Females...are you the MAN in your relationship?

Honestly, he sounds pretty obsessive, controlling and has a LOT of double standards, as well as probably underlying emotional issues. You've given it plenty of shots, on and off, for 2 years. I'd say it's time to move on while you're still young!

Edit: Also, have you told HIM any of this? Copy and pasting this to him would be a good start if not. And even if you have, draw the lines in the relationship! You are your own boss. If you wanted to give him flowers or write him letters or do anything for him it should be because you wanted to, not because you got asked, because then it's just an empty gesture, as well as a waste of time, money and effort.

my last boyfriend and i broke up about a month and a half ago after dating for 18 months. I had the same problem!!! I was defintiely the man in the relationship. Get out of it and find someone better!

He has issues - insecurity, jealousy - that are a form of abuse towards you. He needs therapy.
You have issues - a need to go back again and again to someone who will control you and abuse you - this is victimization. You need therapy.

Neither one of you can be with anyone until you get yourselves straightened out. So separate. Find some therapists. Stay single for two years and enjoy your life with friends and family. Once you have your issues straightened out you will see each other in a totally different light and be able to accurately assess whether or not you should be together.

Who knows, when you are both mentally and emotionally healthy - you may look at each other and decide a relationship is not in the cards.

I used to be like you. While I'm still less emotional than my hubby, we have a healthy happy relationship where we balance each other out. For the first time in my life I understand what it means to be truly happy with someone else and they don't have to be perfect. Find that!

Heh. I thought this post was going to go somewhere else. I was about to throw my hand in the air and say "YES!" because I am the one who asked for a ratchet set for Christmas, I know where all of the tools are, the words "keyless chuck" are music to my ears, I'm the resident drywall repair expert, and am the one to replace things (toilets, faucets, light fixtures) when they break. I'm also the resident carpenter and self-taught auto mechanic. I leave the cooking to him whenever I can, because I'm also out being the breadwinner while he works on going to school for his career. Clearly, that's the wrong answer for this post.

I agree with the others who've said your man needs help. If his moods are so scattered, he might need medication too. I can't diagnose and say that he needs something long term or something to just to take enough of the edge off so that he can heal. He has to be willing to get help to determine if meds might help. There's a line between someone who's emotionally manipulative and someone who seriously needs help.

You obviously know this man better than anyone here and you're the only one who can tell how much more you want to invest in him to see where that line is. If you see yourself married to this man in five years, then work on it and do whatever it takes to get him the help he needs. If that's not where you see it going, then maybe reconsider the relationship. You can't "fix" him. You can only be supportive of him making good decisions. If you can get him to go to a couples session, assuming you want to keep the relationship, great. Sometimes, it takes hearing something from a a neutral party before that something makes sense or is actually heard..

Any healthy relationship is going to take effort on both sides. You have to want to support him in his healing and he has to want to get help. If either party isn't invested, then it's either going to become co-dependent where the unhealthy behavior is enabled or you're going to start to resent his shenanigans and things will start to circle the drain.

Definitely not

I know where you are coming from. Maybe im numb from bad relationships in the past or something but my bf is sooooo emotional too. If he doesnt get enough attention he pouts. If I dont great him when he walks in the door he pouts. Says I dont show my love enough. Makes you want to scream doesnt it?

I know this sounds harsh, but leave him. It won't get better. All I have done is date guys EXACTLY like this. I am "heartless" "cold" whatever.... I was always being accused of cheating if I didn't pick up the phone on the first ring. I am talking major issues. It doesn't get better as much as they promise to "work on it". Just run! You'll feel bad the first week but then you will feel this amazing weight being let off your shoulders and you can move on. After 3 yrs with that guy i broke it off, felt wonderful, worked on my business and then out of nowhere i found the love of my life... who is respectful, treats me like a princess, brings ME flowers, and is not an emotional basket case. I don't need to constantly resure him of my love for him and I finally get to be the girl in the relationship. If you want to talk more or need some more advise, you can message me in a private message. I've been through this for many years and it seems like more and more men are being the women in the relationships and the women have to emotionally support them and also pay for everything, its plain insanity. Good luck and I am here for you if you need someone to talk to.

Me and my man share the role of being a man,
we pass it back and forth to each other.

He sounds like a pu**y.

A good relationship should make you happy and feel good about yourself. This isn't what you seem to have and I do not know if it will get better. You are young with so many possibilities for your furture. Ask yourself if this is how you want to feel and be treated for the rest of your life. It may be difficult now to end it but how much more difficult will it be if this continues and you end up in a verbally/emotionally abusive, controlling marriage?