Death...what do you think about it--or do you?

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  • CrazyTrackLady
    CrazyTrackLady Posts: 1,337 Member
    I don't wish to belittle anyone's losses here, so please don't bash me for this. But, to me, death is all part of the process. It is inevitable, so I'm not afraid of dying. But, there are things I want to accomplish first -- mainly to see my children become responsible, productive adults and, if they want it, parents.

    I also don't want to witness my children die before I do. I've been to two child funerals -- a two-year old and a 14-year old, and honestly, those were very, very traumatic to see. No child should die before their parents-- that's not how the order of things should go!

    Lastly, and probably the thing that WILL get me bashed, is that I have a harder time and am more upset when I've had to put my pets down. Yes, it sounds harsh, but animals don't live as long, and darn it they just wrap themselves around our hearts and hug tightly.

    I lost my first dog and my MIL in the same year. I bawled, just BAWLED my eyes out when my dog died, but only wept when my MIL did -- because we all knew, and so did she, that her time was up. She had accepted it, and so did we.

    Again, I am sorry for everyone's losses, but I do have my own spin about death, and some situations are a lot tougher on me than others.
  • Dunkirk
    Dunkirk Posts: 465 Member
    I suspect your neighbour has had a lot of friends/acquaintances die. To older people it happens a lot and it becomes a familiar occurrence.
    My Mother in Law passed away over a year ago and it was a very sad loss for all the family. My next Sunday at church after the funeral I arrived late so sat in the back row. As that is where families with young children usually sit, I checked my seat to make sure it was clean. It was. Part way through I had to move seats to let some people pass. A while later I went to sit down and discovered my seat and the first one I'd been in had a sprinkling of gold specks. I hadn't brought it in and no one else had been near. It was God's way of comforting me. My MIL knew Jesus, I know Jesus. My MIL was having a great time in heaven. Life after death to me? The best PARTY ever!




    I suspect your neighbour has had a lot of friends/acquaintances die. To older people it happens a lot and it becomes a familiar occurrence. .... I REALLY appreciate you sharing this. My neighbor/friend is very elderly (even though she doesn't look nor act like it AT ALL not even a bit :happy: ) She's nearing or in her late 70's early 80's...this makes soooo much sense to me. Thank you so much for your lovely post!

    My pleasure :-D
  • angelique_redhead
    angelique_redhead Posts: 782 Member
    I'm not afraid of dying but I'm in no hurry to go. I have a 15 year old I want to see grow up.
  • SilverLotusGirl
    SilverLotusGirl Posts: 537 Member
    In some cases it's bad horrid unfair terrible and sucks. In others Im glad it happened because Death can end a lot of suffering and pain. For myself, Im in no big rush to die, Im 27 and I hope it's not a painful or tragic death but part of really believes that to die will be a really great adventure.
  • JJordon
    JJordon Posts: 857 Member
    We all gotta go. Some will go faster than others.
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    My MILs mom just passed and she carries on like no thing but a chicken wing. Some people are good at hiding emotions so I don't care if they're not being dramatical about it. Everyone mourns different.

    I think about death all the time especially since I had children. I want to see them grown, but tomorrow isn't promised today.

    I'm desensitized to death. When I was 18 I lost a friend. He was killed execution style. Some gangbanger shot him and his buddy in the back of the head then set the car ablaze. This happened in an alley right where I grew up. He was open casket. At that point in my life I freaked about mortality. Then I accepted it and I'm probably one of those people who talks about death nonchalant. It's life.
  • freddykid
    freddykid Posts: 265 Member
    Death scares me but I worry about the lives of my kids and my wife much more than my own. In the end all you can do is delay it. I want to grow old and see my great grandchildren with my beautiful wife. I have escaped my own death 2 times and have watched soldiers in their teens pass away right in front of me. Life is something you should cherish and enjoy. Death will come and having to say good bye sucks. Death sucks but love is awesome.
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    Live every moment and don't take anything for granted. Celebrate life as it happens. You can't go back and tell someone you love them after they're gone, so make sure you say it while they're here. It's all you can do.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    Death doesn't bother me. It's the lead up I don't care for. You know, the dying part. It seems like a struggle. I don't like being in pain.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,978 Member
    The one sure thing that will happen to everyone. Personally I believe once it happens, the deceased end up being worm food. The cycle continues with someone else's birth.

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  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    I am totally against it...

    That being said, yes that separation from this life happens to all of us whether we are against it or not; the thing is we just have to be ready so that our eternal reward is one that will bring eternal pleasure rather than eternal anguish...
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    My oldest friend died last year. It's still hard to come to terms with it, because I live in a different city so I never saw her body.
    She's estranged from her family so she left me as next of kin in her last wishes. So I picked up her remains and now I have to figure out where to bury her.

    As for myself, I just hope I don't die in some way that's horribly embarrassing and end up having my remains featured on rotten.com or something.
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    These are such deep and again, thought provoking replies--thank you ALL so much for posting!
  • ELCABRA
    ELCABRA Posts: 50 Member
    DEATH IS AN *kitten*!!
  • sukifr
    sukifr Posts: 70 Member
    My brother died when i was 6 - he was 9 due to illness, then followed shortly by my grandparents. My dad spent most of my childhood trying to kill himself , but died anyway in his 50s due to be unhealthy, my mum also, and now I've got by brother-in-law staying with me who talks about dying and killing himself all the time!!

    Death - it's certainly one topic you can't get away from!!

    Make the most of today because tomorrow might never happen - live long and prosper :smile:
  • VeganSurfer
    VeganSurfer Posts: 383 Member
    My father died in his mid 30's, my nanna just passed away last year at 91.
    It happens to everyone, nothing you can do to stop it. Make the most of your life I say.
  • eliseofthejungle
    eliseofthejungle Posts: 113 Member
    I think it's damn depressing. I have my days when I dwell on it, but I try really hard not to because on those days I just want to hole up in a cave with a BIG bottle of vodka and brood and cry. The more I think about it the more everything seems pointless, mostly because I don't really believe in any sort of existence after death. I want to, but I just don't. So, to me, the whole live-life-to-the-fullest mentality doesn't even really make sense because it's not like you'll be around to remember if your life was full or not. All of those experiences just *poof* when you die. And it doesn't even really matter if the people close to you have good memories of you because they'll all die too. Pretty soon there won't even be anyone who remembers you and it's like you never even existed. So, really, all of your choices, decisions, actions, emotions, opinions, insights, "accomplishments", are completely pointless. It's very sad to think about.
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    I think it's damn depressing. I have my days when I dwell on it, but I try really hard not to because on those days I just want to hole up in a cave with a BIG bottle of vodka and brood and cry. The more I think about it the more everything seems pointless, mostly because I don't really believe in any sort of existence after death. I want to, but I just don't. So, to me, the whole live-life-to-the-fullest mentality doesn't even really make sense because it's not like you'll be around to remember if your life was full or not. All of those experiences just *poof* when you die. And it doesn't even really matter if the people close to you have good memories of you because they'll all die too. Pretty soon there won't even be anyone who remembers you and it's like you never even existed. So, really, all of your choices, decisions, actions, emotions, opinions, insights, "accomplishments", are completely pointless. It's very sad to think about.


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