never see or talk to/etc, telling me how great I look and how I've lost so much weight, and I'm, just like... "uh... thanks?"

I'm all super-excited when I lose weight, and I update my pictures on here, but it just feels awkward to have other people noticing/commenting/etc. That's especially true because I just don't discuss my weight, my weight loss, etc with people on Facebook at all, for the most part. Anyone else have that issue?

Lift_This_

I feel the same way. I'd rather just post all my pics on here, at least all my MFP friends know where im coming from when i post a pic. my FB friends are like "OMG, you are so skinny, what are you doing?" or **** like that...I like to try and keep my MFP and FB lives separate...lol

jessicae1aine

Haha, but can you really go without EVER updating a picture on Facebook? I get annoying demands from people... or The Mister and I will take pictures if we go on some grand adventure, and he ALWAYS shares and tags me in them.

SenseiCole

I have out the odd quote on about changing my lifestyle, I haven't holdmany people the real reason for my lifestyle change and I don't think I will, it is personal and no one needs to know

quotes like this
We can reverse years of damage to our bodies by deciding to raise our standards for ourselves, then living differently. Old wounds heal, injuries repair, and the whole system improves with just a few changes in what we put into our bodies and how we move them.

sorry not much I am sorry,maybe someone else will

SenseiCole

Haha, but can you really go without EVER updating a picture on Facebook? I get annoying demands from people... or The Mister and I will take pictures if we go on some grand adventure, and he ALWAYS shares and tags me in them.

I had my wedding pic, this one for years, I now have pic of my kids

if you have a cat or dog try that, or a flower from garden or the sunset or something like that, if you don't want to post a pic of yourself you don't have too

no can make you do anything you don't want to do, unless you let them. the power is in your own hands not other

write your ow story, don't let other write it for you

jessicae1aine

I have out the odd quote on about changing my lifestyle, I haven't holdmany people the real reason for my lifestyle change and I don't think I will, it is personal and no one needs to know

You know, I wonder if this isn't a big part of my issue. A lot of my reason for wanting to lose is because I have PCOS, and we'd really, really love kids... but discussing my fertility issues with those same people who are commenting would be really uncomfortable.

yogabycrystal

here I am starting over and am so inspired i have lost 70 pounds gained some back doing the yo yo stuff and i got about 11 pounds to go and yea i agree its akward on fb

ozigal

Yeah... I updated my fb pic for the first time a week ago. It spawned 60+ comments. Most of those were positive about how well I was doing but it does get a little embarrassing.

I suppose people need to realise I've changed (and so do I). They'll get used to it soon enough but the "coming out" is definitely a little awkward.

I wrote a blog post about it at the time. Here it is:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/ozigal

SenseiCole

I have out the odd quote on about changing my lifestyle, I haven't holdmany people the real reason for my lifestyle change and I don't think I will, it is personal and no one needs to know

You know, I wonder if this isn't a big part of my issue. A lot of my reason for wanting to lose is because I have PCOS, and we'd really, really love kids... but discussing my fertility issues with those same people who are commenting would be really uncomfortable.

fertility issues are between you and you partner and poss your mum or a friend/sister. it is not for others to comment, tell the mind their own bussiness,

I can have kids I know where you are at, i now have 4 lovely adopted children

juliegrey1

I keep them separate my settings at one stage was posting my exercise to FB I kept getting comments on how well I was doing and how did I have the energy and all that,well meaning I know but it looked like I was showing off so I stopped it!

Lift_This_

Haha, but can you really go without EVER updating a picture on Facebook? I get annoying demands from people... or The Mister and I will take pictures if we go on some grand adventure, and he ALWAYS shares and tags me in them.

even when i go on vacation i rarely will post pics if i am in them...i am so serious on that too....not many of my FB friends want to see pics...its pretty sad...i think they forgot im there...maybe its because i spend all my time here!!!!

RJay64

I don't feel the need to reply to every comment on FB. If you see a comment and an answer doesn't come to you naturally - if you have to hmm and errr about what to say - don't say anything.

Sometimes I just hit "like" on a comment, and that is my reply.

PlayerHatinDogooder

Wait . . . . they have Facebook in Mexico?

jessicae1aine

Wait . . . . they have Facebook in Mexico?

Bahahahaha!


Seriously, though, you guys are all awesome. And I'm really, really glad it's not just me that runs into that. I think I'll just like the comments and call it good... and leave my picture alone until I'll inevitably be tagged in pictures on vacation.

Lupercalia

The vast majority of my FB friends are not into exercise, at all. LOL. And discussing weight loss is always awkward, I think. Not just for the person who has lost a bunch of weight, but for the other people trying to discuss it as well. I avoid that as well.

My Fitocracy account was updating my FB page--posting entire workouts! It made me feel like an *kitten*, like I was gloating or fishing for compliments, so I quickly figured out how to disable that and deleted all the posts it made.

I hate being tagged in FB photos, period.

mandylgibbs

I guess I'm different. I have shared everything with everyone. I find that being so extremely candid has led me to find some true friends and supporters in the FB community. I didn't know that I had so many people rooting for me.

I_Will_End_You

I don't particularly like attention, so I feel the same way. (Unless it's from my boyfriend...I like that. haha).

Hadabetter

It's kind of crappy to lose weight have have no one notice too.

melindasuefritz

tHATS NOT AN ISSUE ...........
WHAT ISSUE ARE U HAVING>?????
PEOPLE ARE COMPLIMENTING YOU
LEARN TO TAKE COMPLIMENTS AND BE HAPPY

thecakelocker

I only use Facebook to collect cat gifs

tedrickp

I am holding off on posting any facebook pics until I have lost an overwhelming amount of weight because I kind of like that attention haha.

moni_tb_192

I don't update my photo very often, and the last one I posted was just a photograph of my face. It got lots of likes, and a few comments. However, when I see FB people in real life, they do tell how much I've changed and how good I look. I really appreciate that And the only time it was awkward was when a professor at the university (a guy I had only spoken to a couple of times) told me that he knew he didn't talk to me very much, but that I looked good... and he asked for advice! hahahaha

Elzecat

I guess I'm different. I have shared everything with everyone. I find that being so extremely candid has led me to find some true friends and supporters in the FB community. I didn't know that I had so many people rooting for me.

Fitness has become a way of life for me, so it would be really difficult for me to not share that with my "FB" friends as well as those on MFP. I have found pretty much overwhelming support from my friends and family, with the exception of one or two acquaintances who I was not close to) I figure if people don't care to read my status updates about races and runs and such, they can leave my page

WDEvy

YES! It's so awkward! I posted a random pic of me from last week's Comic Con and random people kept commenting on my body.. It was really strange

LizardQueen4PointOh

I'm on MFP more than FB these days. A friend on MFP, which happens to be an IRL/FB friend also, asked me if I was going to post any recent pics of myself on FB. I tend to just do face shots, or I'm the one taking the pictures, so I'm not in them (kids, hubby). There were some from Easter of me in a group. I was trying on a new pair of capris and really liked how they looked, so I snapped a shot in the changing room and posted it (and bought them!). I got lots of compliments and "what are you doing to lose the weight" comments. I told them I'm still looking for the magic pill, but in the meantime I'm eating fewer calories and exercising.

eep223

Maybe just update it more often. Then the change will be more gradual and probably no one will comment.

corrinnebrown

That just means it really shows!

Read somewhere that it takes 4 weeks for you to notice your body changing, 8 weeks fro you close friends and family to notice and 12 weeks for the rest of the world to.

Must've hit that 12 week mark! Congratulations!

GnomeQueen84

Why is it awkward for people to compliment you?

obeseandsassy

So, as I type this out, I know it sounds ridiculous. I'll just start with that.

I have a dear friend on Facebook who lives in Mexico, and asked me to upload a new picture to Facebook because mine was oldish and she's just like that. :P So, I did... and now I'm getting a ridiculous number of comments on it from family/people I never see or talk to/etc, telling me how great I look and how I've lost so much weight, and I'm, just like... "uh... thanks?"

I'm all super-excited when I lose weight, and I update my pictures on here, but it just feels awkward to have other people noticing/commenting/etc. That's especially true because I just don't discuss my weight, my weight loss, etc with people on Facebook at all, for the most part. Anyone else have that issue?

I think it's definitely a symptom of the diet culture we live in--that if someone posts a picture where they're thinner than before, people feel obligated to comment in support, because 'thinner=better.' What if you'd been really sick? What if you'd developed an eating disorder? What you had gotten depressed and stopped eating? To have a ton of people comment and say things like 'omg you look so good' and ask for diet tips and tricks when they have no idea why you're losing weight is a complete faux pas. Weight loss is not always a positive or a healthy thing.

Changing your body is a personal journey. I would feel super awkward in your situation, especially when your goal is something as private as fertility.

CindyRip

You went to all the effort to lose weight and you want to hide it because someone might comment on it? I think you are focusing on the wrong thing here. When you get those comments if they are not rude, a simple "Thanks" will do, you do not have to elaborate, then move on to your normal conversation. You owe no one any explanations other than what you want to provide. Do you really want no one to notice your effort? What kind of friend says nothing about a big change? Not one I want for sure. Change your focus and these comment may not seem so awkward but something positive. Of course if they are rude they deserve no return comment, problem solved.

Velum_cado

I find online comments much less awkward than in person ones. Something about standing there while someone tells me how much better I look, and comments on my body and my appearance. Bah. Uncomfortable.