Grrrrr - people just don't understand

I hear ya. I eventually had to get nasty with my fat coworkers who wouldn't stop poking fun at my "lifestyle change". I snapped one day and just told them I made my "lifestyle change" because I was tired of being looking like them. Mean, I know. But they stopped. ;D

It's a lifestyle...sorry had to say it again! I'm not going to stop going out to eat!! I love food. When I go out to eat I just make healthy choices!! Chicken something with veggies. Dessert....NO. Or maybe it's a day I burned a ton of calories working out so it's a big hell yes to dessert. Honesty....stay in your calorie range and make the best healthy choices that you can. As long as you're not hitting up McDonald's everyday and eating those donuts that people love to bring to work you'll be fine!

You can go out to eat...just have self control and watch what you eat. Its all in how you act towards your diet, other people should not dictate how you follow the way you eat. it should not stop you from going out to eat at all, just eat smaller portions and eat healthy

You know those quit smoking patch commericals that are on TV now? Where a very tiny band starts playing a motivational song everytime the person choses not to smoke. Just picture your very on tiny band cheering you on when you say no to the doughnut!

I think a lot of cultures revolve around food and company/companionship. I don't think that many people deliberately try to make us fat by offering us stuff we can only eat in moderation, but they do this because it's the status quo/the norm.

Once we moderate our actions/reactions to those around us, we can be successful.

I sit by the kitchenette in the office. Hard enough to smell everyone's breakfast & lunch, but when a coworker decided that he was going to bring in candy for a solid year??!! He did it. Dark chocolates, twizzlers, all kinds of good stuff. If I left my desk it was right in front of me. What a miserable year! Just stick to your guns!!!

On the opposite spectrum, i have lost all the weight and have been on maintenance successfully for a year and did it with moderation. My biggest pet peeve was hearing "oh well we were going to go here, but i guess you can't". or "wow you're eating a cookie? really?"
I haven't given up anything and go out to eat daily since i am a horrible cook with no time and the worst is when people skip offering me a yummy donut (which I eat half of)! Not all days allow a cookie in the budget but i'd rather be offered and make it in the budget if I really want it than be seen as "that skinny girl who doesn't eat anything bad"... thank goodness my office learned real quick that I have the will power to turn their bad things down but BETTER ask me! Lifestyle changes allow for everything in moderation :-) But calorie budget is always in mind... ok do i have the extra 150 calories for that cookie or do I have 75 for half.. or do i have to politely turn down a fatty meal at lunch bc no time for working out or a big dinner planned, but not because i'm on a diet, because that day it just doesn't fit into a healthy lifestyle. (and daily allowance of 1400 calories for maintence)!!
I replied cuz trust me I wouldn't want people shoving that in my face with pressure either so both sides stink!! lol Good luck w/ your loss!! :-)

The other nite I was out of calories for the day (well almost) and we were out with an old friend. He said he had been wanting to buy us dinner for a long time and would we go with him. I didn't want to disappoint him and I know he is lonely so I agreed. We went to a really good italian restaurant, I bypassed all the pasta, ordered a salad with grilled chicken. I sometimes find it more effective to just say I'm eating healthy and that's not good for me or else say it will make my stomach upset, my system cant handle it.

My husband used to be notorious for this wanting to go out to eat or us eat badly, but I finally told him that I can't do it anymore. I won't go out to eat with him unless the restaurant has options for me. He was also bad about always wanting to eat Chinese food when I was pregnant and nauseous. My Dad also sabotages everyone's diets by putting donuts and stuff in the break room at work.

This is why I am the one who does the grocery shopping in our house. Otherwise my husband would buy microwaveable and a ton of package garbage. I can't stand eating all the processed foods and such. As for going out to eat, pick something like a salad or grilled whatever with any sauces on the side and you should be okay. And yes, lifestyle change it is. I even walk by Burger King and it makes me gag from the smell.