Hubby wants to go to marriage counseling

HOORAY!!!!! Hold him to that, find a Christian counselor (I say that because some of the others will not really try to keep your marriage together) Make that appointment and HOLD HIM TO IT. Try a counselor search through Focus on the Family (which is also a great place to read articles on marriage, child rearing etc.)

Praying for you. This is really awesome news.

Well, if he wants to go to marriage counseling, then maybe he is looking to fix things. Hopefully he isn't looking for someone to tell him that his point of view is right. But I would take the wanting to do marriage counseling as a positive thing on his part. Of course, i have one failed marriage behind me because I didn't want my kids growing up in a house with so much contention (my parents didn't divorce and i used to beg my dad to leave my mom - so I guess there are two sides), and now I have a good marriage to a great man, but still takes a lot of work...so what do I know. I certainly hope things work out for you. Don't let the stress eat at you too badly.

Yeah, I agree... I'd give it a shot. What do you have to lose? And counselers, therapists, psychologists, etc. aren't so bad. If you find a good fit then they can really help in a bad situation.

You will be in my thoughts! :flowerforyou:

KB

That's a great start for patching things up.
Good luck & I hope it works out for you :flowerforyou:

This is totally something I can't even give advice on. It's such a personal choice. I see what you mean about the girls having their dad around..... but if he is a good dad, he'll be around for the girls anyway, that doesnt mean you have to stay with him if you don't want to/ don't trust him. What he's done to you may be forgivable, or it may not be, but that is your choice. If I were you, I'd seek counseling on my own too, or first to get a grip on how you feel about everything. good luck! :flowerforyou:

I'm new here and really shouldn't be putting in my two cents, but I have been through this. I was married to my EX husband for less than a year before I got pregnant with my daughter. I did almost the entire pregnancy thing alone, because my "newlywed" husband had a girlfriend at work. He was never home, when he was he was insulting me and screaming at me, really bad situation. I tried to stay and work it out because I was about to give birth to our daughter, but it just didn't work, hints the word ex husband. Everyone is different and I do believe people can change, but I can't change and I know I would have never trusted anything he said ever again. I think peace of mind is worth everything. He is still a great father to our daughter and I believe she is better off without seeing us fight all of the time.
GTO, you never know what's around the corner. I was devasted when my marriage ended almost as quickly as it started, but now I'm so thankful. I have a great man in my life now that treats my daughter as if she were his. I truly believe everything happens for a reason.:flowerforyou:

Good luck! You are in my thoughts.

Good luck to you in whatever you decide to do. I hope everything works out for you and your daughters.

Heres hoping whatever u do is the right thing.

Hi GTO!

Sounds like a good thing...marriage counseling saved my Son's marriage...he puts the phone on speaker when they call and they sound really happy now...the girls serve him tea in their little play dishes and there is alot of giggling in the background.

It is difficult...if he is sincere he can make amends to you by changing his behavior...and if you want it to work you will truly have to forgive...you have to learn to trust again and just let the past go...you guys can't be on each others tail all the time with, where are you going, who will you be with, or checking up on each other all the time...if you start having gut feelings that he is blowing it again, don't discuss it with him, it will start trouble, just do your research and make your decision.

Take care and all the best to you!

I think counseling is a good thing, I'm all for it. I just have one question IF YOU DIDN'T HAVE KIDS TOGETHER, DO YOU LOVE HIM ENOUGH TO TRY AND SAVE THE RELATIONSHIP AND DOES HE LOVE YOU ENOUGH TO NOT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN.

To me LOVE is the real answer. I know you don't stop loving someone over night no matter what they may do to hurt you. But this has been going on for awhile, with the not helping around the house and making you feel like you started the fights, etc.... Now over that time, has the love faded or do you still feel the same way about him. I think these are questions a counselor may ask. So you might want to start thinking about what your answers will be. It's great to stay together for the children but really in the end, tensions will flare up again, fights wiill happen and the kids will know something's wrong. Children are more perceptive than we give them credit for. If you are miserable then your children will be too. Just make sure the love is there or it will never work. Just my 2 cents.

Wow! That's eating crow for him! I would go for it! It can't hurt and it might even heal a few wounds.


Good luck honey!

its worth a try to do I always say....

I told you mine cheated years ago and we worked it out. I will never forget but now he does not give me a reason to doubt him. If I ask where he is going he tells me and is where he said. But it is still hard to forget. Go with your heart. This has to be what you want. :flowerforyou:

I wish you the best with everything, and I admire that you are willing to try to work thru this for your kids. It is not an easy thing to do. However it all turns out, you will be at peace, because you will know you did all you could do.:flowerforyou: