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degausser234
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I was just wondering, how would you feel if your bf/gf/spouse/etc. spoke to an ex on a regular bases? Under which circumstances would it bother you or not?
- Jenny
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depending on how close they are and the terms they broke up on, i think i would be a little upset with it. im just glad my boyfriend hates his ex with a passion of a million burning suns ahah.0
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Unfortunately sometimes it's inevitable, especially if they have children together, but also in circumstances like still working together.
There are also relationships that died so long ago all feelings are dead. Would I feel less insecure about an ex from 10 years ago when both have been in several relationships since than an ex from 6 months ago who could still be carrying s flame? Absolutely,
The circumstances it is not acceptable is when it's done behind their partner's back. Are they willing to see their ex with you there? If not, then there is a problem.0 -
If you trust your partner then it shouldn't bother you at all0
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It depends on which EX it is! Hubby and I have been together 16 years and I adore one of his ex's, she's actually our sons god mother :bigsmile: If it was the either of the other 2 I'd probably have a hissy fit. #1 I don't like and # 2 was a crazy stalker even after we got married. As for me, I don;t talk to any of mine...cant be bothered really!0
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Trust IS a big part of getting through this BUT I think it's normal too feel a little jealous (and worried). Like @melinadaniell said, it also depends on which circumstances they broke up upon and how close they are.
It would personally bother me a bit but I would let it be because I trust him. I mean if there were anything else going on (knocking on wood) then the truth would present itself and you would know.
Don't let it get to you so much that it creates more trouble in your relationship. Don't be your own worst enemy.0 -
My ex is one of my best friends. We were best friends when we were together and we always will be. It's been a long time and we're no longer who we were when we were together and that part's just not there anymore. Friendship is all there will ever be and whoever I'm with just has to be okay with that.0
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I was just wondering, how would you feel if your bf/gf/spouse/etc. spoke to an ex on a regular bases? Under which circumstances would it bother you or not?
- Jenny
My SO knows there is one girl that I cannot stand him talking to - it turns me into a raging ***** and has come close to messing up our relationship. The reason it pisses me off so much? The content of his messages to her.
All his other exes I have no problems with0 -
I still talk to my ex on a regular basis and he talked to one of his exes a lot too. But as long as neither of them crossed boundaries, I didn't care.0
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I speak with my ex readily and I'm seeing somherzeone new atm. Whilst I love my ex to pieces and will do anything for her she has made it clear we can only be friends. So, we chat, help and advise each other on things. If the new partner doesn't like, then the new one would be over.0
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I speak with my ex readily and I'm seeing somherzeone new atm. Whilst I love my ex to pieces and will do anything for her she has made it clear we can only be friends. So, we chat, help and advise each other on things. If the new partner doesn't like, then the new one would be over.
that's kinda bogus man. sounds like she is over you but your not over her. drop it like it's hot and don't risk someone new for something that will never be. just my opinion but
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I'm still friends with my ex-bf. We were together for six years. That's kind of like a marriage. It was over halfway through though really... so, it's more like we were good friends than lovers toward the end. He was also someone who helped me in a lot of ways, just learning to deal with life. So he's very special to me because he stood by me as I dealt with some emotional/mental difficulties. My husband understands all this and knows we are nothing more than good friends. He is welcome in our house at any time and comes to visit us on occasion. He even gave us a wedding gift.
As for my husband's ex. That was over years before he and I met. They aren't friends, though I'm sure he wishes her well and doesn't want anything bad for her of course. I think she made it clear to one of his friends a couple years ago that she'd be interested in him again... he made it clear that he would never open that up again.0 -
I speak with my ex readily and I'm seeing somherzeone new atm. Whilst I love my ex to pieces and will do anything for her she has made it clear we can only be friends. So, we chat, help and advise each other on things. If the new partner doesn't like, then the new one would be over.
that's kinda bogus man. sounds like she is over you but your not over her. drop it like it's hot and don't risk someone new for something that will never be. just my opinion 'ut
No, I've had enough of OH's saying what I can and cannot think and people I can meet. If anyone I meet doesn't like it, then they aren't for me.
I make this clear tho, its to the new OH to decide if thats ok with them.0 -
I speak with my ex readily and I'm seeing somherzeone new atm. Whilst I love my ex to pieces and will do anything for her she has made it clear we can only be friends. So, we chat, help and advise each other on things. If the new partner doesn't like, then the new one would be over.
that's kinda bogus man. sounds like she is over you but your not over her. drop it like it's hot and don't risk someone new for something that will never be. just my opinion 'ut
No, I've had enough of OH's saying what I can and cannot think and people I can meet. If anyone I meet doesn't like it, then they aren't for me.
I make this clear tho, its to the new OH to decide if thats ok with them.
I love this gif, btw0 -
My wife is super jealous of any girl who pays attention to me . And as for ex's , they are totally off limits to me even on a friendship basis. In her defense I sometimes have a flirty personality0
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To the OP, there are too many variables for any of us to help you. My husband has kids by his ex. They've gone out to eat together, alone, especially when there's something serious to discuss about the kids. They are friends, I guess.
The question really is for you, OP: How do YOU feel about it? It seems (I could be wrong) like you are unhappy with it, and you are asking us to tell you that you are correct about that. But human relationships are a unique dynamic. If you are unhappy with it, that's not abnormal, and you need to talk to your SO.0 -
I am still friends with all of my ex girlfriends, we chat via facebook. Been with my wife for 20 years... I ain't running off anytime soon.
ex-girlfriends= been there done that, if it was good I would have stuck around, but no reason not to be social. (works both ways)0 -
Totally depends on the situation0
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I am still friends with all of my ex girlfriends, we chat via facebook. Been with my wife for 20 years... I ain't running off anytime soon.
ex-girlfriends= been there done that, if it was good I would have stuck around, but no reason not to be social. (works both ways)
That's how I feel about exes too.. buuuut when messages to said exes involve such things as "I miss our pillow talk" tthen crazy jealous b!tch from hell comes out. :laugh:0 -
i hate it, and they know
they stopped many many years ago, and now it is sort of awkward whenever they are around common friends, but at least they know their boundaries finally0
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