How soon is too soon?

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Foxypoo61287
Foxypoo61287 Posts: 638 Member
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to say I love you? I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend, maybe 3 weeks. Last week they were already using the 3 words. I love you. Is there no meaning to that word anymore? I understand that you can care about someone deeply. I LOVE my daughter. I have a boyfriend, I CARE about him a lot. But I don't see myself saying I love you that soon especially first (Never have been the first one) My ex even proposed after being with me for 1 month. I don't think that you know a person well enough to know if you LOVE them that soon. What was the soonest you or your loved one said I love you, and how long did it last after that?
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  • doomspark
    doomspark Posts: 228 Member
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    The first time I saw my wife, I was smitten. 17 years later, we're still together, and I'm still madly in love with her.
  • bennysammysofie
    bennysammysofie Posts: 331
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    so sappy...and stupid for them...but im sure its puppy love so throw out the rules!
    Funny story about me once. I was dating a girl for about a month or so and she invited me to her moms wedding. I went and at one point the person conducting the wedding told everyone to hold the hands of their significant other. So, even though I felt weird about it and feeling even more weird that she was up next to her mom, I went up and held her hand. I then hear the words, "Face the person you love, look them in the eyes, and tell them how much you love them." Well...I told her, "I like you alot"....I was so embarassed!
  • Lone_Wolf70
    Lone_Wolf70 Posts: 2,820 Member
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    depends on whether carnal pleasures have taken place. but I always say use the words within 7 years of meeting a woman.
  • RealWomenLovePitbulls
    RealWomenLovePitbulls Posts: 729 Member
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    I do think that people throw the word around way too often and way too fast.
    on the other side of that, sometimes you just know it's right.
    I met my husband when I was 17, I had "dated" a few guys but nothing serious cuz it just wasn't there.
    Then I met Jeff, when he first asked me to go out with him, I was kinda like " i dunno" I told my mom "there's this guy at works, he wants to go out, he's okay, but he kind of gets on my nerves" she said "you'll marry him"
    a couple weeks later, I was head over heels. the love word came out, but it just felt so natural, it actually sorta slipped out.
    he did try to propose a few months later, and i told him it was too soon, we didnt even really know each other and were too young to think about marriage yet anyway.
    (shoulda took him up on it, cuz it took us 4 more years to get engaged, even though we were living together and we did plan to get married eventually, just hadnt made it official)
    2 and 1/2 more years later (7.5 years after we started dating) we tied the knot!
    We have been married a little over a year now, and i'm still head over heels!!!
    point is, sometimes you just know, and other times it's just the initial infatuation
  • Pedal_Pusher
    Pedal_Pusher Posts: 1,166 Member
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    Why would you care?
  • Jules2Be
    Jules2Be Posts: 2,267 Member
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    Why would you care?

    :flowerforyou:
  • LeenaRuns
    LeenaRuns Posts: 1,309 Member
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    When you know, you know. I'm in love with someone on MFP and he knows it :blushing:
  • cordianet
    cordianet Posts: 534 Member
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    Did you love your daughter the moment you laid eyes on her or did it take 6 months?
  • mandydanyele
    mandydanyele Posts: 121
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    Why would you care?

    This :/
  • 2143661
    2143661 Posts: 566 Member
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    When you know, you know. I'm in love with someone on MFP and he knows it :blushing:

    exactly!
  • Allie_71
    Allie_71 Posts: 1,063 Member
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    Why would you care?

    Exactly. It's pretty subjective. Some people can feel it right away, and feel comfortable saying it, or some need to wait. It's a profound feeling and emotion that is so different for everyone...
  • Ohmydaze
    Ohmydaze Posts: 403 Member
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    3 days. I was 14, and I dumped him then, because he scared me a little. He cried.

    Current BF.. well we SAID it after about 4 months.. but looking back, I don't think I knew what love really was. I cared about him a lot, but I think love is word that is tossed around far too casually. He's my first love :smooched:
  • apedeb09
    apedeb09 Posts: 805 Member
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    I said I love you to my husband 2 weeks after I started dating him when I was 14 in Highschool... that was 9 years ago. We're still together.
  • yankeesforever
    yankeesforever Posts: 14
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    If you really love someone, it is never too soon (or too late) to tell them. When it comes to love, the greatest gift of all, there is never a wrong time for the truth.
  • Tors1984
    Tors1984 Posts: 25
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    My husband and I said we loved each other within about 2 weeks. Today we have been together 6.5 years and we've been married 2 years next Wednesday!
  • Sharyn913
    Sharyn913 Posts: 777 Member
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    Who can know EXACTLY what love is? How often are people together for years, and after they break up and find someone new, they will claim they didn't know what love was until meeting the new person? Love is a feeling that comes and goes and it's hard to pin point exactly how it is felt.
  • WowingOverWhinging
    WowingOverWhinging Posts: 59
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    Why would you care?

    Did you consider that she's talking about her friend and may be concerned about her? It's not a crime to be curious about something.

    I have a friend who practically did the same thing. She's dating this guy and within the space of a month and a half she'd gotten her first boyfriend, lost her virginity, said I love you, had a pregnancy scare AND moved in with him - key and everything. Now, in that case, that's too fast. I don't see how people can say I love you that fast, especially when they have no other relationships to compare it against. Most are just in love with the idea of love. Depending on the situation for your friend, I guess it's up to her really as long as she's happy and tactful.
  • sho3girl
    sho3girl Posts: 10,799 Member
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    The first time I saw my wife, I was smitten. 17 years later, we're still together, and I'm still madly in love with her.
    ^^^ this SO needs a massive LIKE button
  • amandajam2012
    amandajam2012 Posts: 82
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    I said "I love you" to my current bf after only three weeks of dating. Actually it slipped out. I called him a dork or something and he goes "why did you call me a dork" and my response was "you're a dirk because I love you". I immediately started blushing and I covered my mouth. He gave me a hard time and was like "awe you
    Love me I knew you'd say it first" I was embarrassed bc I didn't mean to say it but as I thought about it I knew I meant it. The next night we were watching tv and he leaned over and whispered I love you too in my ear. I was afraid i was imagining things so u didn't say anything back. And finally the next night laying in bed I said I love u to him and he said it back. We are one if those couples that have pretty much been inseparable since our first date. Most people think we have moved way to fast. But I mean who is to but a time scale on these things. Only we know what's in our hearts and our heads.
  • Krissy366
    Krissy366 Posts: 458 Member
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    If you really love someone, it is never too soon (or too late) to tell them.

    This. And the reality is there are many degrees of love. I have never loved two people in exactly the same way or for exactly the same reasons. Does the fact that my love isn't always the same mean that the love didn't count before? Love is complex, and sometimes it does happen VERY quickly, sometimes it grows slowly. Sometimes is last forever and sometimes it fades, but that doesn't mean it isn't real.

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