Grrrrr - people just don't understand
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I hear ya. I eventually had to get nasty with my fat coworkers who wouldn't stop poking fun at my "lifestyle change". I snapped one day and just told them I made my "lifestyle change" because I was tired of being looking like them. Mean, I know. But they stopped. ;D0
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How selfish of your friends to go on with their lives while you lose weight. And to invite you to join them! The horror!
Get over it. Nobody is going to change for you. If you don't want to eat something then don't. If you don't want to go somewhere then say no. But you should also learn how to enjoy your life instead of obsessing about every meal. You can still have a piece of birthday cake while losing weight.0 -
It's a lifestyle...sorry had to say it again! I'm not going to stop going out to eat!! I love food. When I go out to eat I just make healthy choices!! Chicken something with veggies. Dessert....NO. Or maybe it's a day I burned a ton of calories working out so it's a big hell yes to dessert. Honesty....stay in your calorie range and make the best healthy choices that you can. As long as you're not hitting up McDonald's everyday and eating those donuts that people love to bring to work you'll be fine!0
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I think it is time for a good old fashion talking to. LOL I think it would be good for you to tell your friends, thank you for trying to give me things I used to like, however I am trying to make myself healthier and would appreciate the support. Sometimes if life you have to trim the fat off of relationships that used to work but now are detrimental. I would try the talk first0
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You can go out to eat...just have self control and watch what you eat. Its all in how you act towards your diet, other people should not dictate how you follow the way you eat. it should not stop you from going out to eat at all, just eat smaller portions and eat healthy0
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While sitting at my desk eating a salad, my boss comes over to my cube and says, "You should have come with us today, we were healthy! We went to Chick-Fil-A!" He was serious. Yeah, people don't get it.
Chick Fil A has salads. They also have grilled chicken sandwiches and fruit cups. You don't have to sit at your desk and eat to eat healthy! If that were the case, I could never stick with it long term.0 -
You know those quit smoking patch commericals that are on TV now? Where a very tiny band starts playing a motivational song everytime the person choses not to smoke. Just picture your very on tiny band cheering you on when you say no to the doughnut!0
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OMG I know the feeling. When I go to the field I have to take my own stuff. An MRE can have over 1300cal in one meal.0
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I think a lot of cultures revolve around food and company/companionship. I don't think that many people deliberately try to make us fat by offering us stuff we can only eat in moderation, but they do this because it's the status quo/the norm.
Once we moderate our actions/reactions to those around us, we can be successful.0 -
Once you say no often enough people will stop asking. People use to do that to me all the time when I first started. Now they don't even go there.
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When I first started eating healthier I didn't let people know. When people knew, it felt like they would always make a comment, or a big deal out of something and try and shove food in your face. So... I stopped telling people. Maybe it is all a perception issue... but it helped.0 -
I sit by the kitchenette in the office. Hard enough to smell everyone's breakfast & lunch, but when a coworker decided that he was going to bring in candy for a solid year??!! He did it. Dark chocolates, twizzlers, all kinds of good stuff. If I left my desk it was right in front of me. What a miserable year! Just stick to your guns!!!0
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While sitting at my desk eating a salad, my boss comes over to my cube and says, "You should have come with us today, we were healthy! We went to Chick-Fil-A!" He was serious. Yeah, people don't get it.
Chick-fil-a has salads and a grilled chicken that is roughly 400 cal. Grab both, ditch the top bun, and it can fit into your daily goal.0 -
On the opposite spectrum, i have lost all the weight and have been on maintenance successfully for a year and did it with moderation. My biggest pet peeve was hearing "oh well we were going to go here, but i guess you can't". or "wow you're eating a cookie? really?"
I haven't given up anything and go out to eat daily since i am a horrible cook with no time and the worst is when people skip offering me a yummy donut (which I eat half of)! Not all days allow a cookie in the budget but i'd rather be offered and make it in the budget if I really want it than be seen as "that skinny girl who doesn't eat anything bad"... thank goodness my office learned real quick that I have the will power to turn their bad things down but BETTER ask me! Lifestyle changes allow for everything in moderation :-) But calorie budget is always in mind... ok do i have the extra 150 calories for that cookie or do I have 75 for half.. or do i have to politely turn down a fatty meal at lunch bc no time for working out or a big dinner planned, but not because i'm on a diet, because that day it just doesn't fit into a healthy lifestyle. (and daily allowance of 1400 calories for maintence)!!
I replied cuz trust me I wouldn't want people shoving that in my face with pressure either so both sides stink!! lol Good luck w/ your loss!! :-)0 -
How dare people want to spend time with you!! The nerve of your friends inviting you out to lunch... Guess what - you're the one trying to change your habits, not everyone else. If you want to actually make the necessary changes to reach your goals, you're going to have to learn how to go out with friends every once in a while without acting like people are actively trying to sabotage your life.
^^This....it's a life-style change. Not crawl under a rock and become a hermit. end/0 -
The other nite I was out of calories for the day (well almost) and we were out with an old friend. He said he had been wanting to buy us dinner for a long time and would we go with him. I didn't want to disappoint him and I know he is lonely so I agreed. We went to a really good italian restaurant, I bypassed all the pasta, ordered a salad with grilled chicken. I sometimes find it more effective to just say I'm eating healthy and that's not good for me or else say it will make my stomach upset, my system cant handle it.0
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While sitting at my desk eating a salad, my boss comes over to my cube and says, "You should have come with us today, we were healthy! We went to Chick-Fil-A!" He was serious. Yeah, people don't get it.
If you get a char grilled sandwhich on their wheat bun its really not that bad... its when you go for the large fry and soda / sugary drinks that you ruin your diet. The sodium content is another story, since you will probably show some excess water weight at the end of the day, but thats just temporary
*EDIT* This is also assuming your are not on a ketogenic regimen.0 -
My husband used to be notorious for this wanting to go out to eat or us eat badly, but I finally told him that I can't do it anymore. I won't go out to eat with him unless the restaurant has options for me. He was also bad about always wanting to eat Chinese food when I was pregnant and nauseous. My Dad also sabotages everyone's diets by putting donuts and stuff in the break room at work.0
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Oh my goodness.. Can I have your friends? I love to eat and will go out with them!
Just because you are trying to eat better, does not mean that you stop living life.. Go out, eat, enjoy, exercise, and you'll be ok.0 -
This is why I am the one who does the grocery shopping in our house. Otherwise my husband would buy microwaveable and a ton of package garbage. I can't stand eating all the processed foods and such. As for going out to eat, pick something like a salad or grilled whatever with any sauces on the side and you should be okay. And yes, lifestyle change it is. I even walk by Burger King and it makes me gag from the smell.0
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Exercise a bunch! Makes up for it0
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