Does anyone else have an unsupportive spouse?

I've had this same frustration. My guy still wants to have his pizza/wing nights, oreos, ben and jerrys. It's hard for me not to want to snack when the temptation is there. He is trying to only do that once in a while, and when I can splash out a bit with my calories too. As for the dinner, he's had to adjust, he gets what I get, but more of it and slightly modified. It's got to be hard with kids, everyone wanting their own meal. We both work late a lot of nights, or get home from the gym at 8 or so. I've been making turkey meatballs or seasoned chicken breasts ahead of time. That way I have a couple of days of dinners that just need to be thrown in the pan or microwave. If your husband isn't a planner, have him fend for himself some nights. I leave some frozen dinners that my husband picked out so he can "rough it". You sound like you are managing pretty well with all this. Keep up the good work!

Yup, last time we went out to eat I was good and got grilled chicken on whole wheat with veggies. He got a double cheeseburger with a side of fries. Then he put half of his fries on my plate because "I need some treats". Rawr

I'm going thru the same and it is so hard not to have that support from the ppl who cares the most about you smh

yeah i feel like that too - my husband and I previously followed a diet plan together before or wedding - now that the wedding has passed we have both gained weight back - ive been trying since january to lose weight but his heart isn't in it - he orders take aways and texts me about dominos offers all the time = im hoping he will get back on track now - its very frustrating

My girlfriend is very supportive and we have lost 54 pounds together since the new year started...HOWEVER our problem is that we let my retired mother move in with us and she cooks fried foods, butter ridden recipes and constantly eats out fast food. Lucky for us we have learned to enjoy baked foods, and low calories dishes but sometimes we feel pressured to eat the very bad food she cooks. It is hard at times to stay on track but since we have seen results it makes it a lil easier to avoid my mother's choices....we just sometimes worry that she is trying to sabotage us or just torture us with GREAT SMELLING Chinese food lol. So I know your pain.

I was the unsupportive (now ex) spouse in our marriage but at that point the abuse from him made me want to hurt him in other ways to get even with the humiliation and crap I was going through.

I didn't and still don't cook or bake worth nothing so when I was pregnant and breastfeeding both our boys, I insisted that he make me 2 meals a day when he was unemployed (which he was frequently since he was a drunk *kitten*). He kept complaining that he didn't want to because he was getting fat and only wanted to make 1 meal a day but I was on bedrest most of my pregnancies and afterwards because I couldn't gain enough weight. I started off under 100lbs and only gained 17lbs with my first and dropped the weight then gained 22lbs with the second child who were both late and 7 1/2 perfect pounds.

I of course didn't MAKE him eat those 3 giant helpings of potato chip battered chicken legs or open faced beef sandwiches smothered in cheese or alfrado etc... He could have stopped at one. I know I did most times.

At the store I would time and time again tell him to buy something else because it was healthier and he would snap at me accusing me of calling him fat. So it was a mess. I am glad I am now away from him and his abuse but he is still unfortionately in the boys lives causing other issues. But I started eating more junk food since I left him since I don't cook well at all, instead of meals and I'm not so stressed and my stomach isn't aways aching from the anxiety of living with him. So I've gained 20+lbs that I want to get rid of.

I'm not trying to justify my actions just pointing out that not everyone is perfect. Maybe ask your spouse to keep some junk food at a parents, or friends house and eat it there away from you. If he doesn't eat what you make that is suitable for your diet and the way you want you and the kids to eat then they can starve. They will learn eventually that they have to eat what they get. My kids are 3 and 6 and they are picky as heck with food allergies and everything so its hard to cook for all of us since I LOVE cheese and they cannot have any.

But anyways communicate with him and if he doesn't respect your wishes then you either need to be ok with it/get over it or it could reck your marriage.

Good luck!

I eat LCHF, Low Carb High Fat. Just after a couple of days I had no problem resisting candy, soda and junk food. I think it has to do with the fact that my blood sugar is on a even level so I have no cravings. I eat good, I'm not starving and I'm loosing weight.

I cook my kind of food and for the rest of the family I add rice, pasta or potatos.

My family is very supportive even if they eat junkfood...

Also if everyone is STARVING before dinner and crabby and wanting to eat NOW; 30 mins before set out a plate of celery, carrot sticks, green beans, sugar snap peas (my kids fav), radishes, green pepper sticks (also my kids fav) etc... There are some really cute ways to cut them to look like logs, and bugs and butterflies and monsters and such. It will fill them up with good stuff and slow the digestion of the bad stuff when they finally get to the fries and pizza and stuff. Don't reward with food, reward with a walk to the park or to the zoo or a picnic. (Not sure how old your kids are) but just getting to ride his bike is my oldests favorite since he just learned how late last fall!

Good luck!

My spouse is generally supportive....if I stay on track and am the leader but we are each others scapegoat if we fall "off the wagon", meaning....if I am being healthy he will be healthy with me but if I get of track we give each other excuses, etc. he will not be the one too keep us on track of get us back in track, if that makes sense.

My opinion is this: you want to be healthy, you want your family to be healthy. So, I would make one healthy meal for everyone. Period. The kids are offered that meal and your hubby too. If your hubby doesn't want it, he needs to fend for himself. He is a grown man. He also needs to realize that he is setting an example for his kids. He need to show them how to be a supportive spouse, how to make healthy choices, etc. and, regardless of wha his weight is like.....if he eats crap and doesn't exercise, his HEALTH will not be good. Skinny people have heart attacks and high blood pressure and cholesterol problems and all sorts of issues, too, if they are unhealthy.

I think you should sit down with him at a calm time, with no distractions and explain to him that its not just about you losing weight, it's about your whole family being healthy and that from now on, when you cook, you will make one meal for everyone and he can choose to not eat it but he needs to think about what message that sends to the kids about health and about respecting and supporting your spouse. It's not to say you can't have treats now and then, or go out sometimes or whatever . It's about balance.

You know my husband drives me nuts on this point. If I make healthy meals and don't have snacks in the house then I am trying to starve him to death. When I make high calorie stuff and have snacks in the house then I am making him fat. I finally just threw my hands up and decided to do what I wanted (within reason, lol).

We made a agreement that I will not cook with eggplant or make chicken more than 3 times a week, and limited soups. And he agreed to only bring snacks I don't like into the house

My husband is a skinny turd who has never and will never have weight issues. I can't tell you how many times I have looked to him for support and motivation to be handed something off diet, because he "feels bad" and can't see me "starve". I just had to come to the conclusion that he is going to supportive and caring in his own way and I have to do, what I have to do. He wants the best for me, but doesn't know how to help because he has never been in the same situation. I totally understand what you mean about dinners though... it's a hassle, but making meals ahead of time really helps.

Husband came home today with large meat pizza, chicken strips, garlic bread and to top it off Cookie dough and Icecream!

He still eats cookies and sweets, chocolate, Mcdonalds the lot!

Its soooo hard not to snack with him but he keeps saying if i can resist now then i wont go back to eating that way once i hit my goal weight. I do see where he is coming from but its killing me!

We rarely eat together anymore because I can't handle going out to eat all the time. And when I do cook at home my kids eat and he might have a little, but he wants to go out and get dessert afterward. Then he ends up devouring all sorts of food later. That is teaching all the wrong things and upsets me.

my wife does not know how to be supportive
also i am not allowed to have a bad day
if i do then it is about her