Scared to get back in the dating scene

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  • juscallmeb
    juscallmeb Posts: 369 Member
    Thank you for all the replies. They are exactly what I needed to hear. I guess after trying to make someone else happy for two years, I have forgotten how to make myself happy and live my life for me.

    I used to be a strong, confident woman. And this relationship took a bit of that away from me. I guess by focusing on myself, I can find that again.

    It's just so scary! :frown:

    it seems scary - because it's different. but fear not.
    as you said - you were busy making someone else happy for the past 2 years, you got comfortable doing that, (I was the same way in a past relationship). but with every relationship and breakup - it's an experience and you learn.
    you fnd out what you want and dont want in a relationship.... also keep in mind -don't change who you are for some guy. Be that STRONG CONFIDENT WOMAN! i'm sure in your future you will meet many men who find that in itself attracting! ;)
    be you and love you. :)
  • ohnuts14
    ohnuts14 Posts: 197
    Why would you let yourself go just because you had a boyfriend? I've been married over 10 years and damn if I would let myself go, that makes no sense whatsoever.

    Well, usually people meet someone who loves them for who they are, and not so much for how they look.
  • Ekoria
    Ekoria Posts: 262 Member
    Why would you let yourself go just because you had a boyfriend? I've been married over 10 years and damn if I would let myself go, that makes no sense whatsoever.

    Well, usually people meet someone who loves them for who they are, and not so much for how they look.


    ^This was exactly what I thought :/
  • ChrisRS87
    ChrisRS87 Posts: 781 Member
    Why would you let yourself go just because you had a boyfriend? I've been married over 10 years and damn if I would let myself go, that makes no sense whatsoever.

    Well, usually people meet someone who loves them for who they are, and not so much for how they look.


    ^This was exactly what I thought :/

    I set high standards for myself, I don't think its unfair to hold my partner to those standards. The same character traits I am attracted to are closely related to the ones that drive someone to stay in good shape. A slip in appearance is just the surface of the underlying problem.
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I would give yourself some time. I'm sure guys will take notice of your new single status and start asking you out in a few weeks, but don't rush into anything. In my opinion, it's best to say no and fall in love with yourself again first!
  • CaraColleen
    CaraColleen Posts: 110 Member
    Why would you let yourself go just because you had a boyfriend? I've been married over 10 years and damn if I would let myself go, that makes no sense whatsoever.

    Well, usually people meet someone who loves them for who they are, and not so much for how they look.




    ^This was exactly what I thought :/

    I set high standards for myself, I don't think its unfair to hold my partner to those standards. The same character traits I am attracted to are closely related to the ones that drive someone to stay in good shape. A slip in appearance is just the surface of the underlying problem.

    Yeah, this is totally off topic and was in no reason why I broke up with him. (Yes, I broke up with him because we were in different places in our lives.) But we all are looking for different things, and it's just a personal preference.
  • Ekoria
    Ekoria Posts: 262 Member
    Why would you let yourself go just because you had a boyfriend? I've been married over 10 years and damn if I would let myself go, that makes no sense whatsoever.

    Well, usually people meet someone who loves them for who they are, and not so much for how they look.


    ^This was exactly what I thought :/

    I set high standards for myself, I don't think its unfair to hold my partner to those standards. The same character traits I am attracted to are closely related to the ones that drive someone to stay in good shape. A slip in appearance is just the surface of the underlying problem.

    ^ Woah I am out. My mum taught me "If you don't have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all"

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