how do you interpret this text?

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  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Even if he is referring to you, do you really need this drama? Love YOURSELF enough to walk away.
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    You deserve better in a relationship :flowerforyou:

    Why? You don't know her, what's to say she does? Honestly, everyone says that to everyone, even people they don't know a speck about, and I'm not honestly convinced it's true. The real statement should be, 'You should want better for yourself'.
  • foraubs
    foraubs Posts: 263 Member
    He hasn't bothered with you in two months. Girlfriend or not, there's your answer. Text interpretation unnecessary as his behaviour in the interim denotes everything you need to know.

    Good luck!
  • metaphoria
    metaphoria Posts: 1,432 Member
    Multiple choice answer time!

    A. He's got a girlfriend/someone who isn't you.

    B. He's ashamed to tell you he's in prison.

    C. He's afraid of his intense feelings for you, and is trying to muster up the courage to tell you that he wants to marry you in a castle and make a bus load of chubby babies with you.
  • CristyMusicLovr
    CristyMusicLovr Posts: 179 Member
    Oh hell no girl! Move on! He has a gf, you are sort of the victim here and he is the liar, so um why would you want a lying bastid as your man? The IDK means I dont want to hurt you but YES I have a gf! That is clear as water! I suggest get into some zumba classes:wink: , go out with your friends:drinker: and flirt with hot guys:bigsmile: I think the other chick is equally as umm accepting of his crap, cause If I would've found something like that ha! I would've said Peace!
  • sarahtonin015
    sarahtonin015 Posts: 193
    I think the other chick is equally as umm accepting of his crap, cause If I would've found something like that ha! I would've said Peace!

    They BOTH are making the same mistake; although we don't actually know if he's with the girl who texted her anymore. He might be with someone new. But the girl who posted this clearly is still letting him get away with it, so she's the one we should be focusing on in terms of moving on and saying "peace".
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    Oh hell no girl! Move on! He has a gf, you are sort of the victim here and he is the liar, so um why would you want a lying bastid as your man? The IDK means I dont want to hurt you but YES I have a gf! That is clear as water! I suggest get into some zumba classes:wink: , go out with your friends:drinker: and flirt with hot guys:bigsmile: I think the other chick is equally as umm accepting of his crap, cause If I would've found something like that ha! I would've said Peace!

    wait wait wait... SHE is the victim? How is SHE the victim?

    First off, the guy didn't lied. The guy plainly said that he doesn't know whats goign on with the other girl. OP however still wants to be with this guy.

    In this scenario, nobody is the victim. They are all drama seeking grownups who needs to walk away from the jersey shore type of TV shows and actually get into the real world.

    And stop taking sides. You don't know jack about the situation.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    You deserve better in a relationship :flowerforyou:

    What relationship?
  • adamalle
    adamalle Posts: 88 Member
    Delete his number. If your phone is able to, block him from texting/calling you.

    Move on.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    Multiple choice answer time!

    A. He's got a girlfriend/someone who isn't you.

    B. He's ashamed to tell you he's in prison.

    C. He's afraid of his intense feelings for you, and is trying to muster up the courage to tell you that he wants to marry you in a castle and make a bus load of chubby babies with you.

    Duh! It's obviously C. He's probably trying to think up the perfect proposal scenario right now.



    Well, maybe after he's done with round three with the chick that's answering his texts, anyway
  • metaphoria
    metaphoria Posts: 1,432 Member
    Multiple choice answer time!

    A. He's got a girlfriend/someone who isn't you.

    B. He's ashamed to tell you he's in prison.

    C. He's afraid of his intense feelings for you, and is trying to muster up the courage to tell you that he wants to marry you in a castle and make a bus load of chubby babies with you.

    Duh! It's obviously C. He's probably trying to think up the perfect proposal scenario right now.



    Well, maybe after he's done with round three with the chick that's answering his texts, anyway

    That makes sense! The skank must be a wedding planner!
    Squeeeeeee!
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    My interpretation: Stop texting her man.
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
    Multiple choice answer time!

    A. He's got a girlfriend/someone who isn't you.

    B. He's ashamed to tell you he's in prison.

    C. He's afraid of his intense feelings for you, and is trying to muster up the courage to tell you that he wants to marry you in a castle and make a bus load of chubby babies with you.

    Duh! It's obviously C. He's probably trying to think up the perfect proposal scenario right now.



    Well, maybe after he's done with round three with the chick that's answering his texts, anyway

    That makes sense! The skank must be a wedding planner!
    Squeeeeeee!
    We say skank she calls herself "JLo" now. :p
  • Nishi2013
    Nishi2013 Posts: 210 Member
    What I don't get about girls, and I don't mean this offensively, is why you're so quick to hate on the GIRL but make excuses for the GUY. :S Lol This is why I hang out with mostly guys haha You call this girl a skank when all she did was text you and ask you to stop texting "her man" - what if SHE was his girlfriend and discovered that he had been texting other girls in an inappropriate way, you being one of them? It seems more like HE is the two-timer who isn't being faithful to ANY girls, but yet you don't seem to be placing the proper blame on him. Sounds more like you two girls were both being played and this guy is a doucher. Do yourself a favour and move on because you deserve better, you really do.

    This. And if you still persist then the question would be "who is the skank"?
  • metaphoria
    metaphoria Posts: 1,432 Member
    Multiple choice answer time!

    A. He's got a girlfriend/someone who isn't you.

    B. He's ashamed to tell you he's in prison.

    C. He's afraid of his intense feelings for you, and is trying to muster up the courage to tell you that he wants to marry you in a castle and make a bus load of chubby babies with you.

    Duh! It's obviously C. He's probably trying to think up the perfect proposal scenario right now.



    Well, maybe after he's done with round three with the chick that's answering his texts, anyway

    That makes sense! The skank must be a wedding planner!
    Squeeeeeee!
    We say skank she calls herself "JLo" now. :p

    Haha love it.
  • brentbarrie
    brentbarrie Posts: 532 Member
    this is still going? lol
  • KarenJanine
    KarenJanine Posts: 3,497 Member
    Men don't tend to put hidden meanings in what they say (sorry if this generalisation offends anyone). So no, he wasn't referring to you. Yes, there is probably another girl and he thinks you may know her. Perhaps you went to school together or something.
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
    this is still going? lol
    It will not end, even with "He's just NOT that into you" introduced to modern society with most of men and women's secrets apparently we still don't get it.
  • chelcdub
    chelcdub Posts: 49 Member
    Really how do you know that HE was calling you again and not her. Second it seems like you may not want the advice you're saying you want. This guy has moved on, see the situation for what it is, and not what you may want it to be...good luck with this one.
  • agoofynut
    agoofynut Posts: 101 Member
    IDK = yes, but I'd love to get some on the side
    you might know her = I deleted your number, so I don't really know who just texted me
  • Factory_Reset
    Factory_Reset Posts: 1,651 Member
    Just keep calling/texting him till you get the answer you want to hear from him.

    OP, you're obviously new to how relationships work these days.
  • sandradev1
    sandradev1 Posts: 786 Member
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  • crenner07
    crenner07 Posts: 36
    I realize it's been a while since I've dated (been too busy with college and working) but "idk" should never be a valid answer to that question. But maybe things have changed that drastically and I'm just hosed.
  • Antlady69
    Antlady69 Posts: 204 Member
    To be fair to the OP: none of us knows this guy. What if he IS someone who likes to say suggestive things? In that case, "I don't know, you might know her... " could indeed be referring to her. We are all just posting our opinions (including myself), but none of us can actually KNOW what he meant.

    Some guys are like that, they don't say straight out what they mean, they just drop hints and expect you to interpret them correctly. CORRECTLY being the key word here.

    OP, you will never know for sure if he doesn't tell you straight out. If you really want to know (and keep in mind, this might hurt you A LOT!), you will unfortunately have to call him one more time. Do make a phone call, don't just text. Ask him what you want to know, and don't let him give you excuses or suggestions. Demand straight answers from him.

    You could also try to force your mind to focus on distractions whenever your thoughts return to him. It takes an effort, it won't be easy at first, but force your mind to find other things to get occupied with. Do you have hobbies? Pursue them. And when your mind wanders back to him, allow it for a moment but then force your focus back to what you're doing.
  • hellokittymaui
    hellokittymaui Posts: 226 Member
    In my opinion, you need to just move on. Obviously this guy has. He wasn't serous about you in the beginning and most likely had a girlfriend at that time and has one now.

    I'm sorry. Life can be crap sometimes. :sad:
  • Heather_Rider
    Heather_Rider Posts: 1,159 Member
    sorry - just think texting me from his phone was skanky. I know she was a girl he hooked up with a few drunken times. she's not a skank - her behavior was skanky....to me.
    .

    and his booty call to her wasnt just as man-skanky? Do you want to be with someone who does that? & maybe would do that to you? Dont be so quick to judge the girl.. it takes two honey! He is just as in the wrong as she is!
  • PlayerHatinDogooder
    PlayerHatinDogooder Posts: 1,018 Member
    Well, this is about absurdly idiotic.

    He has a girlfriend.

    He wasn't referring to you.

    Move on and stop being desperate.

    Yep whierd nailed it.

    I'm also finding it odd that your calling the girl in question a 'skank' when they seem to be in a more legitimate relationship than you and he ever were.

    Personally I think you should eliminate that word from your vocabulary.
  • jajnn
    jajnn Posts: 33
    LOL
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    Don't get involved with someone with PTSD unless you have to (i.e. already married/in a relationship with before PTSD kicks in). It is one of those really rough journeys, and although he should seek out help and support of friends and family it is wrong of him to even consider starting a relationship, and it is a really bad idea for you to consider starting one with him. Maybe in a couple years if your paths cross again and he's mentally stable.

    gee thanks

    as someone who has suffered long term PTSD I find your post really depressing and dismaying.
  • axialmeow
    axialmeow Posts: 382 Member
    1: Yes, he has a girlfriend(or wife)

    2: She is not a skank any more than you are. You were both lied to. He is the skank.

    3: He won't leave her no matter what he says.

    4: Yes. really.

    Hope this helps!!