Help! I'm afraid they'll end up better than me!

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  • RichOC
    RichOC Posts: 243 Member
    My sister has lost 110 pounds. Her husband has lost 160. My brother has lost 170 and his wife has lost 120.

    ... I... have lost 20.... BUT, I have lost 10 pant sizes.

    I've been working out longer than them and eating healthier longer. Yet, they have gotten the results. I am excessively proud of my family!! ... just a bit jealous.

    My nutritionist pointed one thing out to me though.... He asked me how much can they bench press.

    This is what *I* have to remind myself of every time I get discouraged (or even jealous) that everyone else SEEMS to be doing better than me. That I lift weights. That is an accomplishment in itself.

    As for being the girl unnoticed, we all want to be noticed. We all want to be seen as pretty, but you have to be something more than pretty. Also, have you not noticed by now that the "odd" girls are the ones men (whoever) tend to notice the most. The confidence of us (me for sure) "odd" girls is the thing that could make or break us. Someone sees us shying away and jealous of the world, they will no longer care to see more of us. We stand up, smile, speak our mind, and beat them at video games... and suddenly we are kind of hot. People are surprised at how attracted to us they are.

    It is pretty hot when a girl can beat you at video games...
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    The main reason you are getting the attention is because you made something happen and your "friends" saw the change and it inspired them. Let us fast forward a year from now, do you think they will look at you the same way? no they won't because they got used to athletic you, so your achievement today becomes tomorrow's norm.

    But now let us look at the same situation if you shared with them and they in turn followed you to a better and successful form of themselves. Fast forward a year from today and all of you are in excellent "athletic" shape, you are the hero now because you were the spark that started the fire in your group of friends' road to success.

    This might help you feel better about the situation but in reality nothing will if you don't learn to appreciate yourself for who you are. You are young and others views tend to affect you a lot, but trust me 10 or 20 years down the line you might struggle to even remember their names. So try to focus on making a positive impact in others lives by being excellent to each other rather than being that "fat" friend who lost weight.
  • geebusuk
    geebusuk Posts: 3,348 Member
    Consider it this way - you may get the stares being the trim one of the group; but imagine the stares the lot of you will get if you are ALL in a 'fit' shape ;).
  • Rachlovesfitness
    Rachlovesfitness Posts: 219 Member
    Honestly I personally feel that because there is a HUGE epidemic of obesity going on in this country (and world) that whenever anybody asks for help and admires what you can done...YOU HELP without judgement.

    We need healthier people in this world.

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