broken heart, new start

JennyAmi2012
JennyAmi2012 Posts: 4 Member
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I just recently had my heart torn to pieces. After two years together, he decided he's leaving me to move to California with his parents.

I'm a single, and very over weight. I feel like crap about myself. I'm trying to use this as a new start in my life. It's time to lose weight so one day he'll find me online and go "Damn! I could have had that!"

So I'm looking for some "friends" that will help me keep my big booty on track.
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  • jkandktmom
    jkandktmom Posts: 1,010 Member
    I have so been there. My ex cheated alll through out our marrige. I really want him to see me at one of the kids' events down the road and think, "what was I thinking'!
  • cowboysfan82288
    cowboysfan82288 Posts: 99
    Sorry to hear that. You'll find alot of support here. Welcome to MFP! Feel free to add me if you'd like.
  • iLoveMyPitbull1225
    iLoveMyPitbull1225 Posts: 1,690 Member
    I am sorry to hear about your heartache. But, I am proud of you for deciding to make a change in your life and move forward, that is a brave thing! I have sent you a friend request :)
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    I just recently had my heart torn to pieces. After two years together, he decided he's leaving me to move to California with his parents.

    I'm a single, and very over weight. I feel like crap about myself. I'm trying to use this as a new start in my life. It's time to lose weight so one day he'll find me online and go "Damn! I could have had that!"

    So I'm looking for some "friends" that will help me keep my big booty on track.

    Woohoo get rid of all the bad things :P Out with the old and in with the new.
  • amyllu
    amyllu Posts: 432 Member
    Good for you Jenny!

    My OH used to nag me like mad and watch every single thing I put in my mouth with the result that when he left I went on a real binge fest for several years...not good I know.
    Now I am doing it for me..so try to change your mindset and do it for YOU!!
  • polly_lops
    polly_lops Posts: 35 Member
    Ouch but well done for finding that silver lining and making this a positive thing. Friend request coming your way :smile:
  • lyonsfool03
    lyonsfool03 Posts: 80
    I know its a great feeling to make them feel like crap... I recently met up with an ex at a grocery store (right after I left a workout so was wearing muscle shirt and shorts) and her eyes blew up... It was great because she was rhe one that dumped me bc she told me I was fat and sloppy 4 years adter i had discovered her cheating on me... She wanted to talk to me but told her I had to go because my beautiful fit wife was waiting at home for me. I had the biggest smile as I walked away. Later that evening I recieved a text from her saying she was sry for what she had done to me but was glad i looked happy.... My answer " You dmnnnnnn right
  • Bullygirl30
    Bullygirl30 Posts: 82
    yeah Im in the same boat however he told me that I wasn't good enough for him becasue im not done with college yet.
  • jwkimble
    jwkimble Posts: 3
    Stick with this. Eat right and exercise until you don't care if they ever even see you again. You will learn, you matter - they don't.
  • Grimmerick
    Grimmerick Posts: 3,342 Member
    Sometimes Heartbreak can be the best fuel for your fire!

    Sometimes good things fall apart so great things can fall together
  • Jodibear58
    Jodibear58 Posts: 280 Member
    Feel free to add me. We all need folks to help us along :D Hang on, we are here for you!
  • trickrabbit
    trickrabbit Posts: 15
    Soory to hear your story but am glad to see that you are ready to move forward.
    The people on here are great and very helpful, i am sure you will like it.
    Feel free to add me as a friend if you would like.
  • macsgirl526
    macsgirl526 Posts: 80
    I am sorry.Feel free to add me if you want. :)
  • ChristyRunStarr
    ChristyRunStarr Posts: 1,600 Member
    Sorry for your lose-you'll find better though. Good luck and welcome! Feel free to add me
  • Cblackburn221
    Cblackburn221 Posts: 22 Member
    You can do it Girl! Feel free to add me! Support is the best!!
  • GemskiB
    GemskiB Posts: 95 Member
    Sorry you feel so rubbish about this - you are doing the right thing though, using this as a reason to make positive changes :) Feel free to add me :)
  • simeson
    simeson Posts: 10 Member
    Hugs to you!!
    You can totally rock this journey!! sending you a friend request :)
  • madamepsychosis
    madamepsychosis Posts: 472 Member
    Good for you Jenny!

    My OH used to nag me like mad and watch every single thing I put in my mouth with the result that when he left I went on a real binge fest for several years...not good I know.
    Now I am doing it for me..so try to change your mindset and do it for YOU!!

    This! It's great that you want to make a change for the better, but try and think of some reasons you want to lose weight outside of making your ex wonder what he was thinking (which I'm sure he will if you keep things up). You have to want to do this for you to be able to fully keep at it!

    Feel free to add me :)
  • VanessaGS
    VanessaGS Posts: 514 Member
    Honestly sometimes a heartbreak is the best motivation. I got to my lowest weight that way cuz I was so angry I worked out like crazy.
  • senyosmom
    senyosmom Posts: 613 Member
    I just recently had my heart torn to pieces. After two years together, he decided he's leaving me to move to California with his parents.

    I'm a single, and very over weight. I feel like crap about myself. I'm trying to use this as a new start in my life. It's time to lose weight so one day he'll find me online and go "Damn! I could have had that!"

    So I'm looking for some "friends" that will help me keep my big booty on track.
    I'm sorry you are feeling so down. Take this oppurtunity to focus on YOU. Once you are happy with yourself the rest will fall in place. Oh, but def use his face as inspiration when taking kick boxing or something :O
  • marlopaterson
    marlopaterson Posts: 53
    Hey! So sorry to hear about your heart break, but it's clearly his loss! MFP is a GREAT place to find friends and the motivation you need to stay on track. It's been brilliant for me. Welcome, feel free to add me, and Good luck!

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  • sheila569
    sheila569 Posts: 269 Member
    Welcome to MFP! Rather than thinking one day he'll see you and say wow, concentrate on that girl in the mirror saying WOW! The best revenge is good living honey. Feel free to add me :flowerforyou:
  • LonghornGirlNC
    LonghornGirlNC Posts: 28 Member
    Awesome that you see this as an opportunity to make a positive change! Good luck! Feel free to add me as a friend.
  • RobynMWilson
    RobynMWilson Posts: 1,540 Member
    Hey girl... I just sent a request. Do this for YOU and feel better about yourself!!
  • Shoshannah68
    Shoshannah68 Posts: 14
    HAHAHAHA I love it
  • Lesley2901
    Lesley2901 Posts: 372 Member
    So sorry to hear you are going through a hard time. Good for you in using this in a positive way. You can do this, good luck :)
  • applepielady
    applepielady Posts: 2
    Sad to hear that you have been hurt. Seems that most of us here aren't strangers to painful relationships. Here is a big virtual ((hug)) and caring thoughts coming your way to start a new day, a new life and a hope that you can begin totally new chapter in the book of your life! I really need support and friends too, feel free to add me, ANY of you and lets turn over a new leaf and look better, feel healthier and increase our COLLECTIVE self esteem!!! I am relatively new to this site. Have had an account for a while but not really using it correctly, really could use ANY and ALL support to start this weight loss train a rollin' on down the track!!!
  • Midnight1210
    Midnight1210 Posts: 134 Member
    I feel your pain, my friend, but don't let it crush you down. What's on the inside matters more than the outside and if he was that shallow, you're better off. I know it's hard, but try not to dwell on what's lost, focus on doing what's best for yourself right now and look towards a bright new future!

    Here you'll find people to help support you on your way to a happier, healthier you!

    Please feel free to add me! I'm always looking for new friends here to help and support as well looking for their support to keep me pushing forward too!
  • 2easy2012
    2easy2012 Posts: 4
    We men can be so dis-connected from our mates that we don't see what we have or will miss one day. Sorry to hear what happened; just take that energy and apply it to you and yours!!!! You find plenty support and good luck in your weight loss journey and in life as well.....I send you a friend requesr...Good day
  • biznoche
    biznoche Posts: 43
    This happened to me many years ago. I know this sounds really weird and sorta psycho (I assure you I'm not), but I would take long walks every day and just run these conversations with him through my head: What I'd say to him if I saw him again. What I could have said differently during arguments (I call them argument do-overs) and just other random things. It helped ease the transition to being single since I was still "talking" to him in my head. I found the whole routine to be very cathartic, and I started to lose a lot of weight from all of the walking, which boosted my self esteem, which shifted my thoughts to more positive ones, which liberated me, etc., etc...And then 6 months later, I wasn't even looking for anyone and I met the man that I ended up marrying! So stay positive and you too could have a happy ending! :flowerforyou: Good luck!

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