Best Man Problems?

How soon is the wedding? If there's still enough time for him to find another best man just tell him what you said here. If the wedding is next week suck it up and go...

Depends how much you considered him a friend. Might as well plan a bachelor party for him to remember, since he's going to have even less time for friends after getting married.

If you consider him "former" then do as YOU feel. But UNDERSTAND this, YOU and everyone else WILL be secondary in his Life. And well it should be, a MAN'S Family should take priority! You are jealous dude, get over it!

meet up with him first and see how things go, you may have to tell him you can't. But this happened with a friend we had been friends since we were 10 and a couple of years ago there was a 4 year period with no contact from her. well we met up and its like we picked up where we left off. tell him how you feel over a couple of beers before you cancel out on his wedding.

Well, I'm a wedding minister, and have had to deal with many issues that might disappoint a bride/groom. The main thing is to not put off telling them. Be honest, call your friend and just tell him that you feel that he might be better asking a relative or somebody to be his best man because you just don't feel that connected to him any more. Try to not make it sound like you are mad about the relationship falling apart, just let it go and move on. Just be sure to do it as soon as possible, otherwise you will probably have to man up and do the wedding.

This might sound cheesy but here's the thing. Friends need to hangout, best friends can go and meet 10 years later and still feel like they hungout yesterday. I have lived all over the world and obviously have had many close friends scattered over the world, I haven't spoken to many of then over many years but I know that anytime I do talk to them, its like the same.

I have been a best man at 2 wedding. I haven't talked to either of them after their wedding much since they're both in west coast and I'm in MI. Its just a passage of time, they want to spend more time with their new family but I know that after a few months of wedding all that lovey dovey thing calmed down to normal and now they can't wait to get out with their friends on the weekends.

If you wanna hangout that badly, and miss the "bro time" you guys used to have, just tell him straight up. Tell him that you miss the time you 2 used to spend together without the lady and you feel like she's become almost literally balls and chain and that you'd love to hangout together and "bro it up"

You don't. You say you don't see him since he met the girl, then why did you agree to stand up for him at his wedding? Sounds like you're the one not being a good friend here. Sorry.

This might sound cheesy but here's the thing. Friends need to hangout, best friends can go and meet 10 years later and still feel like they hungout yesterday. I have lived all over the world and obviously have had many close friends scattered over the world, I haven't spoken to many of then over many years but I know that anytime I do talk to them, its like the same.

I have been a best man at 2 wedding. I haven't talked to either of them after their wedding much since they're both in west coast and I'm in MI. Its just a passage of time, they want to spend more time with their new family but I know that after a few months of wedding all that lovey dovey thing calmed down to normal and now they can't wait to get out with their friends on the weekends.

If you wanna hangout that badly, and miss the "bro time" you guys used to have, just tell him straight up. Tell him that you miss the time you 2 used to spend together without the lady and you feel like she's become almost literally balls and chain and that you'd love to hangout together and "bro it up"

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Listen to this!!

He just caught up in his girl....you can't take it personal. She is by order his new best friend for life they are on a journey to become 1!!! Be happy for him and trust he will come back around. The role change a bit but you are still an important fixture in his life.

You gotta do it. Man code.

Also, tell him to nut up and hang out more often. His lady probably isn't into what you guys like, so that's an issue of doing something else.

Sometimes we are afforded the opportunity to do something for someone else who maybe hasn't treated like we would have hoped. I agree that the fact that he asked you shows he still considers you a good friend. Perhaps this is a moment in which you set aside what you want, and extend him grace, and be there for him. The fact that he has found love is a reason to celebrate, not end a relationship that sounds like it was a great one. I hope you can find a way to help him celebrate his day and love.

Tell him exactly what you just told us.

^^That.

I've told him numerous times that we never hang out anymore and feel we're growing apart, and he always gives some excuse or some reason... like, I'm almost done with school, we'll hangout when i graduate... which hasn't happened yet, or We just moved, I gotta get settled in, still nothing... Every time I'd ask him to do something he says he'd rather do something with her... I finally gave up and told him to contact me if he ever wants to do anything... And he still hasn't.... He never even texts me to see how I'm doing

Edit: Also, He asked me to do this a long time ago when we still hung out a lot and talked to each other... but I think we've grown so far apart since then...

how far away is the wedding?
how long have you known him?
Is he a military bud? (if yes, no backing out!)

I have lost about 4 friends due to relationships. These people suck, imo.

In any kind of relationship that you have communication is key. He is clearly feeling differently about the friendship than you do, he asked you as his best friend to be the best man in his wedding. Before you decide to end a friendship, not be the best man, you need to talk to him and tell him exactly whats bothering you about the friendship. I'm guessing that you have been friends for quite sometime now. Tell him he needs to make time to talk before the wedding as its concerning the wedding, that will get his attention. I can tell you from having been in a commited relationship just as if we were married. When things are new in a relationship like this all you want to do is spend time with the love of your life. I know that's what happened in my case. I wanted to spend as much time with my partner as I could and placed my friends on the back burner. I honestly didn't realize that I was doing that to my friends. Then after the "honeymoon" period was over I started to reconnect with my friends and they point out that they had been placed on the back burner. However I'm glad that I reconnected with my friends and they didn't brush me aside because tradgedy struck and he (my partner) was killed in a car accident. My friends were my rock during that time. Here is what I have found to be true, romantic relatioships can come and go (seems to be the trend these days) but solid friendship are forever. Friends to me are like family, though we may not talk everyday or hangout every week I know that the love is there and if I need them they're a phone call away and vice versa. When I get together with my friends that I haven't seen in sometime we always seem to pick up right where we left off. Keep that in mind because if they have kids your time with him will become even less.