How to deal with unsupportive friends??

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  • KrazyAsianNic
    KrazyAsianNic Posts: 1,227 Member
    I found the only way for a person to truly lose weight is because they want to. When she is ready, she'll start losing weight. Maybe try talking to her and explaining you guys can do it together. If she turns you down, then give her space until she's ready. Don't let her sabatosh your hard work though.
  • tigerlinly
    tigerlinly Posts: 219 Member
    i agree with most everyone here if she was truly wanting to lose it if u keep it up and maybe try not to mention around her if possible but actually let her see the prgresse maybe she will get off her lazy butte and do something about it i was that way i would sabatoge my own self but i finnally got it and now family is actually trying to help me
  • RainHoward
    RainHoward Posts: 1,599 Member
    I don't have any friends, so it's not an issue.
    There is no such thing as an unsupportive friend. Assuming it is a positive change you are making in your life. Now, if it's jumping off a cliff or snoring a line of coke you wouldn't want your friend being supportive. Losing weight is hard enough without some *kitten* fake friend giving you grief for every pound you drop.
  • PalmSpringsCal
    PalmSpringsCal Posts: 7
    Im pretty much in agreement with all the responses.
    From how you described her shes not really a FRIEND. Shes a superficial friend. As long as things go to her approval then shes fine. Its the testy areas that show the real friend or person... generally
    I think you know the rest.

    Why would you even entertain the thought of not wanting to lose someone that treated you like youve described?
    She must have some other amazing qualities that over shadow that behavior.

    Some people just dont want to hear what they dont want to hear. Different views on Religion,politics ,weight and so on.


    if youve gotta keep this friend,
    Dont ever mention anything around her thats remotely related to weight,calories etc

    Dont you eat dinner together and you order a salad and she orders a side of beef.

    Shell notice everything you do thats related directly or indirectly to "weight loss" and shes going to fester and pop..
  • katielauren2001
    katielauren2001 Posts: 171 Member
    Not a true friend. A true friend would be happy that you have lost weight. She obviously uses food as a crutch for emotional issues and is unable to let go of it. Speak to her and tell her how upset you are by her comments.If she wants to lose weight have a word with her, tell her that YES it is possible for her to lose weight if she stops eating food that is not good for her body.
  • avir8
    avir8 Posts: 671 Member
    Just cuz you work together does not make you friends. Yes she's jealous, so keep rubbing it in her face that your getting healthy and loosing weight. Use it as motivation to keep trying harder and working to reach your goals
  • kytte
    kytte Posts: 323 Member
    Haters gonna hate... She's jealous because you're making progress and she's still in denial. I say just ignore them and focus on those that are supportive in your life.

    this
  • sassyusername
    sassyusername Posts: 32 Member
    She sounds really petty and insecure. She must be a really sad person. I feel feel bad for her and I hope you just pity her and move on without getting angry at her and letting her spite get you down. You've put in a lot of hard work to lose 25lbs so congrats. And your picture is absolutely adorable!
  • NoahandPresleysMom
    NoahandPresleysMom Posts: 763 Member
    I recOmend you keep talking about it and telling people of your accOmplishments!! I don't care if people are tired of hearing it or give me crap about it. If they aren't proud of you they aren't friends. I hope people are jealous. I've worked really hard to lose the weight I have.

    I Like this :):)

    Yeah my husband keeps tellling me if she can't be happy for me and use me as inspiration(I had two miscarriages and a SUPER hard time having my two children) then she isn't important enough to have as a friend. I need support, not that kind of crap

    @ sassyusername- AWWW Thank You!!! :bigsmile:
  • Akijade
    Akijade Posts: 210 Member
    Let the haters be your motivators. :D
  • Louiyen
    Louiyen Posts: 69
    Let the haters be your motivators. :D

    exactly! I love all the discouraging comments from people around me. I get it daily and all the time from friends and family. but it doesn't bug one bit. Use that as motivation and prove them wrong!
  • tennisbabe94
    tennisbabe94 Posts: 444 Member
    Kick her in the face!
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    Isn't that like an oxymoron? Unsupportive Friends.

    If she is not a positive force in your life, she is not a friend. Simple as that!

    HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO:huh: ^ THIS exactly this....no other way around it. get some real friends:flowerforyou:
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    Kick her in the face!

    well to be honest ^this would have been my first reaction:smokin: thank God im an improving christian
  • Freyja2023
    Freyja2023 Posts: 158 Member
    I agree with everyone on this board that is saying that she isn't a good friend. I have lost a fair few on my weight loss path, but found new friends. The good lord gave you slopped shoulders for a reason so that others people *kitten* can slid on down. I have gotten in the habit of telling myself and people like that I learnt the hard way that b*tching about my weight didn't burn enough calories to make a difference so just get off your rump and do something about it
  • eviegreen
    eviegreen Posts: 123 Member
    Wow. I'm really not seeing any empathy at ALL for the OP's friend's situation. Was it rude of her to respond negatively to the OP's weight loss? Of course. But let's not forget that she's no doubt going through the emotional issues that come with wanting to conceive, being physically unable to, and being confronted with the long journey of weight loss on top of that. This is the kind of wake up call that makes people who are emotionally attached to food completely come apart, and it makes people lash out at others, even their friends. Can we show a little bit of sensitivity, please? Jeez.
  • Jeremy_
    Jeremy_ Posts: 36 Member
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  • Jeremy_
    Jeremy_ Posts: 36 Member
    Isn't that like an oxymoron? Unsupportive Friends.

    If she is not a positive force in your life, she is not a friend. Simple as that!

    Well said.

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