Vent

JB5349
JB5349 Posts: 135 Member
in Fitness and Exercise
I weigh 220 lbs, at my heaviest I was closing in on 280 lbs. Well today I went to the gym and Mr Musclehead and his Skinny Bimbet made comments about me working out, I get that I am fat, I get that I may disgust more than that I am sorry that I did not have my ipod louder. Then maybe I would not have heard you! I wish that it did not give a khrap what you think. The fact that you think you have the right to make any comment about what I look like hurts my feelings.

Nevermind that I am working at making a difference for myself, for my health and that when I started I was only able to do bicept curls with 2.5 lbs and now I can do them with 15lbs. Thanks for taking the wind out of my sails and make things really hard for me, trust me I already have issues looking at myself in the mirror, I know that I am fat your comments don't help.


So next time keep it to yourself

For all of you that are working out and do have the ideal bodies or the ones that I dream of having please always be kind :blushing:
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  • JB5349
    JB5349 Posts: 135 Member
    And for those I have offended I am sorry I really did not think about what I wrote - I guess I am labelling everyone else too - my apologies!
  • Poods71
    Poods71 Posts: 502 Member
    These people are morons and hopefully Karma will sort them out. You are doing a great job and don't let idiots like that make you feel bad. Keep up what you are doing and one day they will be looking at you wondering if they could ever be that fit :flowerforyou:
  • Cdn_Dot
    Cdn_Dot Posts: 53 Member
    I am so sorry this happened to you. This is exactly the reason that people are afraid to work out at a gym! I'm lucky not to have experienced this out right. It may have happened but I didn't notice, of course the trainers and instructors are just so happy to see me that if they noticed I think that person may have been spoken too. Right now my membership is at a gym known locally for being "serious" and not just a pick up/social event place. I just need to show up more often :embarassed:
  • shabaity
    shabaity Posts: 792 Member
    ignore them they are idiots and not worth a second thought
  • farmwife3815
    farmwife3815 Posts: 326 Member
    I am so sorry that happened. People can be real jerks sometimes. Do Not let the under your skin! Eleanor Roosevelt once said "No one can make you feel in-superior without your permission." I have claimed this as one of my motto's. You have started a journey that most won't even attempt. You are doing it! You've lost 60 lbs! That's amazing and something you should be very proud of. I know it hurt your feelings. Just remember that people that say mean things usually are not happy with themselves and so they try to make others just as miserable as they are. You got this and your already beautiful so let the Skinny Bimbet and Mr Musclehead go suck on that for awhile!! Chin up Buttercup!! You got this!!
  • Cdn_Dot
    Cdn_Dot Posts: 53 Member
    I'm in agreeance with Poods71 and shabaity. Keep at it!
  • Feisty_Red
    Feisty_Red Posts: 982 Member
    report them to your gym people!!! Screw that...I doubt your gym wants people around like that!!!!!!! Its not tattling..its getting rid of scum!!

    Oooow..this boils my blood to no end..
  • laserturkey
    laserturkey Posts: 1,680 Member
    You may be heavy right now, but you are working on that. They will likely always be jerks.
  • farmwife3815
    farmwife3815 Posts: 326 Member
    You may be heavy right now, but you are working on that. They will likely always be jerks.



    My Mom always told me that I may be heavy but people that picked on me were ugly/ stupid (their behavior) and I could lose weight if I wanted but you can't change ugly and you can't fix stupid!!! Just had to add my two cents!!
  • Awkward30
    Awkward30 Posts: 1,927 Member
    That is awful! At my gym, they've had a few weight loss contests, so we are all rooting for the people with more to lose. I actually find it appalling that anyone would look down on someone taking the steps to change their life. If I even witnessed such a thing, I'd speak up to defend the person.

    Basically, your gym sucks. Come work out with me!
  • 126siany
    126siany Posts: 1,386 Member
    I'm sorry that you had to go through this today. Or ever, for that matter.

    There are a lot more people at the gym who are impressed that you had the courage to start a fitness plan, thrilled you've kept at it and who are silently cheering you on. How do I know this? Because I am one of them.
  • Kellybeth16
    Kellybeth16 Posts: 57 Member
    People suck! You are doing a great job, don't let anybody make you feel differently. Keep up the great work, you look awesome!
  • nerissag
    nerissag Posts: 8
    That's terrible. As a mother I would be mortified if one of my children behaved that way toward another human being.

    Keep your chin held high and work toward your goals. You are worth it. You deserve your self respect. I try (I'll confess I don't always succeed) to ask myself in situations like that "Will I care in 5 years about..... (insert whatever you're dealing with)? If my answer is no I do my best to put it in perspective and not let it bother me.

    You are worth all the love you are giving yourself. Try to keep the bad thoughts at bay and keep focusing on your goals. Slow and steady wins the race!

    Much love your way.
  • njmp
    njmp Posts: 277 Member
    ****. What jerkheads....you are doing great!!!
    If it EVER happens again (and I sincerely hope it DOES NOT) try and screw up the courage to say something...people like that need to be shamed into feeling bad for hurting others. Say it nice and loud so other people hear t...you won't be the only one appalled at their disgusting behaviour.

    Keep at it girl, you've got this!!!
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    Wow.

    What f*cktards.

    Seriously.

    Don't let a couple of *kitten* hats take the wind out of your sails. YOU know where you started from, where you are now and where you plan on being. That's the only thing that matters. They're just morons who think that making fun of someone else is awesome and it boosts their ego.

    ETA: What the poster above me said about saying something to them. Nothing more embarrassing then getting called out on the carpet.

    :explode:
  • Thundermountain
    Thundermountain Posts: 20
    OK. So that is completely the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. I am so sorry to heart this happened to you. Would have loved to have been there to jump down their throats.

    Dont let them get you down.
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    I'm sorry you had to deal with rude people. People will say all sorts of things to make themselves feel higher than others. It really doesn't matter if it's about their weight, the brand of clothes they're wearing, how they look, breathe, work out, etc. It's never nice but it's never going to stop. It's more a reflection of their inner ugly than anything about you.

    Don't let anyone bring you down. Do what you do for you, and do it hard and with great spirit. You are getting stronger both inside and out. There will always be lobsters in a bucket trying to drag you down.
  • Barbellsandthimbles
    Barbellsandthimbles Posts: 205 Member
    Good for you for your weight loss!! 60lbs is outstanding. As far as the two jerks...I know it hurts but they don't matter. They don't understand your struggles and your achievements. Obviously, they don't seem like the type of people who would care to hear them either. I'm so sorry you had to hear that and I'm even sorry that it will make you cringe the next time you go into the gym and see them. Do your best to push their comments aside and keep on keeping on! You're doing wonderfully!
  • BCSMama
    BCSMama Posts: 348
    I'm sorry that you had to go through this today. Or ever, for that matter.

    There are a lot more people at the gym who are impressed that you had the courage to start a fitness plan, thrilled you've kept at it and who are silently cheering you on. How do I know this? Because I am one of them.

    me too :-)
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
    Mean people suck, and they're everywhere. Gym, Grocery store, restaraunts, etc. . . Thing is your "flaw" is one that you are working to improve and make better. (I used quotations because being overweight isn't a FLAW, it's a fact for some and you are addressing it.) But their FLAW is being snobby, pigheaded, and prideful. . .those are flaws they will likely live the rest of their lives with and inflict on many more than just you.

    Be proud of the accomplishments you've already made and be proud that you are working hard to become a healthier you! And, when you're rocking your goal weight you can mentally flip them off!!! ;-)
  • Barbellsandthimbles
    Barbellsandthimbles Posts: 205 Member
    ****. What jerkheads....you are doing great!!!
    If it EVER happens again (and I sincerely hope it DOES NOT) try and screw up the courage to say something...people like that need to be shamed into feeling bad for hurting others. Say it nice and loud so other people hear t...you won't be the only one appalled at their disgusting behaviour.

    Keep at it girl, you've got this!!!


    agreed!
  • berryjk
    berryjk Posts: 120
    Any time I see someone on the heavier side at the gym my first thought is NEVER "ewww"!! I think that is it totally awesome that they are taking the first step towards getting healthy! My younger sister is close to 300lbs and she refuses to ever join a gym again because of the very same reason you are venting today! it makes me sick that people do this because others like my sister NEED to work out for their health!
  • sherrybayers
    sherrybayers Posts: 1
    Do not let their stupidity and plain rudeness stop you or get to you...I know words are very hurtful but people like that don't matter. You are on a spectacular journey and you are making your life healthier so keep remembering that. If that had happened to me I am afraid I would walked right up to them and asked them why they felt they had the right to judge me. I would have put them on the spot, but that is just me, I have no time for idiots. I also would have been loud enough so others would hear, put the humiliation on them where it belongs. You know what they say about Karma.......wonder what they will look like in 20 years! It takes all kinds you know....chin up, you are beautiful on the inside AS WELL AS the outside:)
  • Knee2010
    Knee2010 Posts: 10
    CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU FOR LOSING 60 POUNDS SO FAR!!! And don't let those jerks discourage you, you keep on doing what you are doing to get yourself healthier. We should all be here (and at the gym) helping each other, not knocking somone down.
  • Sox90716
    Sox90716 Posts: 976 Member
    F#$k 'em and drive on!
  • LyssaJ1
    LyssaJ1 Posts: 240 Member
    report them to your gym people!!! Screw that...I doubt your gym wants people around like that!!!!!!! Its not tattling..its getting rid of scum!!

    Oooow..this boils my blood to no end..

    ^^ This! I sooo agree!

    Everyone has to start from somewhere and they should be thankful for your business!

    Be good to you :smile:
  • ilyahna
    ilyahna Posts: 96 Member
    Screw those guys.

    If you ever hear someone say something like that again at your gym, rip your headphones out, turn around, and tell them if they have a problem they need to say it to your face! Then tell them what you think!

    I remember back in the day when I pretended I didn't hear people when they made fun of me. I got tired of it, and people that talk behind your back never expect to be confronted. It's a good feeling to see the looks on their faces when you stand up for yourself.

    You're doing great, and you should be proud of yourself!
  • RavenhairedWoman
    RavenhairedWoman Posts: 661 Member
    I am sorry that this happened to you! I am in similar shoes to you but a bit further to go. I use to get all twisted about what people might be thinking about me working out, sweating and panting my way around the gym. I finally just decided that I needed to be more positive. I don't care what other people think. They might think that I am fat, who cares? They might think that I don't look good, who cares? This is about me, for me, and I know that no matter how long it takes me to get there I will get fit and healthy. But I'm not doing it for them so why care what they think? And to be honest if people aren't jerks they are most likely to be thinking "look at you girl, good job being here working out!" I would rather have someone looking at me kicking my own *kitten* in the gym than sitting at a restaurant stuffing my face with unhealthy things. :)

    So keep it up, hit that gym and own it every time. You will get to your goal as long as you stay hungry for it. Don't let the cruel comments of small people hold you back!
  • totallydevious
    totallydevious Posts: 309 Member
    I am sorry that happened to you, honey, that is just mean, people really suck sometimes.
    I guess that is one of the many reason, I workout at home, people can be really hurtful.
    Keep your head up. :flowerforyou:
  • ekburnet
    ekburnet Posts: 44 Member
    You have lost 60 pounds! YOU ROCK! You have much to be proud of. The nay sayers at the gym may look good on the outside, but are ugly inside.

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