14 yr old daughter vegetarian, wants to go vegan
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I do not support this. I find it a decision of de-evolution but this is my opinion.
Should she decide to go through with it PLEASE be aware that nutritional needs are not easily accomplished for a 14 year old girl ( or anyone for that matter) on a vegan diet. Most plant proteins are incomplete and must be complimented with another source to gain the entire amino acid profile. Also: be aware that carbohydrates from many fibrous vegetables are metabolically inert in humans and we derive no nutritional benefit from them as we lack the enzyme cellulase.
She didn't ask for you opinion, she asked for advice on veganism.0 -
She's a child. It's a phase. She'll see what a lot of hard work this is and won't last. Just make sure she is getting adequate nutrition, and is not undereating and you'll have done your part as a parent.0
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Hello!
I'm glad you're such a supportive mother!
Personally I take a daily multivitamin just to cover all my bases. The main nutrients that she -may- be lacking will be b12 and calcium. There is also something called "nutritional yeast" you can find in a baking area in most stores, this is a protein/b12 powder, it tastes a bit nutty and cheesey so many vegans use it on food.
I suggest going out with your daughter and getting a "vegan for dummies" type book, it will give you lots of info about veganism and lists of what nutrients are in which foods. And also a couple of vegan cook books to cook together.0 -
Watch Forks over Knives. Real eye opener.0
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I do not support this.
Well ****, let's call the whole thing off then...
Love it. :laugh: Thanks for the laugh!0 -
I was a vegetarian for 13 years and moved to a vegan lifestyle last summer. Since your daughter is still growing, I would consider speaking with a dietician to ensure she gets the right nutrients. Daily vegan multivitamins and B12 supplements are probably a good start, along with a healthy diet.0
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I went vegetarian then vegan when I was 15.
I was a member of PETA, so that's what sparked it.
It's tricky to master, but if she's 100% on board and making healthy choices, all the power to her!
You may want to schedule an appointment with her doctor to arrange for blood work to check to see if she has any deficiencies, first. If everything is A-OK, make an appointment with a registered dietician to go over what nutrients she'll need. She'll most likely be asked to start a food journal so that the dietician can monitor everything.
B12 and iron could be major vitamins that she's lacking. I've gone back to a pollo-pescatarian lifestyle, and still deficient in those nutrients 5 years later.0 -
hopefully she likes tofu cause a lot of her diet will be that.
Not necessarily true - most of my meals are vegan and I eat tofu once or twice a week, max.
Yeah there are soy-free vegans who eat no tofu. I love tofu but I rarely eat it for some reason. I've been meaning to make some baked tofu. I eat it a couple times per month, maybe but I may go for months not eating any tofu.0 -
I'm currently working on certifying to become a registered dietitian and I can tell you some of the main nutrients you need to most likely supplement to make sure she is getting the proper amount.
-Vitamin B12 (because it comes from animal products)
-Calcium and Vitamin D (young girls have a hard time getting enough calcium when they are eating dairy, so if she is not eating dairy it will make it even more difficult. Vitamin D is in dairy products as well)
-Zinc (because the best sources are animal products)
-Iron (the type of iron your body can digest and use most easily is found in meats so if she is only getting plant sources it may be difficult to get enough because once again this is a mineral women have a hard time getting enough of when they are eating meat)
-Protein (meat, eggs, and dairy all have lots of high quality protein)
I would recommend finding a good multivitamin for her, encourage her to eat a variety of foods, and make sure she is eating soy products, beans/lentils to make sure she is getting enough protein for a growing body. I have also noticed that when young girls become vegan or vegetarian more often they eat lots of carbohydrates (pasta, bread, cereal) and not as many fruits, vegetables and beans. The benefit to the high carbohydrate foods, however, is that in the united states they are fortified and have added vitamins and minerals, but she still needs to be eating those other foods.
If you are able I would recommend having both of you talk with a dietitian or some other certified nutrition professional who can teach you both how to meet her nutrient needs. It is possible for her to eat a balanced diet and be perfectly healthy on a vegan diet, but it does take knowledge and plan, especially because she is still young and growing. Eatright.org can help you find a nutrition professional in your area who can sit down with you and make an individual nutrition plan that will meet her needs.
If she is not able or willing to learn what she needs to do to meet her nutrient needs on a vegan diet I would not recommend it. It can put her at risk for osteoporosis, anemia, poor growth and other nutrient deficiencies. Done correctly she will be fine, and actually it will probably help her avoid heart disease in the future.0 -
Alright, this might be extreme implying her daughter has an ED because she wants to be a vegan. Geez, I eat more as a mostly vegan ("vegan pescatarian" fish, and incredibly limited dairy/eggs/etc) than I ever did as a meat eater. I mean, it might be something to keep your eye out for, if you have suspicions, but I would say the odds are that this is a choice she's making for ethical reasons. Or perhaps even just to be counter-culture, and it'll be a short lived phase. Either way encourage it as long as it's not an ED.
B12 is your main problem as a vegan as it only comes from animals (I eat fish 1-2 a week), so I don't have this issue, but there are supplements that can provide this. She should get all her iron if she's eating dark greens, but it probably wouldn't hurt to take a vitamin with iron in it. I myself take a daily multi with 100% iron versus one with no iron just because of my low animal-product diet, but the dark greens have all the iron you need.
The protein myth is ridiculous. You can google this on your own, but it's 100% possible to get enough protein without animal products or even soy. Here's a link to 7 sources of plant protein: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4491/My-Top-7-Sources-of-PlantBased-Protein.html
ALSO, PEOPLE. WHEY IS NOT VEGAN, STOP SUGGESTING IT. Do not give your vegan daughter whey. Whey is an animal by product, and it's in A LOT of products (including doritos /sigh). Whey is a milk by product from after the curdling process. Casein is also NOT vegan - also a milk product! (For the record many "dairy free" cheeses contain Casein including Galaxy). Get used to reading food labels, or teach her to do it herself.
I would recommend going to a nutritionist because of her age. Obviously her health is the most important thing. But go to one who is accepting and understands the needs of a vegan diet.
And if she's being ostracized and wants to stop - she will. She's a teenager guys. That's what teenagers do. Teenagers explore new things and she could be experimenting with things much worse than veganism. Also personally, I can still go out to eat easily. At any sit down restaurant they will make something for me (even if it's just a huge salad with salsa for dressing and a side of steamed broccoli!)
Obviously this is a tender topic for me, but I'm personally SICK of the amount of s*** I get for choosing to eat the way I do. I don't sit there and smack chicken wings away from omnis, so their opinions aren't always welcome. In my experience former veggies/vegans with issues did not eat a balanced diet. (No guys, you can not live on bread your body will stop working). On the other hand I know children that have been vegans since toddler age, and they're doing great!
Good on you for being a parent willing to accept your daughter's diet, AND for wanting to make sure that it's healthy.
This.
There is nothing wrong with a vegan diet that is healthy and balanced.
ANY diet, vegan, vegetarian, or omni, can be a bad diet. Meat eaters don't automatically eat better than non meat eaters. I say this as a meat eater, who has been a veggie and also done dairy free. If her diet is based around fresh fruit and veg, with some protein from legumes and tofu, she could get calcium from calcium enriched almond milk, coconut milk or soy milkk. Quinoa is also a grain that contains some protein.
Get educated with your daughter, as some have said, and keep an eye on her that she is eating balanced meals, and enough calories for her growth needs. That way you are ensuring that it really is animal welfare that she wants to be vegan and not weight control or calorie restriction purposes, but as a youth worker, I was annoyed by the immediate assumption made by some that it was an eating disorder - not all teenage girls are teetering on the edge of anorexia, and they are capable of making choices based on ethical convictions, not just wanting to look like Victoria Beckham.
Too many teenagers are completely ignorant about nutrition, food preparation, and where their food comes from. It might seem a bit extreme to go vegan, but at least she is demonstrating awareness of these issues. It might be that she will find it too difficult, or restrictive, and give up of her own accord, but the sure fire way to make her more determined to do it is to ban it. I am grateful that my parents supported my choice at her age to be vegetarian, I was veggie for around 8 years. I stopped only when I went travelling and it became too difficult.0 -
The one supplement she will definitely need is B12, as there are no reliable, natural non-animal sources for this (a vegan B12 supplement will be synthetic). Other than that, I would strongly recommend the book Vegan For Life, which includes information on veganism at any stage on the lifecycle. Oh, and about proteins needing to be combined, research showed this to be untrue about 30 years ago--your body does need a variety of amino acids, but as long as you regularly consume a variety of food, there is no need to specifically combine proteins in a single meal.
I'm pretty sure Almond milk (at least the silk brand) has 50% of your daily value in B12 in just 1 cup)0 -
Red flag! A lot of teenagers (adults too) use the vegan diet as a cover up for an eating disorder. If she has an eating disorder or history of eating disorders you need to take her to a dietician and watch her like a hawk to make sure she is eating enough or flat-out say no.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2010/07/22/when-veganism-is-an-eating-disorder.html
I don't have an eating disorder lol0 -
I haven't had the time to read everything that has been said, but there is certainly some good info in this thread.
I am vegan and have been for 8 years now. The one thing I would say is try to avoid soya/soy products if you can. Fermented ones are ok, as they use the whole bean but the milks and other products only use part of the bean and thereby contain high levels of phyto estrogen which the body cannot process properly. This means there *could* be an elevated risk of breast cancer in the future. Its the same reson post menoposal women are told to use soya products as it is helpful then.
It can be hard but once she has switched and it used to it, it becomes a lot easier.
Good luck!
Uma x
actually none of this has been proven definatively and if you look at the people conducting these studies you'll find out it's from an interesting source..0 -
One of the biggest problems that all of us seem to have, diet irregardless, is not eating enough vegetables. Upping veggie intake is good for just about everyone.
I agree with all the other posters that say your daughter needs to be involved, understanding her nutrition needs and how to meet them.
Dreena Burton has several cookbooks out, and she is raising her children vegan.
Here is a link to her website that discusses recipes specifically for kids (I think Dreena's children are still in their singles, so some of this may be too young for your daughter, but it might have some useful insight for lunches, etc.)
http://plantpoweredkitchen.com/plant-powered-kids-vegan-children-at-school-and-packing-plant-powered-lunches/0 -
I'm sorry, but I'm absolutely adamant that if you need to take your vitamins in pill form that you can otherwise get from food, it is not a healthy diet.0
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There is nothing wrong with a vegan diet that is healthy and balanced.
ANY diet, vegan, vegetarian, or omni, can be a bad diet. Meat eaters don't automatically eat better than non meat eaters. I say this as a meat eater, who has been a veggie and also done dairy free. If her diet is based around fresh fruit and veg, with some protein from legumes and tofu, she could get calcium from calcium enriched almond milk, coconut milk or soy milkk. Quinoa is also a grain that contains some protein.
Get educated with your daughter, as some have said, and keep an eye on her that she is eating balanced meals, and enough calories for her growth needs. That way you are ensuring that it really is animal welfare that she wants to be vegan and not weight control or calorie restriction purposes, but as a youth worker, I was annoyed by the immediate assumption made by some that it was an eating disorder - not all teenage girls are teetering on the edge of anorexia, and they are capable of making choices based on ethical convictions, not just wanting to look like Victoria Beckham.
Too many teenagers are completely ignorant about nutrition, food preparation, and where their food comes from. It might seem a bit extreme to go vegan, but at least she is demonstrating awareness of these issues. It might be that she will find it too difficult, or restrictive, and give up of her own accord, but the sure fire way to make her more determined to do it is to ban it. I am grateful that my parents supported my choice at her age to be vegetarian, I was veggie for around 8 years. I stopped only when I went travelling and it became too difficult.
Good post, however, I only suggested to be aware of an eating disorder in my initial post because I became vegetarian in the midst of an eating disorder myself when I was a teenager. I told my family I was doing it for ethical reasons, and I honestly did (and do still) care a great deal about those reasons. But it also allowed me to cut a number of other foods out of my diet. I don't think all teenage girls are teetering on anorexia as you said, but I know it does happen sometimes, because it happened to me. I just wanted to make the OP aware of the possibility since no one else had mentioned it.0 -
I'm sorry, but I'm absolutely adamant that if you need to take your vitamins in pill form that you can otherwise get from food, it is not a healthy diet.
so I guess hardly anyone has a healthy diet since most people don't get enough vitamin D and have to take a supplement.0 -
I'm sorry, but I'm absolutely adamant that if you need to take your vitamins in pill form that you can otherwise get from food, it is not a healthy diet.
so I guess hardly anyone has a healthy diet since most people don't get enough vitamin D and have to take a supplement.0 -
If you check ' the china study', 'forks over knives', or 'fire engine2 diet' there is great info about vegan diet including recipes...0
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Smart Mom- My daughter also was a vegetarian for a few years. I would definitely take her to a doctor that will give the facts and options for both of you. The nutritional needs for a teen girl are different than an adult woman. Living a vegan diet is a lifestyle and takes work. If she is honestly committed due to convictions, I would make her do the research also on this lifestyle and make an agreement with you that she will only do this IF her nutritional needs are met. Supplementation can only go so far. Most of our nutritional needs must be met through diet for optimal health. I would not dissuade her but if she is mature enough to follow her convictions, she must also be mature enough to take the responsibility on living it in a healthy manner. This could be a great opportunity for her to learn very healthy habits young.0
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Well considering she's a young teenager, the worst thing you could do is outright forbid it. I would follow the advice of those on this thread that have encouraged you to seek out outside assistance in helping her have a healthy transition.
Also, make sure she keeps in mind all the hidden non-vegan products. Medicine in gel caps are a no-go. Obviously, leather shoes and purses. Cosmetics...0 -
I only suggested to be aware of an eating disorder in my initial post because I became vegetarian in the midst of an eating disorder myself when I was a teenager. I told my family I was doing it for ethical reasons, and I honestly did (and do still) care a great deal about those reasons. But it also allowed me to cut a number of other foods out of my diet. I don't think all teenage girls are teetering on anorexia as you said, but I know it does happen sometimes, because it happened to me. I just wanted to make the OP aware of the possibility since no one else had mentioned it.
Agreed, I suggested this not because if a young girl wants to go vegan it means she has an ED, but because EDs are by nature illusive and this is still a popular pro-ana tip out there. It was when I had an ED, and it probably always will be. My parents obviously didn't think "OMG my hippie pagan tree hugging daughter is suffering from anorexia" they thought "this is another symptom of my tree hugging hippie pagan daughter being weird when will this phase be over." I will say though that a parent being aware of what a vegan diet for their child SHOULD look like, they will be more likely to spot one that is for caloric restriction. But just because a teenager seems fine, healthy, or doesn't look or seem like they have an ED doesn't mean they do not. Even if this girl is developing or having eating problems: saying "No" or outright not supporting/trying to sabotage dietary choices (which my parents did) would NOT be a way to deal with it because EDs are often less about "losing weight" and about control and are coping mechanisms: so taking control away in this area will only hurt someone suffering from an ED unless you are actively on a rehab program.
And on the soy note, most people agree some kinds (fermented, whole bean, and more traditional forms) are good for you but it's more the amount of soy people eat that causes problems. Some people will be more sensitive than most - like any other food allergy. It's important to be aware of the issues surrounding soy consumption though so if you develop those symptoms you will know why instead of continuing on eating a food that is making you ill. (Same for nuts and people with nut allergies, though they tend to be deadly so most people wouldn't ignore that.)0 -
I have tried Vegan and I 100% fully support it (however, my bank account and dorm dining plan did not). I am a vegetarian (5 years) and have never once had heath issues with it. If you want a good vegan diet ideas and why it is good the book Skinny ***** is fabulous. There are so many soy, dairy-free alternatives that there really is no need to at least try it.
As long as protein is up enough (and as already a vegetarian I don't see that as being new problem if it is) there shouldn't be problems.0 -
Get a vegetarian b12 supplement from you health food store if you don't already have one and make sure it is definitely says methylcobalamin on the label. Nutritional yeast or "nooch" from the bulk bin at your local store as well if she doesn't already use it. It's also a good source of b12. Teach her to read the labels on food really well. Soy cheeses sometimes sneak in casein. Educate her, let her know that just because a product like earth balance is vegan friendly it is still composed of saturated fat.0
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